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post #21 of 118

Ada let me sleep for EIGHT hours! joy.gif  She nursed, I changed her diaper, and she is crashed out again. love.gif

post #22 of 118
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Ladies I totally effed up my upper back!  PSA - don't wear you almost 13 lb baby in a one shouldered ring sling for a 2 mile walk.  I can't even move my head back and forth, it's awful.  I slept last night on my back on a heating pad and have been slamming ibuprofen and I'm STILL in pain. Hmm, maybe I need another shower massage from DH...winky.gif

 

So, I haven't heard from my mw about my 6 wk appt.  What gives?  I want to be checked out and cleared.  Did you guys start DTD without clearance first?  Or did you wait?

 

 

 

 

post #23 of 118
I hope your back feels better quickly. You can wear a baby in a ring sling comfortably if you fan it across your back. If it's bunched up, it will hurt you (as you now know).

We started DTD on day 15. innocent.gif My midwife asked me at my 6 wk appt if we were back at it. No worries. I have to say it gets better every time. Last night was... um... *really* nice for me. ;-)
post #24 of 118
Carrie: that totally sucks about your back. I hope you feel better soon!


Skye: I can't wait to hear how your iud placement goes. I'm still waffling a little on the decision. Part of me wants to wait until I'm sure AF has truly returned, but I really don't want to risk an "oops" again. I got preg after my 1st ppaf after only dtd 1 time after ds1 was born. I totally wasn't ready! Unfortunately, I lost that baby greensad.gif, but I don't want to o through that again. Oh, what to do...

Jill: I totally love your dolls! So creepy...and awesome!

Afm: we're still a bunch of sickies around here. I'm up to my eyeballs in snot! I'm really over it, but I guess we all just need to let it run it's course. Dh went to his 20year hs reunion last night without me. He didn't want me to take Alexander and I refused to leave him at home, so I didn't go. Kind of irritating, but whatever. The kids and I spent the evening at my mom's house. Ds1 got to paint and play with grandma. He had a great time and I got some help. I typically dont enjoy spending a whole lot of time with my mom, but it was actually nice.

My FIL just found out on thursday that he needed open heart bypass surgery. The surgery is happening this morning. Dh has been very worked up over it, which I don't blame him for, his dad is in terrible healthndue to a lifetime of poor eating habits and little to no activity. I'm very worried myself about how this will end. Wish us luck!
post #25 of 118
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Ladies I totally effed up my upper back!  PSA - don't wear you almost 13 lb baby in a one shouldered ring sling for a 2 mile walk.  I can't even move my head back and forth, it's awful.  I slept last night on my back on a heating pad and have been slamming ibuprofen and I'm STILL in pain. Hmm, maybe I need another shower massage from DH...winky.gif

 

So, I haven't heard from my mw about my 6 wk appt.  What gives?  I want to be checked out and cleared.  Did you guys start DTD without clearance first?  Or did you wait?

 

 

 

 


I was told to wait until I stopped bleeding. I did a solo orgasm test to make sure that it didn't hurt, didn't stop bleeding and nothing fell off. Then we were golden :)

 

post #26 of 118

SouthernStormy, I live in the city and am always amazed to get no trick or treaters. This makes me sad because I love to pass out candy. 

 

mamamerle, congrats on being over the cold. Pumped breast milk is definitely liquid gold. 6 oz spilled is heartbreaking.

 

Peony, thanks. We love our sons names together, but the name Gabriel was a name that it was hard to use because a friend of mine loves the name, wants to use it someday herself and has negative feelings about our using the name. But we used it, anyway, because the name is meaningful to DH for personal reasons and we felt it was the perfect name for our DS.

 

When your DD2 is sick with pneumonia, how do you protect the other children while caring for your DD? I feel like there's not much I can do to protect DS2 from his brother. And it's heart breaking to see DS1 so sick.


mamamerle, congrats on a good night's sleep!

 

BabyCakes, I hope your back feels better. Back pain sucks! And we haven't DTD yet, but we've also been ill in my house.
 

egmaranian, I hope everyone in your household gets better soon. Illness is no fun. My thoughts and prayers are with you regarding your FIL. May all go well. hug2.gif

 

Edited by PoetryLover - 9/25/11 at 8:14pm
post #27 of 118
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Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes View Post

Ladies I totally effed up my upper back!  PSA - don't wear you almost 13 lb baby in a one shouldered ring sling for a 2 mile walk.  I can't even move my head back and forth, it's awful.  I slept last night on my back on a heating pad and have been slamming ibuprofen and I'm STILL in pain. Hmm, maybe I need another shower massage from DH...winky.gif

 

So, I haven't heard from my mw about my 6 wk appt.  What gives?  I want to be checked out and cleared.  Did you guys start DTD without clearance first?  Or did you wait?

