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It's a new week, ladies, and I'm ready to see new babies around here!

 

However, I'm begging Sunburst to stay in at least a couple more days lol.gif DS is sick right now (fever, cough, snotty nose, etc) so I really don't want Sunburst out in this germy house just yet winky.gif And we are all totally sleep deprived because ds was up for hours last night coughing so it would not be a good time for me to have to labor/birth a baby!

 

But, just because he's adorable.... here's how my ds finally fell asleep last night. love.gif He's such a good big brother already!

 

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my previous MWs told me that babies are rarely born or fighting something off. Hope the same is true for you Steph.

And your son is so beautiful! What a sweet picture.

 

I have my 36 week appt tomorrow, so, guessing we do my GBS swab and another iron check. I have been getting some pretty painful contractions (not "organized" contractions but they hurt!) at night, baby is low. But EDD is still 4 weeks away, so I expect I'll be reading a bunch more birth stories (I love reading them!) before I'm posting mine :)

 

 

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What a sweet picture, Steph. Your son is a beautiful boy. I love pictures of my ds asleep, too.

 

My friend offered to come over while I'm at the birth center and tidy up/clean my house! joy.gif Not that I'm taking this as an opportunity to let it go to hell, but it's a nice relief to know someone will be looking out for my ultimate goal of coming home to a baby nest, not a rat's nest.

 

I had the oddest dream: you mamas with toddlers and young kids who've been experiencing, er, trying times, might identify? There was a little mouse that was very cute, like a pet mouse, that loved me and would scurry up to me from across a room, and settle on my shoulder, where I'd stroke him and it was very sweet. This happened a few times, and then the last time, the mouse crawled back around into my hair, and I couldn't see him, so I looked into the mirror and the mouse had turned into this white, disgusting insect, the kind that never sees the light of day and is just gross, and I flicked him off me onto the floor. He kept trying to scurry up to me like the mouse had done, and I kept kicking it away, and was about to squash him when...he turned into my DS! I woke up horrified at myself for kicking at him before I'd realized it was him and not that bug. I rarely dream in such literal metaphors, but it was exactly like things have been: he's either very sweet and cuddly and wonderful, or he's climbing all over me and "getting in my hair."

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StephandOwen   Oh my gosh! He's so adorable! Poor little fella. Hope he gets better soon.

 

Not too much going on in the laboring department on my end. Some BH contractions and cramping (which is new for me this pregnancy), but otherwise, she seems like she's not going anywhere just yet.

 

I think I wrote a little bit about my mom suddenly calling out of nowhere to say that she wanted to come up to help. Well, I hadn't heard from her for a few weeks after that. I assumed she decided it was too much trouble, and she agreed with me that my dad wasn't well enough. Anyway, I hear from my sister yesterday that she had booked a cruise for her and my dad in October instead!

 

It shows me that I better set my expectations pretty low with my mom and dad, and that's rather sad, but on the other hand, it's pretty funny in a ludicrous kind of way. I won't bother calling to tell her when the baby is born because she's likely to be at sea. What can you do with family sometimes?

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Wow, beautifulmoon--and this is your first? Sorry your mom is so difficult! My friend was going to have her first baby, and her mom deliberated on the phone with her whether to come out and see the baby or to buy tickets to the Portland Home Show because she loves to see what people do with their houses, blah, blah, blah.

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Steph - Your DS is so cute! Isn't it wonderful when they love on the belly. Hope you all are back to 100% soon!

 

Beautifulmoon - DH's parents are sort of like that, I have decided I cannot force them to be my idea of what grandparents should be, but it does suck sometimes. I have also realized that they are not really baby people and they seem more interested in DS now that he is getting older.

 

 

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Awww Steph, yor son is so cute.  I always want to know what everyones older kids look like when they talk about them so much.  I know not everyone is comfortable posting a million pictures of their kids on the internet though. 

 

beautifulmoon, that is awful that your mom is acting like that.  I am super close with my mom so I can't imagine if she did something of the sorts.  I could picture my dad doing that though.  I have been REALLY suprised that he actually has come down here to visit me since my pregnancy and will come after the baby is born.  His normal behavior would be to not come down here to visit at all and then pressure me to make the 15 hour trip up there to see HIM for the holidays.  He hasn't been down here to visit the whole 4 years we have been here until now.  He once took a trip to Durham which is a few hours away and didn't even tell me or come and see me.  I am glad his attitude is changing.  I hope the same for your parents.

