I nursed through one pregnancy. She nursed CONSTANTLY- like, up 20 times a night to nurse, 10+ times during the day- and my supply seemed fine until about 12 weeks and then started to drop.. She dry-nursed (or got colostrum, really) from then on. The only thing that kept my supply up in the 10-12 week mark, I think, was that she got a terrible cold. I'd noticed a drop in my supply the day I ovulated... and the day her brother was conceived, though I didn't make that connection for awhile... and it stayed slightly lower until Nigella got sick. Then it came back full force until she was healthy again and then dropped rather significantly immediately afterwards. Weird, huh?
So it slowly decreased from 12 weeks on, and then switched to colostrum somewhere after 20 weeks. I tried everything I could think of- more milk two, mothers milk tea, fenugreek, blessed thistle, more calories, more water, using a breast pump regularly, and nothing helped. I had to have her on formula at about 15 weeks of the pregnancy because there wasn't enough milk to keep her satisfied (and she was 7 months old); she was starving. I felt like the worst parent ever when she chugged back her first bottle without even any hesitation- this from a baby who'd turned her nose up at even expressed milk until then.
This time as soon as I got my BFP I started cutting back on nursing, making nursing sessions shorter. Currently at 10 weeks I have basically nothing, but both kids nurse a maximum of 1 time a day and 3 times at night and only for as long as it takes me to sing Twinkle Twinkle Little Star. Even that is horrible and painful and occasionally I sing REALLY fast to make it end. I've dropped nearly 2 cup sizes in the first trimester. It's weird. I need to buy smaller bras. Kids are almost 3 and 1 and a half. I feel no motivation nurse through a pregnancy when I find it so painful and get so touched-out, and it doesn't maintain my supply anyway.
ALittleSandy- so sorry for what you've been through! That was my worst fear when I was pregnant the first time, that I'd have a breech baby who wouldn't turn and would be, in essence, abandoned by my midwife team. Luckily it didn't happen to me and i'm so sorry it happened to you. I second contacting ICAN. I've even heard of people who find a midwife/doctor far away from where they live, and then live with a friend or rent a tiny apartment for the last few weeks so they're nearby when it happens. Or driving to a hotel at the first sign of labour so they can get to the hospital where it is allowed.