 

 

 

 



We dtd before I saw the mw the 2nd time. I felt ready for it, so didn't see the need to wait for somebody else to tell me it was ok.

post #28 of 118

Peony - I know about the halloween costumes being expensive!  I'm probably gonna end up spending 50 bucks between the two of mine, which I think is crazy for two cheaply made costumes, ya know.  I gotta figure out quickly what they are going to be too b/c I have to order mine online b/c there is no where to shop out here in the middle of nowhere.  I think DD1 has decided on being a mermaid...I've actually found one costume thats a mermaid that has long sleeves and goes to the floor so she wont freeze her tail off going trick or treating.  I so wanted Ada to be a cupcake but they are all sold out of her size...im so mad!  Hopefully it'll come back in stock soon!

 

Carrie - So sorry about your back, hope u feel better soon!  We DTD at about 3 and half weeks pp.  All the doc told me was to wait til I stopped bleeding but I was still spotting just a little bit when we did. 

 

Hope everybody dealing with colds and such feel better soon!

 

Mamamerle - Yay for sleep!  I've gotten my Ada to go for 6 hours a couple nights and it's so nice.  I can't wait for that morning when I wake up in panic and realize she slept through the night and she's still okay.

 

AFM, I've started my first pp period which I mentioned before but dang I have never bled so bad in my life!  I'm freakin out!  If this doesn't lighten up by tomorrow I'll be making a call to my ob/gyn.  I woke up last night and could feel that there was blood everywhere, so I got up and grabbed a pair of undies and headed off to the bathroom.  When I stood up it felt like blood poured out of me.  I got to the bathroom and the pad I had on was completely soaked.  I mean the entire pad to the edges was soaked in blood.  I've never bled like that.  Even right after having Ada my bleeding wasn't as bad as that.  It's still pretty heavy now but not as bad as early this morning.  I've tried to take it easy and not do much today especially pick up DD1.  I dont know what else to do other than take it easy.  I thought about making DH take me to the ER b/c I was a little bit lightheaded this morning but I've since laid down and taken a little nap and I feel better.  Although everytime I stand up I feel a little gush come out. 

 

Anybody have any other advice as to what I can do or take to help???

post #29 of 118

So I finally had my 6 week check up with my MW.  Babe will be almost 8...so we are a little late.  She had a marathon of births so it had to get pushed back.  We discussed NFP and she was mentioning to me that it would be difficult to chart because it required 5 solid hours of sleep and temping at the same time every day which can be difficult to do with a newborn.  She basically was wondering if we had back up plans.  I'd still like to try and chart and see how it goes regardless of the amount of sleep I get.

 

We have no Halloween plans as of yet.  Our town has a street fair but I haven't really considered taking him out.  We might just dress up and hand out candy here.  If we do that I saw this really cute costume where DS would be a lobster and I would be a chef and I would put him in a large stock pot and carry him around.  I thought it was so cute (if he would tolerate it)

 

AFM:  Pretty healthy here (Praise the Lord).  I've finally solidified my decision to only go back to work part time 1-2 days a week for a few hours a day 4-6 and stay locally instead of traveling.  We feel that although we will not meet our goal of paying off my student loan this year it will still be in Rafe's best interest to have his mommy around most of the time.  I'm feeling good about that.  I can go back full time when he's a year or more and knock out that debt!

post #30 of 118
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AFM, I've started my first pp period which I mentioned before but dang I have never bled so bad in my life!  I'm freakin out!  If this doesn't lighten up by tomorrow I'll be making a call to my ob/gyn.  I woke up last night and could feel that there was blood everywhere, so I got up and grabbed a pair of undies and headed off to the bathroom.  When I stood up it felt like blood poured out of me.  I got to the bathroom and the pad I had on was completely soaked.  I mean the entire pad to the edges was soaked in blood.  I've never bled like that.  Even right after having Ada my bleeding wasn't as bad as that.  It's still pretty heavy now but not as bad as early this morning.  I've tried to take it easy and not do much today especially pick up DD1.  I dont know what else to do other than take it easy.  I thought about making DH take me to the ER b/c I was a little bit lightheaded this morning but I've since laid down and taken a little nap and I feel better.  Although everytime I stand up I feel a little gush come out. 

 

Anybody have any other advice as to what I can do or take to help???


How many weeks out are you?  That doesn't sound right to me, I'm sorry to say.  Did you get in touch with your ob?

 

 

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AFM:  Pretty healthy here (Praise the Lord).  I've finally solidified my decision to only go back to work part time 1-2 days a week for a few hours a day 4-6 and stay locally instead of traveling.  We feel that although we will not meet our goal of paying off my student loan this year it will still be in Rafe's best interest to have his mommy around most of the time.  I'm feeling good about that.  I can go back full time when he's a year or more and knock out that debt!