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Steph - seriously adorable picture.

 

Rosemary - oh that would be fabulous!!! As for the dream - yeah, kind of creepy.

 

Beautifulmoon - when ds was born (in Costa Rica) my in-laws never came down (both retired & could most definitely afford it), I'm still a little bitter about it. They just plain didn't feel like it.

 

afm - this aft I have an appt with my ob. We are definitely having a serious talk about what to do about this prodromal labour (btw - why the heck did I NOT know this term meant something different than bh? I mean I've read at least a dozen pregnancy books & NONE of them mention this craziness). I didn't sleep again last night. I'm feeling awful, I'm tired, I'm feeling guilty 'cause my mil is doing so much child-minding with ds while I lie in bed in the mornings (for some reason I CAN sleep in the mornings). Sigh.

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x-posted from last chat--- just saw we have a new one.

 

Trinket: Big hugs mama! I know how much dogs become part of the family.

 

Hoping everyone is doing well. We are hanging in there. We have a super clean house and are just playing the waiting game. DH is terrified she'll come early (before my mom arrives!) and is trying his best to have me take it easy. I keep telling him she'll come when she comes. I managed to seduce him last night even though he was sure if we had sex labor would start! Ha! I told him that baby girl and I had a heart to heart- she's agreed to wait until my mom arrives next Sunday. winky.gif

 

I am getting braxton hicks just about every evening. I never had them with DD. Also, baby is putting lots of pressure on my cervix which causes lots of painful twinges. I'd like to think that its doing something but who knows. Anyone else experiencing that?- its also something I didn't have last time.

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Steph: Cute!

 

Trinket: I'm so sorry.  :(

 

AFM: DH straightened up and we got the first floor presentable for company.  Apparently, "We need to clean up, stop playing your game." wasn't specific enough.  Ah well, it's done.  The first floor and baby's room are in good shape, that's all other people really are going to be seeing when they visit.  I'm so glad I took leave a bit early, I have napped all morning.  I'm so tired.  I've been having pretty strong contractions since Friday (they kept making the 0-100 scale on the NST blink 100...nothing regular) and I haven't started dilating (that I know of).  I'm going in tomorrow.  I don't like this uncomfortable feeling with nothing happening!  

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thanks, everybody, for your kind words. I really appreciate it, especially as I haven't really allowed myself to dwell too much on it. I'm just tired of feeling hurt and disappointed in the same people, you know? Earlier in the pregnancy, when my sister bought a ticket for me to fly in to texas for a visit and baby shower, I received an urgent voice mail from my mother to call her back right away. I thought she was excited to see me. But it turns out, she wanted to know if I could schedule my visit to coincide with a trip to Portland she wanted to take with my aunts. She wanted me to take care of my dad for the duration of my visit, while she went out of town. 

 

I hope you all will indulge me a bit more in my griping, because I find myself dwelling in spite of myself and need to unload. there's the SIL who completely stopped calling, became openly hostile, and called my baby shower an "ordeal" once I got pregnant and she didn't. People asked what was wrong with her because she was so sulky the whole day. there's my other sister who hasn't called once and begged off driving in to see me when I was in texas because, as she said, she needed to pack lunches for her kid. there's my friend who helpfully told me that she knew of someone who died of the allergic reaction that I was initially diagnosed with. She also wasn't interested in driving in for the baby shower. this whole pregnancy has separated the wheat from the chaff for me, in terms of my relationships. It's been surprising and disappointing, but also illuminating. I've been wondering if others have had the same experience? 

 

contractions and more All this talk of prelabor goings-on has me expecting to go into labor any day. But I'm thinking I'm likely to go to term, so I better not get too impatient. I hope those of you experiencing a lot of discomfort get some resolution one way or the other.

 

clean houses Having a clean house makes things seem ready, I think. Glad that some of you got that off your checklists. I need to do that today.

