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Re. sharing photos of our kids...I'm wondering if the new Social Group (or whatever it's called) that we're forming post-DDC is more private than this forum.  I realize this is different than, say, Facebook, where I really know all my "friends"....and for MDC stuff we just know each other virtually...but if the social group is something we have to register for than maybe it offers a bit more privacy for folks who want to feel more secure posting photos n' stuff.

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rosemary - that book looks very interesting. Infertility is certainly a very difficult thing to deal with - when we were in the thick of it I could stand to see my friends - I was bitter towards the world. Oddly being on my 2nd pregnancy in some ways the hurts are still very there.

 

starling - I'm in! Anything to get this girl out!

 

labruja - sounds like you might be in the club - sigh. The difference with prodromal labour over bh is that they DO settle into a timeable pattern & can go on for extended periods which has certainly been my experience. At least a few hours every day - usually for 2 sessions, sometimes for a couple days in a row.

 

afm - I saw my ob this aft & it went fairly well. He offered to do a cervical check which I decided wasn't a bad idea. The nurse came in & said he'll check, if he can get a finger in he'll do a sweep, which I was most definitely ok with. Well, he came in & did the check. Right away he says "wow, she's right there" & then he says I'm going to be really gentle - no sweep, if I do anything you'll be in labour before you get home. I wanted to scream "well for goodness sakes' do it!!!" but I refrained. So he thinks that I am incredibly close, everything's soft, 3cm dilated (still), 50% effaced & she's nice & low. I realize in a lot of ways this means nothing but it's still reassuring!

 

Anyway, we booked the induction for next Thursday morning (I already knew we wouldn't be going past 40 weeks which is next Saturday) & he doesn't seem to think I'll make it that far - if I do he seems pretty positive that at most I'll need the cervical gel to get things going (which was the case with ds as well).

 

I also confirmed I am gbs+ but he also confirmed that when I go in they will hook me up to iv for the antibiotics but as soon as they are done we can disconnect the iv - so that was a good thing.

 

I told dh when I got home that tonight we are dtd. He's not thrilled. Hahahaha

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Gorgeous boy, Steph. I love getting photos of those moments. love.gif

 

Emma, I hope for the sake of academic goals that you get to read plenty of birth stories before experiencing yours!

 

Rosemary, what a horrifying nightmare! Agh!! But what amazing friends. That's so great.

 

beautifulmoon, hug.gif hug.gif hug.gif I'm sorry your mom is not more supportive.

 

Poodge, that's great that they are more interested as he gets older. I admit that as much as babies are great, I really like kids best starting around age 3 or so. Should I ever be so lucky to be a grandparent, I will absolutely want to provide support around birth time, but it will probably be all about helping the parents, not so much about seeing the baby.

 

tank, that's so great that your dad is coming around.

 

lifeguard, I am such a morning sleeper as well. Whenever I have trouble sleeping at night, the one time I can count on getting a little rest is the morning. DH and I tend to split child duty such that I handle nighttime stuff, he handles early mornings. Good luck, and I hope things get moving soon!

 

Sue, ha! I hope your mom gets there first.

 

livacreature, glad to hear things worked out overall.

 

newyorkmommy, that's so true about wheat and chaff.

 

cbeclipse, fingers crossed for GBS negative.

 

Jane, hooray for 39 weeks! I hope your BP stays within limits.

 

MN Babydust, that sounds painful. Yikes!

 

starling, best of luck!

 

not_telling, if you have no glucose next time, you could think about perhaps moderating your morning sugar intake a little, since it's just for a few weeks? Really, though, two data points on a very crude metric (chemstrips) is not a lot on which to base a decision.

 

LaBruja, what a great shower!

 

Katico, oh shit. lol.gif Do you have safety scissors? I remember those being one of the BEST ways to occupy DS at that age -- a pair of safety scissors and a stack of sheets from an old magazine would buy us a good fifteen minutes to half an hour.

 

Re: photos, as I understand it, the social groups are only slightly more private. Anyone can read, they are still google-indexed, etc. It's just that only members can post.

 

AFM, I have been sitting at my computer, working away, and ignoring some mild contractions all day. They only got stronger when I walked to pick up DS and are now starting to get harder to ignore. On the one hand, perhaps this means something exciting. On the other hand, I really wouldn't mind a couple more days of work time, baby! (At the very least, I need to finish some paper revisions that are due today.)

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Katico, oh shit. lol.gif Do you have safety scissors? I remember those being one of the BEST ways to occupy DS at that age -- a pair of safety scissors and a stack of sheets from an old magazine would buy us a good fifteen minutes to half an hour.

