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post #121 of 514

Yeah I would LOVE a night birth so DD can sleep and people won't be here...If it's during the day IDK my BFF wants to come with her DD (which would distract mine!) but she lives an hour away and she works so if she left work to come she would then have to pick up her DD at daycare and it would probably be 2hrs and I could already have the babe by then! I'm not too sure what to do.

post #122 of 514

If I go into labor during the day, I'm planning to have kind of a labor party. With the caveat that no one is allowed to panic or start demanding we go to hospital. If they don't think they can do that, they aren't allowed to come. 

With that in mind, I want my step-mom here solely to watch my daughter in case she's not able to handle me in labor. My daughter is eight, but has autism, so I really do not know how she will handle a birth, let alone a UC.

 

post #123 of 514


I found it on Amazon a few months ago. I can't find it now though. My midwife has a bunch stashed. 

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Where did you find the fishy pool?!?! Do tell, do tell!



 



 

post #124 of 514

I'm not sure about having my daughter here.  She'll be 10, and I kind of feel like that's an awkward age to witness birth.  And I would feel bad banishing her to her room all by herself.  I'm hoping for a weekday birth so she'll be at school.  If not, I think I'm going to ask her BFF's mom if she can hang out there for a while. 

post #125 of 514

My kids will be 5, 6, and 7, My 6 is also autistic. Last time the two older slept through most of the labor and I had family here to entertain the oldesr until the pushing stage and she came in. She was so excited at 2 1/2, She kept saying "Baby!" My middle slept through it, woke up in a good mood and got a 'surprise!' of a new sibling. We were bringing baby into the room just as sleepyhead was waking up all smiles :)

 

I think I will ask the kids what they would like and have them watch birth videos.

post #126 of 514

Not sure what we'll do. We might wake up our then 3.5 yr old because she seems VERY excited about it now, even with the actual event so far away. We watch birth videos together (this isn't abnormal for us at all, we do it every now and then) so she talks about how I have to work hard and make big loud noises to push the baby out and then I can cry and she can hold the baby. But we'll see. I would be perfectly happy if the 2.5 yr old sleeps through everything, and we go in with a new baby whenever he wakes up.

 

Although my other two kids, with both of them, labour started at exactly 5 am- woken up by a big, painful contraction and they follow every 4 minutes after that- so there's a good chance they'll both be wide awake.

 

I've already asked my MIL to be there to help with childcare and I have a doula and my husband, so they can all rotate in and out to deal with kids. They are both easily distracted by books, puzzles, and TV so I think it will be fine. Worst case I have friends and family near by that I'll talk to sometime between now and May and ask if they can hang out with one or both kids if they really need to be out of the house- or go to a park, play in the backyard, whatever.

 

My big concern right now: what do I do with the dog? He gets pretty crazy and rambunctious when new people come in the house- not bad, just stupidly happy and tries to sit in their laps and won't leave them alone. Which is fine in a medium sized dog, but he's a BIG dog (100+ lbs) so if the midwives aren't comfortable with dogs it could be a problem. Might need to ask around and see if anyone else is available to do something with him- or even send my husband out with kids and dog or something like that. Not sure. Still mulling it over.

 

 

post #127 of 514

I was on the fence about having my 3 year old witness the birth...I'm worried it might be too intense for him, but he seems really interested so I think I might have him there and just have my sister in law there to distract him if needed. 

 

Astria, I have big dogs too - 2 very wild, very big, pups. I plan to just lock them in the garage with some chew toys, food, and water. They can come back inside and meet the baby when its all over and the house is calmer. There is no way I'd have them running around barking at people and disturbing the birth. Of course, if I have a super long birth, DH will have to take them out for walks or at least put them in the fenced in back yard, but since DS was born in 45 minutes, I don't think the pups will be stuck in the garage for long :-) 

post #128 of 514
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Not sure what we'll do. We might wake up our then 3.5 yr old because she seems VERY excited about it now, even with the actual event so far away. We watch birth videos together (this isn't abnormal for us at all, we do it every now and then) so she talks about how I have to work hard and make big loud noises to push the baby out and then I can cry and she can hold the baby. But we'll see. I would be perfectly happy if the 2.5 yr old sleeps through everything, and we go in with a new baby whenever he wakes up.

 

Although my other two kids, with both of them, labour started at exactly 5 am- woken up by a big, painful contraction and they follow every 4 minutes after that- so there's a good chance they'll both be wide awake.

