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post #21 of 31

I am going to deliver at the same hospital I had my son at. My prenatal appointments are at a clinic about 30 minutes away from my house, and the hospital I will deliver at is about 45 minutes away from my house. I am glad that this clinic transfers to the same hospital I had my son at because I had a really great experience there. The nurses and doctors were all very nice, and they let me have my whole family (mom, dad, sister, and baby's father) in the room with me during labor and delivery, and after my son was cleaned up after I had him, they let him stay in the room with us the entire time until they had to take him for his circumcision, and that was the ONLY time he was away from me. During labor I did get an epidural, and it went well for the most part. The only problem was that they had put a pillow under one side of me at one point and during delivery I tore and I could feel them sowing me up on one side... Other than that It was a very good experience for me.

The only thing about baby number two that scares me is having the epidural again.. it went well the first time but the thought of a needle in my back again is scary to me lol. The only thing that I will change during this labor and delivery is that I will bring things to occupy me during labor. I didn't bring my ipod and other things that I had planned to take, and this time around I will make sure that I remember those things.... Hoping and praying that nothing goes wrong and I dont have to have a c-section at the last minute.. Vaginal birth is the only way I want to do it, but obviously if it means a healthy baby I will do what I have to  :)

post #22 of 31

OH, and also, they didnt do a great job on my son's circumcision, so if I have a boy, I dont know if I will get him circumcized at birth. I had to have my son re-circumcized when he was around a year old, and I hated to see him in such pain.. but i'd rather he didnt have to have it done twice.. I still don't know what I am going to do on this topic, but I have a while to figure it out..

post #23 of 31
Thread Starter 
My Ob's office has this birth plan checklist linked below available on their site. I think that there are a few things I need to add that have to do with my unusual disability, though. I can not tuck my chin for any prolonged amount of time like they do with guided or "purple" pushing. I would prefer to push when I feel the need. I don't want pain killers unless I absolutely must have them, but I do need them to keep an eye out for any spasms. I may need steroids postpartum to prevent a flare-up like I had last time. I also want to avoid any vaccinations at the hospital, but that is something to discuss with the pediatrician. (We need to find someone closer.) Most of what I would like is standard at the hospital we chose, though.


Edit: Forgot that I would also like to delay cord clamping as long as possible, which likely will be a couple minutes at the hospital unless they decide active management is needed. I'm drinking my nettle infusions, so hopefully I won't have too much bleeding.
Edited by cameragirl - 10/5/11 at 12:44am
post #24 of 31

Ideally I'll go into labor naturally with two head down babies a little over 39 weeks. Another fast labor with no pain medsBy the time I get out of the hospital my mom will be here to help and for Easter!

Realistically, I'm not sure what is going to happen with twins. I would love to have another med free birth, but I'm scared of something going wrong, and either needing an emergency c-section and having to be put under, or them needing to turn Baby B and reaching hands up inside of me!! So although I want a med-free birth, I'm open to an epi this time around. (I had one with my first 2) I'll be doing everything to avoid a C-section, so please hope, pray, give good thoughts, whatever it is you do, that baby A is head down!!

post #25 of 31

I'm planing a homebirth. I don't really have any specific plans about it other than no vaginal checks or doppler. Everything else will depend on what I feel like doing.

Contingency plan: if there is a need for transfer, the midwives will drive, we will not call an ambulance under ANY circumstance. Since I have a feeling that my personal choice on this matter will be questioned, I'm just going to say that I know for a FACT that the EMTs in my area are NOT educated or trained when it comes to birth, so I am not willing to trust them with my or my baby's wellbeing. We would most likely get to the hospital more quickly by driving anyway.

If the transfer is post-birth I am the only one needing medical care, the baby will stay at home with my husband.

post #26 of 31

SageR, I must not have run into the same contempt for contingency plans that you have here.  I think contingency plans are important because they will give you a sense of at least a little bit of control if everything gets out of control.  We're planning our second home birth, but most of my birth plan from last time was about if we had to transfer to a hospital since most of what we want comes standard at home, and I think it's important to plan even for a C-section.  Some things on my C-section list are that I want to be awake if possible, my midwife will stay with me, and DH will go with the baby.  DH will take off his shirt and be skin-to-skin with his baby until I am able to breastfeed as soon as possible.


