She has epic tantrums where she pulls her hair out or scratches at her throat or hits herself in the head or bangs her head against the wall/sofa. She has become picky about eating, and honestly it's so much harder to feed her now that DS is here because I can't really trust her with anything messy in the living room. So her diet is not great, due to what I offer, but also due to what she will accept.
Lately her poops have been awful-- stinky, loose-- and today she had a VERY loose poop that oozed out of the dipe, down her leg, soaked her pants, and got tracked ALL through her room and the hall before I noticed it was "leaking". Basically I spent an hour cleaning her up and the diarrhea on her bedroom carpet. I had to put her in the tub and she was distraught. Every time we wipe her she FREAKS OUT. She refuses to go on the potty and has a major meltdown if we try.
Usually when she wakes up from her nap and sees me with the baby she immediately starts to cry. Hard. And then won't let me hug her or near her. She wants to watch TV. She's been watching so much TV lately so I can get the baby to sleep without her running in and screeching and annoying him/waking him. (Her noise *really* seems to bother him, especially when he's nursing or tired. He just hasn't "gotten used to the noise" in the house like everyone said he would.) The TV thing is out of control, but I don't know how to stop it. We have little to no backyard for her, we live in a hilly condo complex with nowhere to walk, nowhere for her to run around and burn off steam. But if we even try to get her to walk to the mailbox she'll have a meltdown and cry or demand to be carried. (By DH, not me. And she won't go in a baby carrier.)
I'm worried something in her diet is causing these weird poops. I'm worried she is detached from me and I'll never get her back. I'm worried she's unhappy and believes I don't love her. I tell her I love her so many times, I try to hug her...and just get rejected every single time.
But my DS is 15 weeks and fairly high needs himself. So I do need to give him a lot of my time. I'm a SAHM and DH works full time and has a pretty long commute. With the way things are I haven't had the courage to leave the house with the two kids alone.
I'm worried something irrevocable is happening to her and me. We used to be SO CLOSE, and she was SO HAPPY in May, just before DS came.
Any advice is greatly appreciated.