Congrats on making the decision about work!  I have to get on that myself.  I have to meet with my boss and break the news to her that I'm not returning.  UGH it makes me nervous.  I feel bad about it!!

 

My back is doing better!  Thanks for the well wishes.  Quite a pain though to have a pulled/stiff muscle!  I won't make that mistake again.

 

I went out to Target with DD and got her a few things for her birthday.  She's going to be 3 next Sunday.  Where has the time gone?  I also got jeans that fit (WOO HOO) and some tshirts for myself.  I'm tired of dressing in sweats.

 

post #31 of 118
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Anybody have any other advice as to what I can do or take to help???


I'd call someone. It might be fine, but it' very good to call someone when you're bleeding heavily.

 

post #32 of 118

I went today to a thing called BOLD Red Tent. It was very cool. You go and tell your birth story. No one interrupts or asks questions. I cried a lot. I've never sat and told people who didn't already know bits. I never even posted a birth story here. boldaction.org is the site, if you have something local you should go. It's awesome.

 

As it was at the Birth House, I also went and weighed Charlie. It was fun, because there was a lady with a 3 month old boy. That baby was 9.5 at birth, Charlie was 9lbs 14 oz. At three months the other boy was just over 13lbs..

At practically 6 weeks, Charlie weighs 13lbs 10oz.

 

Bwahahahaha. Very funny to me. And heavy.

post #33 of 118

I'm about 5 and half weeks out.  I haven't had anything unusual going on until now I guess.  I got my first pp period with DD1 at around 6 weeks or so, so I figured it was the same thing.  I haven't called my ob since it's sunday.  I've just been laying around all day and it seems to have gotten a bit better.  I'm not gushing blood anymore but still have a pretty good flow.  I have an appt Oct. 4th to see him but if it starts up again I'm def gonna call.  My mom has had the same problems after birth with her periods and she just took it easy.  I hope this isnt something that starts happening every month.  I've never had problematic periods but it would def follow suit with family history.  My mom's the only one out of 5 girls that hasn't had to have a hysterectomy yet and she's started to have a lot of problems now that she's hit menopause.  Lots to look forward to! 

post #34 of 118
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Ada let me sleep for EIGHT hours! joy.gif  She nursed, I changed her diaper, and she is crashed out again. love.gif



that's amazing - I cant wait for that day!!!  What did her sleep patterns look like prior to that?  I dont think DD slept that long til 3 months- but my memory could be wrong...

post #35 of 118
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that's amazing - I cant wait for that day!!!  What did her sleep patterns look like prior to that?  I dont think DD slept that long til 3 months- but my memory could be wrong...

She has been waking every 4-5 hours previous to this. I'm hoping it wasn't a fluke. I tweaked my back today and could use the rest. greensad.gif
post #36 of 118

Sorry to hear that everyone is coming down with colds. This babies are so new, it's hard to see them having to suffer from a cold so soon! shake.gif

 

Becky, I'm sorry to hear about your incision pain, I hope that it heals up quickly.

 

Skye, good luck tomorrow with the IUD insertion. I had a Paraguard for a couple of years and liked it. The best thing about IUDs is that they are really no fuss at all. I was going to get a Mirena put back in (had mine take out a month and a half before we conceived River) but my insurance wants to charge me over $500 for it.  And since my Open Enrollment is coming up I might change to a better insurance plan which will cover it completely.  So, just condoms for now... sigh!  By the way,  I was really nervous about the insertion, but it ended up not being not bad for me at all, just like a bad period cramp that went away very quickly. 

 

Stormy, I hear you on the MIL front... my MIL is coming for a week long visit in a few weeks. I guess it's only fair because my folks are visiting right now and they aren't any easier to deal with! 

 

Janie, OMG, I got so upset reading your post! I have been pumping once a day to start building up a stash and I get mad when I can't get each tiny little drop out of the pump and into the freezer bag... I can't imagine losing so much! Hopefully she'll be much more careful in the future. 

 

Erika, how did your FIL's surgery go?

 

As for DTD, I am still too chicken to do it. hide.gif Today I'm officially 6 weeks pp, but I'm just barely starting to feel sexy again, and I'm not interested in having anything get close to my who-ha yet. We have been having some sexy time a little lately, so I'm glad that my head is getting back in the game.

 

 

 

AFM, I'm starting to feel like I'm getting in a good groove at home and taking care of DS. And I've decided to fully enjoy my next two weeks off instead of being sad about going back to work. My folks are visiting, and as soon as they leave, I'm going to set up a mommy date with some new friends that I made from my Lamaze class. 

post #37 of 118
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She has been waking every 4-5 hours previous to this. I'm hoping it wasn't a fluke. I tweaked my back today and could use the rest. greensad.gif

hug.gif for your back, and WOW for the sleep! I hope that happens again! You give me hope!
post #38 of 118
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As for DTD, I am still too chicken to do it. hide.gif Today I'm officially 6 weeks pp, but I'm just barely starting to feel sexy again, and I'm not interested in having anything get close to my who-ha yet. We have been having some sexy time a little lately, so I'm glad that my head is getting back in the game.

