Kelly as a boys's name?

[frogautumn]

We're having our third boy and it seems that Kelly is one of the only names that's grabbing both DH & I.

We think it's classic, Irish, vintage-y, charming...we know a few adult male Kellys and they are all strong, adventurous, laid-back men. 

I know that Kelly is orignally is a male name...

But I just can't get over the fact that it's currently more popular as a girl's name. I mean, I like it as a boy's name, but will the rest of the world be as kind?

What's your honest opinion?

[philomom]

I think in the states, it is decidedly a girl's name. The only Kellys I ever knew were girls. Though I realize its likely this name was in a cluster of names that slipped to cute baby girls at some point. There are other names like Cary, Leslie, Marion, Dana, Sidney, Shelby..... that all used to be boy names.

[2xy]

Honestly? I don't think people will be kind. I was born in the early 70's, and I had male classmates named Tracy and Shannon. When you look at the name index on the social security website, those names weren't terribly uncommon for boys born in that era....both names were near the top 100. They were still taunted about having "girl's names."

Kelly has been more popular as a girl's name in the U.S. for over 50 years. It's not a new thing.

As someone who has dealt with name torment my entire life (yes, even as an adult), I'm pretty sensitive to that issue. Your child has to live with the daily effects of his name for the rest of his life. Keep that in mind.

I didn't vote because I don't dislike the name Kelly for a boy. I just don't think it's a wise choice.

[Ramzubo]

Well as a Shannon I went to school with loads of male and female Shannon's and always found it mildly annoying that it wasn't strictly a girl's name.

As for Kelley (this is the way guys I've known spelled it) I also knew several males with this name. I think it may have something to do with where you live. I grew up in the deep south and Kelly was a name lots of "country" guys had (along with Terry and Jessy and such). Similarly Shannon can be a more popular male name with African Americans so growing up in the south I probably ran into more male Shannons. Now living in New England I can't really think of Kelly as being a common male name.

[onetwoten]

Most of the Kellys that I have encountered have been males, but I'm aware it is more typically a "girls name" now. That said... I can't actually think of any young, female kellys (or males) so I think you may have time on your side. Where is it on the popularity lists? Maybe it's just regionally, but since I can't think of an overwhelming number of Kelly girls, I wouldn't be as worried about using it.  I'm looking at it from the perspective of say Avery- which I know is male historically, that has transitioned, but the first 4-5 times I heard it used, was on a toddler aged female, so to me, at that age group, it was a female name. I've since heard it on young boys, but more commonly on young females. 

[erigeron]

I don't think I agree with the PP's reasoning. I know a ton of female Kellys in their twenties and thirties and I do know of a baby girl named Kelley (it was a family last name). I don't know if the name is going to be so common for girls in this next generation, but it'll be common for people's moms. I probably wouldn't do it--I think that kids will be conscious that it's a name more used on females, and they'll probably be mean about it.

[Mom31]

If you are looking for an irish boys name my son is Keagan. Have you considered that one?

[frogautumn]

Well, I doubt it will be "the" name...if I was so attached to it, it wouldn't have occurred to me to ask the public's opinion.

But, I'm interested in the responses I've gotten and am now inspired to play a little devil's advocate...

So, my topic of discussion #1 is this: There are a lot of non-traditional, invented, and gender-neutral names going around out there now (and maybe even especially here at MDC). Is there something that's inherently taboo about giving a boy a "girl's" name?

And topic #2: Aren't kids going to find a reason to tease regardless of what name you have? I mean, I have one of the most common names a girl my age could possibly have and I still received a fair amount of teasing as a child.

Talk amongst yourselves 

[2xy]

Originally Posted by frogautumn 

Well, I doubt it will be "the" name...if I was so attached to it, it wouldn't have occurred to me to ask the public's opinion.

But, I'm interested in the responses I've gotten and am now inspired to play a little devil's advocate...

So, my topic of discussion #1 is this: There are a lot of non-traditional, invented, and gender-neutral names going around out there now (and maybe even especially here at MDC). Is there something that's inherently taboo about giving a boy a "girl's" name?

And topic #2: Aren't kids going to find a reason to tease regardless of what name you have? I mean, I have one of the most common names a girl my age could possibly have and I still received a fair amount of teasing as a child.

Talk amongst yourselves 

#1, most boys in American society are offended to be called girly.

#2, yes, kids will tease about all sorts of things. However, I'm 40 years old and still have to put up with crap about my name on a regular basis. When I said "for the rest of his life," that's what I meant.

[philomom]

Originally Posted by frogautumn 

So, my topic of discussion #1 is this: There are a lot of non-traditional, invented, and gender-neutral names going around out there now (and maybe even especially here at MDC). Is there something that's inherently taboo about giving a boy a "girl's" name?

I ran a new mom's support group for many years. The fathers are generally furious as hell if another baby in the group who is female, shares a name with their son, a male. It does not help postpartum family dynamics/relations at all.

