My daughter is 21 months, and has always had strong emotions - the last couple weeks however seem like she is fussy/whiney ALL day. Its hard to call them tantrums, but it mostly happens if I don't get or do something for her right away, or ask her to do or go somewhere and she doesn't want to and she instantly starts crying. It takes her awhile to stop. I feel like with my older son, while I had moments of impatience throughout the day - I was really able to stay calm, offer him empathy and put words to his emotions. I don't know if its just lack of energy from my pregnancy - but with my daughter I feel so impatient about her crying. I am hearing it from the minute I wake up to when she goes to bed, and so many times it feels like "for no good reason" (even though I know this isn't fair to think about it that way), and a lot of times I tell her mean things like "okay, that's enough" or "you don't even know why you are crying" because I feel so annoyed by it.
Anyone with a more fussy/emotional/expressive toddler? how do you deal with constant outbursts? I really need to work on more patience with her - but I don't even know where to start. Feeling like a lame mom lately with her.