CassnBeth, can you get a visit from a lactation consultant in the hospital as part of your birth plan?  Can you make it to LLL meetings before hand and be in contact with one or more LLL leaders before and after birth to have a plan for how to approach any difficulties you might have?


AshHall07, what a horrible experience with your son's circumcision!  I'm sorry to hear that you and he went through all of that.  Unfortunately, tiny babies tend to be in just as much pain with a circumcision as older children and adults, and they cannot safely be given as much pain medication and are often given no anesthesia at all!  Sometimes, they show it differently, in a sort of quiet shock rather than crying and carrying on like an older child might do, but most still react with violent screaming.  I think it is important to question routine infant circumcision and make a truly informed decision.  I know it is biased, but you might consider checking out MDC's Case Against Circumcision forum for some good information on why you might choose not to have your son circumcised as well as possible alternatives such as allowing him to make his own decision when he is old enough and instructions for caring for a little boy with a foreskin.

post #27 of 31
Originally Posted by CassnBeth View Post

I have PCOS, suspected insufficient glandular tissue and flat nipples so breastfeeding is very high on my worry list.

I have PCOS too, and I'm not sure how much to worry about breastfeeding. I know both low supply and oversupply are more common with PCOS. How can you tell if there's insufficient glandular tissue?
post #28 of 31
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Originally Posted by Kyamo View Post

I have PCOS too, and I'm not sure how much to worry about breastfeeding. I know both low supply and oversupply are more common with PCOS. How can you tell if there's insufficient glandular tissue?

I'm not sure on that, but I would highly recommend finding a good lactation consultant or LLL leader to work with just in case. They're a godsend when you need them after birth.
post #29 of 31

JMJ -- I really hope the lactation consultants at my hospital are worth their salt. I already have an IBCLC visit scheduled for january when I am eight months along so she can see how things look. The plan is to have her come to my house and see the baby and I the day after we come home from the hospital; she offers a package where you can do preliminary meetings, one home visit, unlimited clinic visits and unlimited phone calls for five hundred dollars and I think that is what I am going to go with. It is an enormous amount of money to me but I really do not want to do a half-assed job of this.


Kyamo -- Here is my favourite info. about the whole insufficient glandular tissue thing.


post #30 of 31

CassnBeth, yeah, I have heard of people getting mixed results from hospital LC's, but many are absolutely wonderful, and to become an IBCLC, there is an enormous amount of training that they have to go through which should include information on special circumstances.  I'm glad to hear you're connected to help that you are already sure you trust.  It sounds like you're in good hands, and I totally think $500 is worth it.  You'd spend way more than that if you had to buy formula, and you can't put a price on not having to live with all the "what if's" if you did end up having to use any supplements without trying everything you could.

Edited by JMJ - 10/6/11 at 4:22pm
post #31 of 31

Our original compromise (I wanted a homebirth, DH wanted a hospital) was a birthing center.  HOWEVER.... there's a new hospital just a few minutes away, that's SUPER baby friendly.  Rooming in, breastfeeding and natural births are the norm.  (The nurses joke the only thing they use the nursery for is to store the bassinets).  


As a doctor's daughter, I have some advantages most don't have.  My dad knows all the OB's in the area, and helped me pick one who's very... crunchy?  He'll know most of the nurses in the maternity ward, and has always had a talent for translating "doctor speak" into regular people speak.


I'm trying for a natural birth, but if I'm having a lot of trouble with pain, I'm willing to reconsider, though I haven't figured out exactly which options I'm most comfortable with.


My biggest things are all post-birth.  Baby straight to my chest.  Wait until the cord stops pulsing to cut it.  Do all washing and tests at my bedside (unless the baby needs to go to the NICU, s/he's not leaving my side).  No circumcision for a boy.  No Heb-B shot or eye drops (as there's zero chance of me having an STD).  Breastfeeding within the first hour at the latest.  And I got permission from the head of the maternity ward to bring cloth diapers!


Like I said though, as a doctors daughter I'm familiar with the medical world, and have always been raised "you know yourself better than your doctor does.  If you're worried about something, and your doc/nurse isn't listening, find another one", so the idea of coming in "conflict" with my doc/nurses doesn't worry me - it's my body and my birth.

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