It is my general opinion that boy names are getting very strong and even a bit harsh because the girls have stolen so many boy's names. I'm meeting girl Aidens and Elliots now in my town. No wonder the boys are getting names like Hugo, Lloyd, Earnest and Silas.
Edited by philomom - 9/26/11 at 11:13am

[LivingSky]

I apparently voted against the curve and said "yes" to Kelly as a boy's name. I grew up on the west coast in Canada and I knew a lot of Kellys, and it was a pretty even mix of boys and girls. Currently the only Kelly I know in real life in my area is a male.

[linnea27]

We struggled a bit with this with our top boys' choice, Morgan. Funnily enough, my husband's name is Kelly, and he didn't think naming a child a unisex name was a big deal at all. My husband was never teased for having a "girls" name- although he was called Smelly Kelly Jelly Belly, which is a discussion for another day, lol.

[Thursday Girl]

I may be biased b/c I know a really cool male Kelly who's a man.  I don't often hear the name Kelly at all for boys or girls and think it would be fine for a little boy.

as for #1- it is okay to be considered a tom boy but people have a hard time with girly boys. I disagree with this sentiment, but it is an overwhelming feeling in this country.

#2- Kids will tease any name or for nay reason. We did make fun of one guy, Mike when we found out his name was actually Marion but it was all in jest and friendship. mean kids are mean kids.  friendly jest is friendly jest and both things will happen no matter what.

[2xy]

Originally Posted by Thursday Girl 
We did make fun of one guy, Mike when we found out his name was actually Marion but it was all in jest and friendship. mean kids are mean kids.  friendly jest is friendly jest and both things will happen no matter what.

After a number of years, friendly jest gets tiresome when you're the recipient of it. Why do you think your friend goes by Mike?
 

[Thursday Girl]

i can see that. the friendly jest did not last years, but just about a week after we found out

[2xy]

Originally Posted by Thursday Girl 

i can see that. the friendly jest did not last years, but just about a week after we found out

No....what I'm trying to point out is that if every person poor Marion meets makes "friendly jokes" about his name, it probably will wear on his nerves.

When people comment on my name nowadays, most of the time they think they are doing it "all in fun" and don't mean anything by it. I hate to break it to you, but it's not much different than making friendly jokes about someone being flat-chested, too tall, or having freckles. I'm just giving you my perspective. I don't think it's nice to comment on things that are somewhat beyond a person's control.

[parsley]

I love it for a boy's name... not so much for a girls name. 

It seems to me also that Kelly is decreasing in popularity so it seems less likely that there will be a girl with the same name in his classes.  Kids can only tease about what they know.

[Mulvah]

Originally Posted by philomom 

I think in the states, it is decidedly a girl's name. The only Kellys I ever knew were girls. Though I realize its likely this name was in a cluster of names that slipped to cute baby girls at some point. There are other names like Cary, Leslie, Marion, Dana, Sidney, Shelby..... that all used to be boy names.

Sidney is no longer a "boy name"?  Really? 

Originally Posted by 2xy 

Honestly? I don't think people will be kind. I was born in the early 70's, and I had male classmates named Tracy and Shannon. When you look at the name index on the social security website, those names weren't terribly uncommon for boys born in that era....both names were near the top 100. They were still taunted about having "girl's names."

Kelly has been more popular as a girl's name in the U.S. for over 50 years. It's not a new thing.

As someone who has dealt with name torment my entire life (yes, even as an adult), I'm pretty sensitive to that issue. Your child has to live with the daily effects of his name for the rest of his life. Keep that in mind.

I didn't vote because I don't dislike the name Kelly for a boy. I just don't think it's a wise choice.

I guess I somewhat disagree.  I don't disagree with your experience, of course, but I had a name that people made fun of and it wasn't a big deal to me.  Sure, it was annoying at times, but nothing long-lasting.  I had other lovely attributes to make fun of, so perhaps they overshadowed the name mockery.    My partner had a unisex name and got some comments, but overall, it wasn't a big deal.

I think if you're happy with the name, you should stick with it. 

[erigeron]

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Originally Posted by parsley 

It seems to me also that Kelly is decreasing in popularity so it seems less likely that there will be a girl with the same name in his classes.  Kids can only tease about what they know.

See, I think that Kelly will be the name of everybody's mom/aunt/mom's friend, so they will know it whether or not there's one in the class. Kelly was a top-20 name for girls from 1965-1987.

[dds07]

My husband has a "girl's" name- Loren. He hates it. Not so much for getting teased, I don't think, though. Growing up he was a cross-country runner and he would always get listed as winning the girls' races. People assume he is a girl when they see his name in emails, and online (he teaches online classes) so he is constantly clarifying. Like when he was in college he had a hard time looking for a male roommate because everyone he responded to thought he was female. We always get mail for him addressed to "Ms. ____". So while thinking of our boys name, he has vetoed anything that *might* be interpreted as a girls name because it has been such a pain for him!