Originally Posted by Onemoreontheway
My midwife ended up dropping me at 37.5 weeks.
Did she transfer your care or offer alternatives for care?
It is exactly this peer pressure environment with midwives that have had me contemplating a hospital birth. It is ridiculous and dangerous. Better a c/s than a hb with a midwife you can't trust. The worst part is, they have done it to themselves. No lab coat clad doctor could be the horrid witness many of them have been.
That being said there are great, caring, competent mw's out there - just getting harder to find them from among the hippy dippy 'wanna be a mw' types much love to you Jenga.
She had it arranged so her friend, a CPM would take over my care. But they can't practice legally here. She told me she made a call to another midwife who I had already spoken to and the other midwife wouldn't take me (I'm a VBAC patient and she doesn't do them). She told me to call a birth center who "did VBAC" but they don't, they haven't since 2004 in the birth center. She made no other suggestions.
She was hoping I'd use the CPM, I think, since she had already worked something out. When I called her to ask for my records a second time, she seemed unaware that CPMs couldn't practice in our state, or at least shocked that I knew that and was bringing it up... but she doesn't seem to care about licenses and stuff like that. We'd have had to pay her friend, the CPM, something like 3500 dollars and we had just paid this midwife's assistant 700$ and had paid her a deposit of 500$. My husband seriously thought it was a scam, at that point, because we'd have to pay this CPM so much money for a few weeks and we'd never see the deposit back from the other midwife and we weren't sure if we'd see the assistant's fee either. We couldn't put down over 3k at that point for a new midwife anyway, even if we were going to ignore that the midwife she referred us to told me that there was a "slight chance" that we could face charges if we used her. I don't know if that's true, but that is what she told me.
But anyway, she didn't make any other suggestions or try to help the second time I demanded my records over the phone. She didn't talk to me or have any communication at all until the e-mail she finally sent with my records. Then I heard nothing until I called her about the license issue and she screamed at me and refused to talk anymore - which I understand seeing as she just got caught in a bad situation. By law she was required to see me for 30 days or until I saw a new provider, I have been told, and she did not do that. She definitely abandoned me as a patient. I am lucky I could get in with someone else.
She was supposed to be a licensed CNM. Not a wannabe at all. :(
Edited by Jenga - 10/24/11 at 7:26pm