 

Oh, yes!  Scissors!  DS is sooo into cutting right now.  Kinda like our sticker conversation ("wasting" stickers) it drives me a little nuts when we take a fresh piece of colored construction paper out and the next thing I know it's in a million little pieces that need to be recycled (some can be saved for collage).  But he seems to prefer art paper to catalogues for cutting, unfortunately.  'course, I'm not really comfortable leaving him alone while he's using his scissors since I don't know what else he'll be inspired to start cutting...but I can do stuff in the next room while he's busy.

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Pi - that sounds exciting....

 

Dh refused to have sex with me. He's totally freaked out by the baby being "right there". Sigh.

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Dh refused to have sex with me. He's totally freaked out by the baby being "right there". Sigh.

 

Oh, tell him to suck it up!  Or just give him no choice  lol.gif  OR  remind him how long it will be post-baby before he's getting any nookie!

 

Scissors- thank you for the idea!  I bought a pair for in her Xmas stocking but I will pull them out now!

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lifeguard--my DH would be exactly the same way! Before I got pregnant he swore as soon as he could tell (as soon as I was "showing") he would go anywhere near that region. He quickly reconsidered once I actually was pregnant... but it still creeps him out a little to think about potentially "poking" the baby. No matter how much I explain the anatomy. If he knew the baby really WAS "right there".... he wouldn't touch me! Good luck getting labor going. I'm as excited for all these DDC babies as I am for my own!

 

false/prodromal labor: sometimes I get frustrated because I have NOTHING going on... not even that many BH. Then I remember all of you with your awful and maddening "just kidding" moments and I feel a little better.

 

Scissors are such a fantastic idea for keeping little ones busy... but it's pretty scary to take your eyes off them when they're playing with them! Safety scissors mean no cut fingers, etc... not necessarily that the really important, difficult to replace document that you have sitting on your desk won't end up as pretty confetti!

 

afm--my attempt at pregnancy diet has gone out the window lately. I'm constantly forgetting to eat, being too tired/lazy to make anything healthy, and just plain eating crap. For my birthday tonight my mom made nachos, then cheesecake, ice cream, and cool whip for dessert. I ate... oh, so much. So bad. This kid is going to like nothing but cheese, salty foods, sweets...

 

I had a WIC appointment today. They're tricky! I went in to pick up my new checks and they made me sit through a breastfeeding class first! I have no problem with the class, I think it's great to encourage breastfeeding for these moms. Unfortunately, it's a very basic class and I learned most of this stuff before I was 10, watching my mom breastfeed. It made for a very boring 45 minutes. This program isn't really designed for "crunchy" mamas.

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It's midnight.  My child is still awake.  Bedtime started over 4 hours ago.  She has slapped, kicked, screamed, thrown toys.....  I finally got her to sleep TWICE and as soon as I put her down she was on her feet screaming again.  

 

She is now upstairs in bed with DH, still chattering away.  And I am about to sleep on the sofa.  Because I am too angry to sleep next to her and because I get so little sleep to begin with, I cannot cope with her elbows and knees and body heat tonight.

 

I am a terrible failure of a mother and I give up.  She wins.  She has utterly and completely whipped my butt.

 

surrender.gif

 

I have no idea what to do, either during our day or at bedtime that can fix this.  We have never ever had such huge bedtime issues.  Routine and rhythm, lots of good wholesome food, lots of love and play during the day.........then gentle, quiet evenings, predictable bedtime, snuggles and songs and books.........what else can I do?????

 

I am so exhausted.  I am completely terrified for life with two.  

 

 

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39wks and day 2 of losing bits & pieces of my mucus plug.  Kinda cool bc I've never experienced this before with my other 2 kids.  Not getting excited or anything, but it's def fun :P

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It's midnight.  My child is still awake.  Bedtime started over 4 hours ago.  She has slapped, kicked, screamed, thrown toys.....  I finally got her to sleep TWICE and as soon as I put her down she was on her feet screaming again.  

 

She is now upstairs in bed with DH, still chattering away.  And I am about to sleep on the sofa.  Because I am too angry to sleep next to her and because I get so little sleep to begin with, I cannot cope with her elbows and knees and body heat tonight.

 

I am a terrible failure of a mother and I give up.  She wins.  She has utterly and completely whipped my butt.

 

surrender.gif

 

I have no idea what to do, either during our day or at bedtime that can fix this.  We have never ever had such huge bedtime issues.  Routine and rhythm, lots of good wholesome food, lots of love and play during the day.........then gentle, quiet evenings, predictable bedtime, snuggles and songs and books.........what else can I do?????

