My DD is almost 3-years-old (exactly 33 months today, actually) and my DS is 4-months-old. My DH is their primary caregiver since I work full-time (from home).
DD has been very challenging lately--more tantrums, whining, just not obeying, etc. DH has something of a short fuse, and occasionally he gets so mad that he spanks her. I empathize with him--she drives me so crazy sometimes too!--but we've agreed that spanking is not something we want to do. When he does it and I get mad at him about it, he always says that it works and asks me what the consequence for her misbehavior should be instead. I really have no answer for him.
What are some consequences I can suggest to my husband so he doesn't resort to spanking (very rare) or yelling at DD (common)?
I know the best approach is to tailor the consequence to the "crime," and we do do this when we can think of a matching consequence. But what should be the consequence, for instance, when her screaming wakes up DS? That's what happened today, making DH furious (she was supposed to be napping, so her misbehavior meant he missed out on his coveted "both kids napping at once" time), causing him to spank her, and causing me to post here today.