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beautifulmoon -- oh yeah, can I ever relate. There is pain in these revelations, but also discovery. And in the end, separating the wheat from the chaff always gives me that much more room for the people who really matter and space from those to whom I simply feel an obligation of some sort. Sometimes it's easy to look at our "list" of friends and think, my, that's sort of small, isn't it? But really, the list doesn't have to be big to be powerful and supportive. I have had a number of relationships fall by the wayside since motherhood began for me more than 6 years ago, and while some of them have required re-calibrating on my part (which was good for my growth, too!), others made me realize that particular relationship's time had passed and I truly was better off without it -- or at least, without investing so much energy in it. In the end, take heart if you can from the true love and support that is available to you. Sometimes, as corny and contrived as it sounds, making a list helps. I'm an only child and have a clinically narcissistic mom and very challenging dad, so I tend to think I know a little something about the sadness and alienation that comes from having the people who are supposed to love and support you most be so disappointing. Hugs to you and hang in there!

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Beautifulmoon, do you think that your SIL is dealing with infertility? FWIW, some people that I know who experience that condition find it very hard to be happy for people who don't. An acquaintance of mine wrote this graphic novel about her infertility called Good Eggs: http://www.amazon.com/Good-Eggs-Memoir-Phoebe-Potts/dp/0061711462/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1317060849&sr=8-1

Even if that is the case, it doesn't make it easier for you, that's for sure!

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I also can't wait to meet more babies on here this week! 

 

I cannot believe that I will be 36 weeks tomorrow!! Yay!! I had a midwife appointment yesterday. Everything looks good. Had to do the GBS swab....crossing my fingers it's negative, but even if it's not, the worst is IV antibiotics (trying to not be stressed about the results of it. lol) 

 

My energy level is SO low today. Hoping it's not like this from here on out. I have yet to have any BH's or anything. Midwife said he is head down, with his body being on my left side and arms/legs toward my right side. She also said he is high up, which is fine, since I'm only 35 weeks 6 days. I'm thinking about starting to take Evening Primrose Oil tomorrow. Can't hurt, right? 

 

Steph- I hope your DS starts to feel better soon!

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Like a few other people around here, I'm on blood pressure watch. It's holding, but I think D-day is coming. I'm really really hoping to go into labor on my own, but I'll induce if I have to. I'll be 39 weeks tomorrow, though, so that's a huge milestone passed. I am pleased to make 39 with some of my other issues.
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I am getting braxton hicks just about every evening. I never had them with DD. Also, baby is putting lots of pressure on my cervix which causes lots of painful twinges. I'd like to think that its doing something but who knows. Anyone else experiencing that?- its also something I didn't have last time.


Yes, baby is suddenly on my cervix and I get sudden pain, pressure, weird twinges. And sometimes it feels like baby is stabbing my bladder and it HURTS. Tons of BH contractions, some painful, but as of last week's appt (36 weeks) I was barely dilated (like half a centimeter, which according to medical terms is not dilated.)

 

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Steph ... Great photo!

 

Beautifulmoon ... Oh, how family drama escalates around a birth!  I'm sorry that you have to deal with your mom's crap right now when it'd be so much better to have her support.

 

Jane ... You and me both!  Let's get these babies coming before we have to induce.  My midwife does an oil of verbena induction cocktail that I might ask for this week before she starts talking induction.  I'm pretty sure this baby will come fast, being that I was 6cm and stretchy at my last check on Thursday. 

 

lifeguard ... Why don't you join Jane and myself as we 'will' these babies into the world.  Three preggo women doing squats and chugging oil of verbena in apricot juice and chanting 'down and out, babies' has got to amount to something, right?

 

Hello to everyone else!  This is as much typing as my swollen, aching hands and fingers will allow. 

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Steph - It is a super sweet picture.  And I also have older sibling + germs + newborn on the brain.  DS will be getting his first flu shot in a couple weeks, pretty much cuz I figure he's way more exposed now that he's in preschool.  I never got a flu shot before and am not sure I'll get one this year.  But I think I may get the Tdap (DH got one at his recent Dr. appt.).  And DS has only gotten 3 DTaPs...I was planning on waiting until he turned 4 to do the next booster (as per "state law"), but now I'm second-guessing myself.  [not trying to start a pro/con vax thing here....just sharing where my head is, germ-wise, right now]

 

Rosemary - Love the dream!  And yay for friends volunteering to come straighten up.  When we were at the birth center with DS I asked my mom to go to my house to feed our cat.  She and my sister came over and straightened up, brought flowers and food, etc.  When we came home my mom said, "I threw out the half-eaten bagel that was on the kitchen counter.  Hope you weren't planning on saving it."  (That was my attempt at eating before we drove to the birth center).