 

I am so exhausted.  I am completely terrified for life with two.  

 

 


hug2.gifI wish I had some advice.  That sounds utterly exhausting.  I am also worried about life with 2. DD is very mommy-centered ATM & I have no idea how I'm going to deal.

 

 

Scissors are a good idea.  Personally, I've been letting DD go nuts with paint lately.  It always starts on paper, but then inevitably I stop paying attention and it ends up all over her, the floor, etc.  So thankful to whoever invented washable paint orngbiggrin.gif

 

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Oh, Katico. I'm so sorry. hug.gif You are not a failure. You are a mother of a two year old. This is what they are like. (Well, some of them, anyway.) Can your DH fully take over bedtime for at least couple of nights just to give you an emotional break?

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katico - we have had so many of those bedtime moments. Sigh. It's rough. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ESFANzZTdYM You might get a kick out of this tonight.

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Speaking of sleeplessness ... ugh. sleepytime.gif

 

BTW, Katico, I was recently re-reading some old stuff I had written down when DS was little. When he was 2, we initiated a temporary system of bribery to help us get back on track with bedtime. It worked beautifully. If you are open to bribery as a parenting method, I recommend it. Here is what I wrote at the time:

 

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Bribery: fun for the whole family!

 

A little while ago, we fell into a rut of an increasingly long and unpredictable bedtime routine. I was working a lot of late nights, so it frequently involved DH taking DS for a drive and putting him back in bed, at which point DS would wake up and I would nurse him back down. We didn’t like using the car as a crutch, nor were we fond of the length of the routine. It occasionally stretched to several hours, on rare occasions also involved DS getting out of bed and starting the whole thing over again, and we did not think it was good for any of us.

 

After a stretch of laziness (in which we hoped that if we just ignored the problem, it would go away, and DS would simply return to his previously reasonable sleep habits) we decided to tackle the issue by adding (a) more structure and (b) outright bribery. DH and I are not terribly routine-oriented people, but we acknowledge the value of routine for small people, so we put extra priority on consistency about dinner time, bedtime (7:30-7:45 p.m. for the start of the routine) and bedtime routine (pyjamas and teeth with Daddy, then reading books, singing songs, nursing, and rubbing of toddler’s back with Maman.)

 

The real genius of this program was the Pile Of Presents Incentive (TM). We picked up a bunch of toys and books that, frankly, DH and I had been wanting to get for him anyway. We had been resisting our consumerist tendencies, so giving ourselves permission to indulge them was a lot of fun. We got him the previously mentioned window crayons, some very cool animal figurines, some small wooden trucks, a cube puzzle, a few books, some block crayons, and some really cool toy vehicles like a front loader that articulates and a helicopter with rotors that spin.

 

Then we packaged them all up in our enormous Christmas boxes and bags, and brought DS in to see the wonders that could all be his …

 

… so long as he went to sleep calmly and stayed there. Every morning after he went to sleep without a fuss and stayed in bed, he could choose a present. The first few nights required reminders, “Est-ce que tu veux ton cadeau demain?” and we didn’t hit a groove of presents every morning until the second week, but pretty quickly, he totally got it, and would mutter to himself as he fell asleep, “Yeah, ‘deau.”

 

It has now been about a week and a half since we ran out of presents and weaned off mentions of le cadeau as a reminder at night, and I think it is safe to say (touch wood) that this intervention has worked beautifully. Our bedtime routine is now down to a very sane 20-60 minutes (depending mainly on how many books we read) and I don’t know about DS, but DH and I are much happier.

 

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I think I would happily cut off my legs right now if it meant I could sleep. I'm in restless leg hell. It's almost 6:00am & I have yet to sleep AT ALL tonight. Come on baby girl - put mommy out of her misery & join us in this world!!!!

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wave.gif Hi Lifeguard. Me too. Sigh. Not the legs (you poor thing) just not sleeping. Ds nightmares and crazy dreams of my own woke me up around 3. I've read about 100 pages of my book and eaten, oh, my third small meal since dinner! I get hungry being up when I'm supposed to be down. DH got up to catch the early train since he didn't sleep after our little guy came in, either. Usually the little mat on the floor and a blanket are enough, but he had his recurring nightmare about "the moon's house" (????) which is apparently really awful. Poor little guy, but also--poor me!

 

I'm not close like any of you to my due date, but I'm living vicariously through you. Still 5 weeks to go for me. BH are getting stronger and harder to breathe with. Oh, the joys.