 

 


This is exactly how I feel too.  6 weeks out, and I just cannot wrap my head around something going IN where that baby came OUT.  We are taking baby steps and we'll get there soon enough. And that's ok -- other things are ahem, happening, and we are both keeping each other pretty happy.  So, no pressure, we'll do it when we're BOTH good and ready.  

 

And I have news!!  On the BC front -- drumroll please -- DH is cool with getting a vasectomy!!  Woo hoo!  He wants to look into it more and of course I told him no rush, we have time to make this decision.  But when I brought it up, he didn't skip a beat, he said it was a good idea!!  We both feel complete with our family.  I'm happy. 

 

Nora's bday is Sunday and we ordered her gifts last night.  She's getting a big wooden train table/set that's compatible with all her Thomas engines, a few new Thomas engines, and a scooter (omg omg).  My baby is such a big kid!  I also got her some new clothes at Target, and my in-laws are going to spoil her with gifts.  I know my MIL is going to get her a ton of stuff.  She usually steals our thunder, to be frank, so I'm glad we got the train table before she could.  LOL.

 

Big Man was up at 6 this morning so I'm going to go get my coffee and see if can get DH up.  He wanted to take a bike ride this morning and I haven't heard a peep from him yet and it's almost 7.   I think he's in sleeping with Nora...

post #39 of 118

All I have the energy to say right now is WTF!?!?!?  INSOMNIA when you have a one month old sleeping like a dream baby next to you all night long??????  I know he was because I was unable to sleep ALL NIGHT LONG>  GRRRRRRR

post #40 of 118

Janie - Yay for sleep!!!  And good sex!!

Carrie - Boo on your back.  I hate slings.  I can't wear them even around the house for more than 10 or 15 minutes.  I wish I could, because they're so convenient for in and out.  And yay for DH being open to vasectomy!

Erica - So sorry about the sick.  Sick babies are just so SAD :(

PoetryLover - Sorry about the sick in your house too!!  I think the best you can do is lots of hand washing, and plenty of nursing nursing nursing.  Separate rooms/beds if you can might also help.

Bethany - That's awful about your PP period!  I would call the doctor even if your bleeding doesn't lessen, honestly.  Not to be alarmist, but that doesn't sound like a normal amount of blood.  Maybe a retained piece of placenta?  You might just want to be checked out, just to be on the safe side.  In the mean time, drinking lots of RRL tea should help some.  Also, you can make cinnamon tea (a cup of hot milk, with some honey and 2 tsp of cinnamon), which would help with bleeding as well.

Becky - I'm glad you've come to a place where you're satisfied with your decision to go back to work a few days a week.  It's nice to be at peace with our decisions!!

Becky - Congrats on your fat little Charlie!  Or perhaps, not so little... :)

Tina - Glad you're finding your groove!!!  That's wonderful :)

Nald - so sorry about the insomnia.  I have nights like that sometimes (or rather, mornings).  It's hard.


AFM -- Both DD and I have colds.  I am absolutely terrified that there will be some kind of complication for her, and that she'll need antibiotics again.  She was on a 10 day course from the hospital at two weeks, and I'm just petrified that she'll get some kind of infection and need them again.  Her gut cannot handle it.  Or worse that she will end up hospitalized again.

And the hospital...  We got the hospital statement from our insurance company on Saturday.  They're not paying anything.  Not one red cent.  The reason?  With emergency admittance, you're supposed to call a number on the back of the insurance card within 24 hours.  I did call the insurance company within that time to verify that we were at the right hospital.  Apparently I called the *wrong* number on the back of the card.  So even though I spoke with my insurance company, and they knew DD was in the hospital within the appropriate time period, they're not paying because I didn't call the correct 800 number.  $15,000!  I've been crying all weekend, it looks like we might have to get the hospital involved, or possibly even take our insurance company to court.  Great.  DD has full coverage insurance, but because I didn't call the correct phone number when I had already not slept in more than 24 hours, I'm stuck with $15k in new bills.  You would think, too, that when I talked with my insurance and verified that we were at the correct hospital, and said, "I just want to make sure I'm covering all my bases" that they would maybe verify that I'd called the other number, right?  Nope.

So between being sick, and the insurance, I've had several panic attacks over the last 48 hours, which doesn't help things.  I wish I could take a triple dose of Nyquil, make a huge hot toddy, and go to bed for a few days.  Not gonna happen, but a mama can dream...

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