So I was reading a couple threads on the SAH boards, and got to thinking that everyone is saying we're tired, overwhelmed, etc. what if part of the reason why is because we're not eating well, and because we're not taking time for ourselves?
Here's what I recently changed, and has helped me a lot:
1. I went gluten, corn, and soy free. This change ALONE brought me 100% more energy, and a lot less physical problems (tummy aches, gas, inflammation, depression yeast infections). Going corn-free helped with my chronic (read: lifelong) depression and mood issues.
2. Increasing fats and protein. For me, this involved eating more animal products. I have some great sources of local meat, dairy, and eggs. Raw dairy has helped a lot with my bowel and seasonal/ dust allergy issues, although I have to be careful to not over-indulge, as it's SO delicious (too much dairy still bothers me, although I've been able to increase my intake since I switched to raw milk). I never liked milk as a kid, but the raw goat milk I get from a close neighbor is so good I drink it right from the jar.
3. Eating raw/almost raw/lightly cooked foods. I eat a lot of produce, as my husband's family owns an organic farm. When it's in season (as it is now, yay!) I freeze and can whatever I can get my hands on. I make raw tomato sauce and salsa and freeze it, so that when I use it mid-winter, it tastes just like summertime again :) If you can't afford to buy organic, find a gleaners to be part of. For a couple hours of work (and sometimes none if you have health or other issues) you can get fresh, local, and sometimes organic produce. Freeze it, it's healthier and faster and cheaper than canning.
4. I know that all sounds like a lot of work, but the gains have been SO amazing I'll never go back. I love cooking, so that helps :)
5. I told my husband that I HAD to have a few hours a week to myself. Since I can now leave my daughter overnight (after more than two years, yay!) sometimes I stay overnight in town after going to see music with friends. DH also gets time to himself too. And our parents, in order to help us save our marriage (we were separated for a few months this year) have agreed to watch our kids overnight a couple times a month so that we can have a date night :)
6. Appreciate your husband and tell him often. Even if all he ever does is take out the trash, tell him thank you, and give him a big smack on the lips while you're at it. He'll love it, and he'll want to earn more ;) I think that sometimes, it's easy to get caught in the cycle of 'he gets to go to work and talk to grown-ups all day!' My DH can even drink a beer with lunch if he wants because of where he works. But really, we are so lucky to get to be with our kids, even if it is the hardest thing we've ever done. They are so precious, and they have such unique personalities. Plus, it really does fly by. I can't believe Thanksgiving is only a couple months away!
7. I write. Whenever I can! Sometimes I stay up until 3am just so I can write. DH sleeps with DD in case she wakes, and I drink mead and write, write, write. I pay for it the next day, but it's worth it for the emotional boost I get that lasts for days :) Find the thing that does that for you.
8. I wake my husband up sometimes in the middle of the night for bootie. We both go back to sleep more quickly and more happily. And it's so worth the energy output. Sometimes he gets up with the kids and lets me sleep in as a way to say he enjoyed me doing that :)
I realize I have a lot of advantages, but I think that most people could implement these things. Also, I don't want to sound patronizing. I went through hell the past few years, and now that I'm coming out of it, I'm able to see more clearly what I could have done differently. I just want to share some of that.
What have you done/could you do to make your SAH life easier?
Edited by BabyMae09 - 9/21/11 at 1:56pm