I hope Lifeguard's baby is staying in and Starling's baby is coming out!
Hello baby boom around here!!!! Pi and Jane have both had their wee ones - amazing!!
As the babies roll in I realize I have been in a bit of denial - it seems so strange to suddenly realize you're all going to have new little people any day now....and that means *I* will actually have a new little person SOON, too!!
Partner issues:I've been dreading post-baby issues and have felt them start to surface already. After DD was born, I was just so ANGRY at Dh for about 5 or 6 months...like, I had RAGE. I felt like he was constantly making things harder and had no idea how exhausted I was. DH grew up in a hoarding household where house cleaning/maintenance were really never done, and the little bit that was done, he certainly was never taught or expected to do. He has come MILES from when I first met him and now appreciates a clean house and has a better idea of how it happens....but after DD was born, I wanted to kill him, I swear. I was also really angry at my MIL, honestly - for raising him and not preparing him for life as a normal person.
I have absolutely no problem doing the vast majority of household work since he works such long hours and I can stay home because he works so hard. BUT, I do mind having to pick up after a grown man who can't figure out how to clean up after he cooks, or put his laundry in the hamper instead of on the floor, or do any sort of task without leaving a giant mess in his wake. And then he expected as soon as the baby was asleep I should be ready for couple time. It's like....ok, the baby is asleep - now I have to do the laundry and the dishes you left, and then maybe shower the baby puke out of my hair and have a cup of tea...THEN we can talk about snuggling but honestly, sleep ranks higher on the priorities.
I have already felt that rage bubbling a bit as I clean up behind him. He's started getting the groceries, which is great - but he brings them home and plunks them on the kitchen floor instead of putting them away. He'll feed DD breakfast and leave yogurt all over the table, dishes and spoons everywhere. I'll ask him to put a new load of laundry in and as he switches loads, he'll take whatever clean clothes are in the dryer, leave them ON TOP of the dryer and come upstairs without them....gah!!!!!!
He is a wonderful, lovely, intelligent man who would do ANYTHING for us and I am SO LUCKY, but my god..... I really, really hope I don't feel so much anger this time. We have such a good relationship...so low conflict...we never fight...we're just happy. So it was really hard to be so mad at him for so many months. I know alot of what I have just complained about is totally minor and no big deal....which makes it even harder to be so angry about it.
I'm the spender in our relationship, so I shouldn't complain - I'm sure that drives him as crazy as his mess does me
AFM: I've been feeling a little better. I got more new pillows and now take up most of our king size bed with my set-up, but I have been getting better sleep (not MORE, just better), and I feel a little more sane. DD's bedtime battles haven't resolved but I have resorted to skipping her afternoon nap and letting her wind down into sheer exhaustion until she falls asleep somewhere after supper and can't argue about bedtime.
I'm working on baby's quilt and that will keep me occupied for another week, maybe...then I need a new project to keep my mind busy.
Also, WHY IS MY HOUSE SO DIRTY? Well, other than DH as above....I swear I keep cleaning and the dirt keeps coming back overnight.