 

I've already asked my MIL to be there to help with childcare and I have a doula and my husband, so they can all rotate in and out to deal with kids. They are both easily distracted by books, puzzles, and TV so I think it will be fine. Worst case I have friends and family near by that I'll talk to sometime between now and May and ask if they can hang out with one or both kids if they really need to be out of the house- or go to a park, play in the backyard, whatever.

 

My big concern right now: what do I do with the dog? He gets pretty crazy and rambunctious when new people come in the house- not bad, just stupidly happy and tries to sit in their laps and won't leave them alone. Which is fine in a medium sized dog, but he's a BIG dog (100+ lbs) so if the midwives aren't comfortable with dogs it could be a problem. Might need to ask around and see if anyone else is available to do something with him- or even send my husband out with kids and dog or something like that. Not sure. Still mulling it over.

 

 



We're going to board our dog for a day or two.  I think.  We live in an apartment, so no garage or yard.  :(  She's really good, and doesn't jump on people at all.  She only barks at people walking past the windows, never at people we invite into the house.  And she does great in her kennel.  I think she'd be fine to stay here, but I just don't want to have to worry about her.  I want to focus on the birth, and that's it.

post #129 of 514

With my last birth I had planned to leave it up to the boys, they were 20 months, 6 and 8. My mom was here to help if any of them got freaked out. My midwife also had an assistant and I had a doula so we discussed how I wanted to make sure the boys had questions answered or things were explained to them throughout. We also did a lot of prep education (age appropriate) for how things might look. That being said...the birth happened so fast and furious that they were watching a movie downstairs (the 20 month old was asleep) and totally missed the whole birth. My husband called from the top of the stairs and asked them if they wanted to see their baby brother. They ran up and took a peek and then got handed a camera to take pictures. Our midwife, doula, assistant and photographer missed the whole thing, so the only pictures we have of immediately after the birth are the ones our boys took. It's kind of special. I plan on letting them choose again this time (they'll be 3, 7, 9 and a 20 month old). They were so excited to see the umbilical cord and placenta. It was really neat. The funny thing is...in all of our prep and talk I *forgot* to tell them about the water breaking. I have no idea why, but it just never came up. So when my water broke I found myself waddling to the bathroom explaining what had just happened and that everything was okay. It makes me chuckle. 

 

I was a little worried about our dog too. She's about 75lbs and friendly, but can get a little excited when people come over. I was worried about her getting upset with the chaos of a birth and so many people being here. I really have no idea what she did during the birth other than that I know she didn't bark when the midwife came (without someone answering the door) and didn't bother anybody during the initial time after the birth. She hung out at the foot of the bed during the newborn assessment and stuck pretty close to me in the days after. The midwife even commented about how the dog took it all in stride. 

post #130 of 514

I can not believe I am in my second trimester already! This is nuts!

post #131 of 514
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I was on the fence about having my 3 year old witness the birth...I'm worried it might be too intense for him, but he seems really interested so I think I might have him there and just have my sister in law there to distract him if needed. 

 

Astria, I have big dogs too - 2 very wild, very big, pups. I plan to just lock them in the garage with some chew toys, food, and water. They can come back inside and meet the baby when its all over and the house is calmer. There is no way I'd have them running around barking at people and disturbing the birth. Of course, if I have a super long birth, DH will have to take them out for walks or at least put them in the fenced in back yard, but since DS was born in 45 minutes, I don't think the pups will be stuck in the garage for long :-) 


We don't have a garage. We do have a backyard and basement but if we ever try to lock him away or out he just yowls and howls because he knows he's being left out and that would be way more annoying, I would think.

 



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We're going to board our dog for a day or two.  I think.  We live in an apartment, so no garage or yard.  :(  She's really good, and doesn't jump on people at all.  She only barks at people walking past the windows, never at people we invite into the house.  And she does great in her kennel.  I think she'd be fine to stay here, but I just don't want to have to worry about her.  I want to focus on the birth, and that's it.


He's not vaccinated, so we can't board. Plus there isn't anywhere local that would take him, all the dog boarding places are at least a 45 min drive away.

 

 

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I was a little worried about our dog too. She's about 75lbs and friendly, but can get a little excited when people come over. I was worried about her getting upset with the chaos of a birth and so many people being here. I really have no idea what she did during the birth other than that I know she didn't bark when the midwife came (without someone answering the door) and didn't bother anybody during the initial time after the birth. She hung out at the foot of the bed during the newborn assessment and stuck pretty close to me in the days after. The midwife even commented about how the dog took it all in stride. 


