raising grandchild hiv positive & mother was on pot... - Page 4

[Linda on the move]

Originally Posted by Smokering 

 I just don't think she should feel guilt-tripped into supporting the decision simply because it's legal, or because her moral stance might cause offense.

I agree with this. I don't think guilt is a good reason to do much of anything, and I think that being clear in one's morals  and honest with those around them is a good thing. 

But I think it can be difficult to do that in way that still nurtures our relationships with people who feel differently than us and yet are important to us, such as our grown children. How to stay true to ourselves and yet still stay connected to those we love who feel differently is difficult.

I don't see the answer as simplistically as just avoiding saying anything that another could take offense at, because staying true to ourselves still needs to be part of it. It's a dilemma.

Smokering, I'm sure we have more in common than we have different, even though we have different perspectives on this difficult and devise issue.

[APToddlerMama]

Originally Posted by beenmum 

Having kids doesnt make on an authority on morality. Why would MDCers have an extra sensibility to this topic?

She wasn't saying having kids makes one a moral authority.  The point is that it is surprising that MDCers cannot understand grief and offer support for that instead of turning the conversation into a debate on abortion or morality.