i was wondering if i could get some advice on what to do.
i recently read the article, "no more junk toys" here at mothering, and was inspired to try to broach the subject with family for these holidays and my baby's first birthday coming up in february.
she's 7 months old. i haven't gotten to know her dad's family very well. just met them after she was born. of course they want to shower her with all kinds of stuff, and they already have, somewhat.
her dad/my partner, feels that we should really spend christmas eve with his mom and her parents because it would mean a lot to them. neither he nor i are christians or very embroiled in christmas. he is ok with going with the flow, i want to create our own thing.
i agreed to see them for c-mas eve, and asked him if i could please talk to his family about what kinds of presents would be good to give the baby, and he's becoming increasingly resistant to me even bringing it up. he says he respects my world view but he doesn't think it's right to tell someone what kind of gift they should give our child.
his stepmother, who also loves the baby, is much more open to my ideas.
i haven't broached the subject with my own family yet, so maybe this makes me a bit hypocritical, but at the same time, i feel my family are less likely to buy a boat-load of plastic stuff made in china from wal-mart and call it christmas.
how have other moms/dads dealt with similar issues? any ideas out there?