Thanks everyone for helping to validate my feelings of upset over DH's attitude/behavior. I know you are all right about counseling being a good thing. I just need to figure out how to bring it up to him and then actually find a therapist. He has actually been a little better the last couple of days. Not helping around the house any more than usual, but it seems like he's "seeing" me again. It's been a long time. He's a good guy and I truly do love him. I think part of our problem is that we started our life together and our family as very established adult individuals and somehow bringing kids into the picture really blurred the lines of what our lives are supposed to look like now. I'm 35 and he is 38. We just got married 5 years ago. We were both set in our ways/routines and he is just being very slow to learn that our life is a different animal now that we have the littles. I hope we can figure it out soon.
ahhhh, yes, our dilemma as well. DH was 42 and I was 32 when we got married. We both had excellent careers, savings in the bank, hobbies we loved - bringing children into the mix has meant sacrifices on ALL those fronts for us- and it's more of a struggle for him (I think) to adjust.