 

beautifulmoon - Hugs to you....it's hard to have people in our lives who aren't in a place where they can be loving and supportive and think of other people.

 

AFM - Ok...it's 3:30pm and the "handy man" who lives in the house next door (a big old house converted into apartments) has picked this time - yet again - to start doing noisy work.  What time is it?  DS's nap time, of course. 

 

Getting ready for Wednesday's fun prenatal visit....GBS swab, STD check (I guess I declined originally, but they won't let me waive the eye ointment unless they have a negative on record for this pregnancy)...and crossing fingers for no glucose in the peepee.  Planning on abstaining from dessert tomorrow night and then a delicious scrambled egg breakfast, no fruit (sigh), no cereal and milk (sigh), no tea with sugar (double sigh).  But, here's a question: So, if I eat differently and have no glucose in my pee, what does that mean exactly?  Does that mean I shouldn't have cereal and milk and fruit in the morning for the next 4 weeks?

 

I think I may have found a rug for the baby's room.  http://www.garnethill.com/floor-tile-hooked-wool-rug-by-garnet-hill/bedding-home/rugs/view-all-rugs/174970 in the Garnet color.  We did the walls "pear  green" with a "sweet butter" (kinda orangey yellow) ceiling.  And I got a quilt to hang on the wall (from someone on etsy) that has blues, greens, oranges, browns.  Once we're more together-looking...which may be after the baby's born...I'll post a pic on the baby's room thread.

 

And, I'm also getting a little freaked out by the fact that we already have DDC birth stories.  While I'm expecting to go to 40 weeks, I'm getting anxious that it'll happen early.

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Steph:  aw how cute! Hope Sunburst stays put until your DS feels better :)

 

Rosemary: what a sweet friend! As for the dream, that would definitely be disconcerting, but it definitely makes sense.

 

beautifulmoon: ugh, so sorry...no advice, just hugs! It sucks to be dealing with family drama like that on top of being pregnant.

 

livacreature: glad you were able to get the house cleaned up, even if your DH was a little...er, slow...to help you.

 

AKislandgirl: I'm definitely getting the cervix twinges too...sometimes strong enough that if I'm walking I almost fall down because it makes one or the other of my hips feel disjointed for a minute. Weird.

 

AFM: so this prodromal labor business...can anyone tell me more about it? I've been having BH contractions off and on pretty constantly for weeks now, but the last week or so I've had episodes of contractions that are fairly strong and regular, but disappear after an hour or two (I'm 37wks 4days). This morning I woke up at 4:30 with a particularly nasty contraction, then had another, and another, so I started timing them...they were about 30-45 seconds each, every 5 or 6 minutes for almost two hours, wouldn't go away with rest/activity/hydration/etc., and then, when I was thinking that maybe I should start thinking about calling the midwife...they just petered out. ARGH!

 

Other than that frustration, I had a pretty awesome weekend...all four of my sisters and my mom came over on Saturday and gave DH and I a little family baby shower...my sisters all brought beautiful little handmade gifts, and my mom filled our freezer with homemade ravioli and our cold room with pounds and pounds of produce fresh from her garden. And, to top it all off, despite having five adults and two toddlers under two in our little house for several hours, the place was actually cleaner after they left! So instead of cleaning all day Sunday like we were expecting to do, DH and I were able to just relax and do fun things instead...made a big batch of gingersnap cookies, 8 pints of blueberry jam, filled up our porch with firewood in preparation for the cold weather, and I sewed another 9 sets of washable breast pads...hooray!  

 

ETA: just heard from the midwife that I am negative for GBS, woohoo!

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Gosh, I feel behind!!

 

Steph:   Handsome boy!!! I hope he feels better soon!