Reminds me to talk about waters as well as blood- good thinking!

 

My dog was totally fine and mellow when my second was being born. Came in and looked, sniffed, and stayed close in case anything bad was going on but overall was really calm. But he was a UC, so no strangers in the house.

 

 

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I can not believe I am in my second trimester already! This is nuts!


I can't remember how far along I am... Is that bad? So I MIGHT be in my second!

 

post #132 of 514

LOL I started keeping track after my MW appointment so I guess I cheated! Do you know when you conceived?

post #133 of 514

Hey ladies! It's been awhile since I have been on here. I have been battling a nasty flu for the past 2 weeks. I'm starting to think that maybe it's some type of freak pregnancy symptom? Strange. Anyway, trying to catch up a little....I would love to have my older 2 girls at the birth. They are 4 and 5, but hubs is very weary about it. He still thinks they are too young. I kinda hope to go in labor in the middle of the night, that way we don't have to call anyone and if they wake up, then oh well! 

 

How is everyone feeling? I am getting more and more excited about this homebirth. I can't believe we are around 6 months from giving birth! I need to start collecting my birthing supplies. Do you ladies have everything ready?

post #134 of 514
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LOL I started keeping track after my MW appointment so I guess I cheated! Do you know when you conceived?


I do. I could totally do an online due date calculator, I just keep forgetting/ am too lazy/ something like that. I conceived sometime on or after August 13, and modified my LMP to reflect that (July 30th). I THINK I'm 13+ weeks? But maybe yesterday was my 14th week? In which case I'm in the second trimester. Hrmmmmm. I'll look it up, now I'm curious enough to bother.

 



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Hey ladies! It's been awhile since I have been on here. I have been battling a nasty flu for the past 2 weeks. I'm starting to think that maybe it's some type of freak pregnancy symptom? Strange. Anyway, trying to catch up a little....I would love to have my older 2 girls at the birth. They are 4 and 5, but hubs is very weary about it. He still thinks they are too young. I kinda hope to go in labor in the middle of the night, that way we don't have to call anyone and if they wake up, then oh well! 

 

How is everyone feeling? I am getting more and more excited about this homebirth. I can't believe we are around 6 months from giving birth! I need to start collecting my birthing supplies. Do you ladies have everything ready?


I think if you do enough prep with your kids that it could be fabulous for them. It depends a lot on their personalities, but with enough talk about water, blood, noise, yelling, etc etc then they might really love being a part of it. And some birth videos for prep, of course :) (I never need another excuse to watch birth videos!)

 

I don't have anything ready. I have some old towels that i bought for our second baby that made their way into general circulation (didn't get messed up at all). I wish I didn't have to follow the midwife's list of requirements for a homebirth because I KNOW I won't use anywhere near that number of items, and I hate having to buy things that won't get used anyway. Wonder if I could borrow some stuff just to bulk out my stash so it looks right? Hm.

 

 

 

post #135 of 514

Okay, I'm 13 weeks! Ah, now I'm disappointed, I was hoping for 14 :)

post #136 of 514

Here's our run down:

 

#1 Hospital Birth--I swore never again!

#2 Birth Center--pretty good experience, but I still felt out of my comfort zone.

#3 Home Birth--was supposed to be another B.C birth, but I felt baby was coming too fast, and my midwife said traffic was at a standstill, so we changed plans quickly to a home birth.  Seriously the best experience of my life!!!  I loved feeling so safe and secure in my own surroundings, no anxiety of fear whatsoever.  It just felt like a normal relaxed (yet exciting!) day in our life together.  And

afterwards being able to just curl up in my own baby with my baby and go to sleep, was pure bliss.

 

#4 Planning another home birth!  Possibly a water birth.  I just don't know how much inconvenience it would be.  Weighing my options.  But absolutely a home birth!

post #137 of 514

We're definitely planning on a home birth! This is our first baby. Our midwife encourages water births, and I'm really excited about that; I feel like I can handle anything better when submerged in water. The only thing is, she won't deliver twins or breech babies; I figure that for either of those scenarios, we'll just wait until the last possible moment to go to a hospital.

 

Attending the birth will be my husband, our midwife, her assistant, and a friend of mine who I had the honor of being a birthing assistant to at the birth of her baby! Quite a party!

post #138 of 514

Anyone else nervous about a homebirth?  My first was a birth center-transfer-to-hospital baby.  My second was a beautiful and peaceful birth center birth.  I would birth there again in a heartbeat (beautiful huge jacuzzi tubs, great midwives, just perfect) but it's slightly over an hour away and with my last birth being only 3 hours, it was not fun spending an hour of that in the car and then an hour driving home with a screaming baby.  So a homebirth sounded perfect this time.  