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so funny about DHs and DTD... mine is pretty shy about public affection etc but really has never cared about cosleeping babies or full-term fetuses (even when its uncomfortable for me...). In fact, I think he loves when I am pregnant b/c he doesn't have to worry about me getting pregnant.

 

I've used "herbs for kids" valerian super calm herbal "medicine" for my kids to help with sleep. their biggest problem is early waking though. 5:11 today for the younger, 5:30 for the older.

 

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Beth- i'm so sorry your night went that bad. I hope you and dh can figure out a way to get everyone more sleep.
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lifeguard My doula said that the progesterone in sperm works to hasten labor whether it's delivered vaginally or . . . ahem . . . orally. Perhaps your DH would be more amenable to the latter? wink1.gif

 

katico I can't even imagine what it might be like to be pregnant and dealing with a young child. (and btw, your post in response to mine made me laugh)

 

rosemary the graphic novel looks really interesting. I'll see if I can find it in my library.

 

newyorkmommy thanks for your perspective on the matter. I like what you say about it being a discovery of sorts. And yes, when I thought about my "list", it did seem small until I thought about the people on it. And then I felt very lucky.

 

 

I felt a bit chagrined after posting because it felt so whiny to complain. I swear I'm not so mopey in real life. But I do appreciate all the hugs. Now it's time to carry on!


Edited by beautifulmoon - 9/28/11 at 6:15am
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Ok, lifeguard, that video had me laughing so hard I couldn't stop.  THANK YOU.  That was exactly what I needed.  biglaugh.gif

 

Pi,   I am SO down with bribery right now...I've been halfheartedly reminding her we can have lots of fun and play with new things in the morning if she would just go to sleep...but clearly I need to take it up a notch!

 

"Then we packaged them all up in our enormous Christmas boxes and bags, and brought DS in to see the wonders that could all be his …"

 

LOVE.  Genius.   I already have a big box of new toys and little activities I've put together - I have been pulling out a new one every day to get us through....why not maximize them and do this!?!!!

 

I am totally wrapping up the new crayons and scissors and sparkly pompoms and puzzles and animals and window clings and sensory tub..... 

 

I am going to manipulate the little terrorist into bed with shiney things and I am not remotely ashamed of it  lol.gif

 

Thank you all for your sympathy....everything feels so desperate sometimes when you're pregnant, yknow?

 

Restless legs:  Seriously!!!  Lifeguard, I feel your pain - it is utterly miserable.  I hope you got some sleep this morninghug2.gif

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Count me in for HORRID sleep last night.  Was up until at least 2:30am....heartburn, trouble being comfortable.  Then slept a little.  Then up at 4am with horrible gastrointestinal crampage.  And never went back to sleep.  When DH got up at 6am I told him I was having stomach issues and that if it evolved into something nasty, I would call him to come home early.  I had diahrrea twice so far this morning...and the second time was when I was trying to get DS ready for the day...and I was trying to ignore the cramps for a couple minutes...and then, as I hustled to the bathroom, I had a minor accident in my underwear.  Oy.  The hopefully good news is that it's been almost 2 hours since I had diahrrea and I haven't felt cramping in the last hour.  Hopefully it's over.  But it freaked me out, cuz I think it was also causing some contractions (I'm having a hard time these days determining if my stomach feels all contracted and tight or just full-of-baby)...and I was also thinking how loose stools can preceed labor.  And I'm so counting on lasting for these next 3.5 weeks.  Today I was going to run over to Target to return some shoes I got for DS and get a few last minute items (gauze pads for with hazel, plastic bags/containers for freezing food) and go to Whole Foods to get some drinks for labor and post-labor (fruit-flavored coconut water, iced tea, juice) and some ingredients I need for my contribution to Rosh Hashana dinner tomorrow night.  But, I'm a little worried about straying from easy bathroom access.  I have, however, started putting together my birth bag....juuussssssst in case.

 

Katico - Agreed....you're doing all  you can to set DD up for a good bedtime.  Bedtime just sometimes really sucks with these little ones.  Removing yourself sounds like the best idea to me.

 

NDFanatik - I sense an impending birth story.  biggrinbounce.gif

 

Keeping Little Ones Occupied - The IL's got this for DS for Xmas last year: http://www.amazon.com/Water-Magic-Painting-Activity-Artist/dp/1593598424

It's great cuz there's really no mess involved except sometimes spilled water (I make sure just to put a tiny bit of water in a wide cup/container for DS so spills aren't massive).  I'm also finding that watercolors feel far more manageable than regular tempera painting at an easel.  Less setting up, less cleaning up.

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