Rosemary:  Your dream was awesome!  Your brain was very clearly sorting through real life,lol.gif

 

I had my own toddler trauma related dream.  I have been having a mini crisis of the  "omg, how am I ever going to cope with a newborn and a 2 yo who never sleeps???"  variety.  I had this dream that I agreed to keep a friend's 5 mo old baby for the night and she arrived with him and a truckload of baby gear, then drove off - my house was full of swings and cribs and diapers everywhere and every bit of knowledge I have about taking care of a baby flew right out of my brain.  I couldn't remember how to make a bottle or get him to sleep.....and DD was running circles around us, tearing up the house....the 5mo old decided that looked like great fun and decided to start walking!...then he ran around with her  all night while I desperately tried (and failed) to cal my friend and get her to come pick him up, haha!

Ah well, last time I was dreaming every night about giving birth to kittens, this isn't as bad as that lol.gif

 

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I think I wrote a little bit about my mom suddenly calling out of nowhere to say that she wanted to come up to help. Well, I hadn't heard from her for a few weeks after that. I assumed she decided it was too much trouble, and she agreed with me that my dad wasn't well enough. Anyway, I hear from my sister yesterday that she had booked a cruise for her and my dad in October instead!

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 My friend was going to have her first baby, and her mom deliberated on the phone with her whether to come out and see the baby or to buy tickets to the Portland Home Show because she loves to see what people do with their houses, blah, blah, blah.

I know this isn't sympathetic, but oh how I wish my parents would book a cruise or a home show instead of visiting us!!  lol.gif

 

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Awww Steph, yor son is so cute.  I always want to know what everyones older kids look like when they talk about them so much.  I know not everyone is comfortable posting a million pictures of their kids on the internet though. 

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I know, I would love to see some pictures and would totally share one - I don't know how people feel about that?
 

 

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I am getting braxton hicks just about every evening. I never had them with DD. Also, baby is putting lots of pressure on my cervix which causes lots of painful twinges. I'd like to think that its doing something but who knows. Anyone else experiencing that?- its also something I didn't have last time.

 

I am definitely having lots of different cervical pain this time...and it makes me hopeful.  I have sort of a constant, burning crampy pain that sort of reminds me of how it felt during the cervical gel they used when I was induced with DD.....anyone else?  Burny/crampy=dilation?  (fingers crossed)
 

 

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beautifulmoon -- oh yeah, can I ever relate. There is pain in these revelations, but also discovery. And in the end, separating the wheat from the chaff always gives me that much more room for the people who really matter and space from those to whom I simply feel an obligation of some sort. Sometimes it's easy to look at our "list" of friends and think, my, that's sort of small, isn't it? But really, the list doesn't have to be big to be powerful and supportive. I have had a number of relationships fall by the wayside since motherhood began for me more than 6 years ago, and while some of them have required re-calibrating on my part (which was good for my growth, too!), others made me realize that particular relationship's time had passed and I truly was better off without it -- or at least, without investing so much energy in it. In the end, take heart if you can from the true love and support that is available to you. 

 

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Starling -  Hi! nice to know you're still reading, but I wish you were busy with something else!!  babyf.gif

 

 

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I think I may have found a rug for the baby's room.  http://www.garnethill.com/floor-tile-hooked-wool-rug-by-garnet-hill/bedding-home/rugs/view-all-rugs/174970 in the Garnet color.  We did the walls "pear  green" with a "sweet butter" (kinda orangey yellow) ceiling.  And I got a quilt to hang on the wall (from someone on etsy) that has blues, greens, oranges, browns.  Once we're more together-looking...which may be after the baby's born...I'll post a pic on the baby's room thread.

 

 

That rug is fantastic!  All their rugs have me all wanty!!
 

AFM:  Trying to keep busy. Trying to keep DD busy.  I'm pulling out all the stops here - playdough, glow sticks, glue, new toys.....I get so out of breath even standing up that I really need to sit on the sofa as much as I can. guilty.gif  I need her to be happy and occupied.

 

I made a mobile for the baby today, will post pics in the baby room thread.  Next is a crib quilt.  

 

ETA:  Aaaaand, I just taught my 2 yo the S word.  Mother of the year!!!  duh.gif

 


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