I'm not sure if this is the right place for me, I'm not technically a mom, but I'm definitely mothering.
To make a long story short, about a month ago we recieved a phone call that changed the lives of my husband and I. One thing lead to another and we were suddenly caring for my 6 month old nephew.
I come from a very broken and confusing background. None of our siblings were raised together, for the very same reason that now 7 month old nephew is living with us - my mother was irresponsible and addicted to various drugs, alcohol and dangerous situations. Now my sister (19) is repeating the same thing.
Prior to the day we picked the LO up, I didn't want children. I didn't know that I'd even be able to connect with a child, much less that I wanted one "disturbing" my life and freedom. I'd never really been around them, even though I'm the oldest of 3 children. My husband, on the other hand, was born to be a father.
The day we picked him up, we didn't know he would soon be living with us. But that day changed my perspective on the entire world. I don't know if I saw myself in the LO and wanted to compensate for my own childhood somehow (something I'm afraid of), or if it was just fate - but I fell deeply and madly in love.
The very next day our "surprise family" was formed.
We've been scrambling to get him things he needed. He'd been very neglected and had never even been outside other than to go for WIC services.
So now we've settled into things a little bit, we're working on Legal Custody (something she finally agreed to so I could get him medical attention and things like, oh - his shots!), then hopefully in the future adopting him, or having our hearts broken.
We have no idea what tomorrow will bring, but in the meantime I haven't a clue what the heck I'm doing half the time. I'm afraid of "spoiling" him, but I also want to bond with him and help him feel secure and loved. I'm stuck between so many suggestions from people, mostly from the very dysfunctional family that I was born into - including the mother that chose drugs over myself and my siblings so I am hoping to find advice, support and suggestions from people who have nothing to lose or gain and just care about their children as much as I care about my.... whatever he is.
Thanks for reading. :) Any suggestions on where I should make my way to next would be great!