Lexi started kindergarten this year. She had a couple minor problems at the beginning of the year, and the teacher and I discussed them and came up with some solutions.
The past couple weeks, she has been having a much harder time. Both at school and at home. She is having pee accidents, often multiple times a day, at school and at home. She is very violent,and has hit teachers and her sister. Monday I had to go pick her up at school because she was throwing a tantrum and they couldnt get her on the bus. Today I had to get on the bus to get her off because she kept hitting her sister, and the bus driver had to pull the bus over and move her to another seat because she wouldn't stop.
DH keeps trying to tell my oldest that she needs to hit her back :( And my oldest is to gentle of a soul to do it,not that I want her too, but I also dont want her to be bullied by her little sister. I have been fighting him since I was pregnant with Kamille that we will not be using corporal punishment, and he thinks that if he could just spank Lexi that she would start listening. He says "some kids listen when you talk, and others dont" He says he was the same way when he was a kid and that he knows that spanking is the only thing that made him shape up and start listening. He also had ADHD and was put on medication for it, but that couldn't have had anything to do with it according to him. I have tried numerous times to discuss a set even discipline plan in out house, because it is obviously not agreed upon at the moment. He is just determined that my way is not going to work, and although he does not hit or spank the children, does yell a lot more than me. I am wanting to get her into behavioral therapy and work with the therapist to develop a plan of action, but basically DH will not agree to anything but spanking, and will not change anything he is doing.
With the wetting, I am trying not to make a big deal of it, and wanted to think that it was a medical issue, but she will tell her teachers at school that she doesn't need to go to the bathroom, because I packed extra clothes. Her teacher and I have discussed that is is not healthy to pee on herself, and to always try to use the bathroom when the class goes. She has no problem waking up at night to go potty, but has frequent daytime accidents. She also either has an accident on the bus or cant make it down the driveway in time almost every day now.
So, I know that there is alot in this post, but I really need help with this. I am more concerned with getting her help than anything else, and while DH wont change his approach, he will just let me handle discipline for awhile if he feels that it is working, and then maybe in time will adjust his approach. So I am only seeking advice for how to help her, not about my husband. Thank you