I will say the PDD_NOS may or may not stay with him as he ages or it may morph into a different, yet more appropriate dx as he and his needs change over time.
One of my DDs had a PDD_NOS dx at 3. She was struggling daily to cope and it opened up services to her.(she also had a few other dx) We did OT, PT, feeding therapy, and sensory diet/auditory training. Looking on paper (and back from 3 yrs later) it was intense and a lot of intervention. She had an IEP as well.
BUT now at age 6- she is quirky, but would not likely get a dx of PDD_NOS. She has developed fantastic language skills (before a lot of high vocabulary and receptive, by expressive was echo-y or sometimes inappropriate), good coping skills in place, and she has learned how to work through some of her anxieties.
Is she still atypical. YES. We could be looking at an Asperger Dx down the line- but she is in a 1st grade classroom and doing well.
As far as books: I read a lot of books- read through and take what you like from each. Going through a wide variety of books will help you form a solid idea on what works for you and your family vs a single book.
Sometimes if people asked- I would say yes, she has a PDD_NOS dx. You would be surprised at how many people ask because they may see similar behaviors in their own children and are seeking information on how best to help them or find resources.
As per the allergies- have you seen an allergist? Both my DD had terrible allergies, excema, asthma. We did allergy shots and as nasty as they were- they really made a big difference for our family at least.
I know that our school does snack checks for allergies (there is a severe peanut allergy in the class as well as a topical dairy allergy). This is with Elem. level. In our preschools it was even more cautious since kiddos were not always familiar with what they are allergic to and how they react. Some reactions are so fast and/or kids dont recognize them. Have you talked to the school? Would they have a one on one or a nurse work with him? I only ask because the school preschool program was one of the BEST therapies for my DD. OT & PT came to her, she had peer models, and a fantastic teacher that really worked with her. For us, at least, it was one of the best things we could have done for her. It was a part time program, but really made a big difference. Her communication skills and social skills took a giant leap forward. Group skills/social dynamics are so different than one on one therapy or adult-child therapy.
Edited by KCMichigan - 9/22/11 at 10:43am