 

But now I'm slightly  worried about safety (which makes no sense since I already did a birth center birth, which is no different than what my hb midwife will have here. I know it's just because of my miscarriages and that now I worry about everything) and really overwhelmed by all the things I need to prepare!  I got a list of all these things needed for the birth - a waterproof mattress pad for the bed, something waterproof for under the birth pool, the pool, all the hookups for that (hose, etc.), a bunch of towels and washcloths, rubbing alcohol, coffee (she nicely put in there that the midwives love coffee which I can understand since they need to stay awake but we aren't coffee drinkers so I have nothing to make coffee with and no idea how to make it), and lots of information about cleaning the birthing room and bathroom. Just tons of stuff. It was really overwhelming. It seemed like a lot to buy and a pain to get and that it would get expensive. It made me want to do a birth center birth where I just show up, hop in their nice tub, and then leave. No clean up, no prep time, nothing.  But, I don't want to do the hour away and the closer birth center here has very small rooms and so only one room can accommodate a water birth and if someone's in that room, you are out of luck (and I NEED water!!).  So I feel like I'm sort of "stuck" with a homebirth. And I certainly see the benefits of it and would do it well over a hospital birth, but I don't think I realized how much planning was involved in it!  

post #139 of 514

Callieollie -- Wow! I sounds like your midwife is really picky. :) My midwife brought her own tea. For our waterproof mattress pad we used a plastic painters dropcloth (way cheaper and we could throw it away). We used the same thing for under the birth pool with an old blanket thrown on top so we wouldn't slip. The pool we used was the kiddie pool that someone posted links to earlier this week. I'm not sure what kind of hook up you need for the hose, but it wasn't a big production if I remember right. I also bought a bunch of cheap towels at Goodwill. What kind of cleaning did she want you to do for the bedroom and bathroom? I mean...they're your germs...they baby is going to be surrounded by them when he/she is born...seriously...it's a homebirth for a reason. ;) 

 

Just my 2 cents. 

post #140 of 514

A lot of the planning of stuff really isn't THAT big a deal. Hit a dollar store and grab some plastic table cloths- there's your water proofing for the floor around the tub and for your bed (noisy, but effective! Just make sure to open them and air them out for a few days before you plan to use them, they're super stinky). Is the birth pool yours, or is it on loan? If you do a trial run well in advance (ie, now) you'll realize how straight-forward it is (hopefully! Our initial set up was a bit of a disaster, the sink wouldn't fit the hose and we needed copious amounts of plumbers tape, etc) but one we knew all of that the actual go round took maximum 15 minutes and took a lot of worry away. You can buy all the hoses from a pet store- they have reverse siphon hoses that connect to your tap for filling/emptying fish tanks, maybe $25.

 

Coffee- we worried about that too, back with our first. Buy those single-size instant coffees from starbucks. Normally I HATE instant coffee, but my husband got a bunch of those from work for free and they are fabulous, taste just like a real brewed coffee. Sometimes I use them when I'm too lazy to do it my normal way, haha.

 

Towels and cloths- Go to a thriftstore when they have a sale (a lot of the ones around here do a day of 50% off everything every 6 months or so) and buy everything you need right then. Rubbing alcohol is cheap and you can buy it at any grocery store with a pharamacy. Even chux pads are easy to find, though a bit pricey. 

 

Cleaning- you'll likely do it while nesting, if you're the nesty type. If not, put it on a honey do list?

The list seems really daunting now- trust me, I know, I got one too and thought "holy moley, what on earth!?" but once you start breaking it down and planning it out it's really simple. And having done it twice before I'm realizing that once you start really sorting through it you can find a lot of the things you might already have at home- thermometer, baby nose sucker dealy, bleach or even white vinegar for stains, towels you don't love but already have (the chances of you bleeding all over ALL your towels is pretty slim, and if someone does a load of towels soon after the staining should be minimal/ non existant- or so it was in our case). On our list we had some stuff to de-contaminate our laundry for the blood.... which made me laugh a lot... I don't "decontaminate" or bleach my cloth menstrual pads or my cloth diapers, so I'm definitely not buying that stuff.

 

Sorry, this is kinda disjointed. I had caffeinated tea and it SHOULD be bed time but I'm wired. The person who made the pot told me it was herbal, and only after 4 cups did she notice it was green. Ack!

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