Sometime over the past couple of months, our 6yo son has developed "an attitude" and I don't know where it came from or how to improve it.
Examples include - anything and everything that is not his idea or on his agenda is "Stupid" A typical scenrio would be me needing to stop at the grocery store on the way home but DS wants to go right home, this results in the "stupid store, stupid mommy, stupid car" rantings.
This weekend his Nana (my mom) came to town to watch his soccer game. He said "I didn't want you to come" and later, after he scored a goal, Nana said she was proud of him, he responded along the lines of "I am never going to score another goal because I don't like you saying that." It was like he intentionally wanted to hurt her feelings.
In other areas of our lives, it is like everytime I say "white" he says "black" just to agrue against me. I don't need him to agree with me but holy cow, he seems to intentially chose negative or contrary response just to be difficult.
Is this a phase?
We are all baffled by this because we are a postive family. He didn't learn to rant and rave about "being stupid" from us, that is for sure.
I am really bothered by his attitude towards his Nana, who adores him. DH and I both like my mother so it isn't like DS is picking up some sort of bad attitude towards her from us. At times, he is outright disrespectful to her.
His little friends are nice kids and I don't think he is getting it from them. And this all started long before school so I can't blame it on starting kindergarten.
I don't know how to respond to his attitude. When he gets on the stupid rants, I calmly say "we dont' use that word when talking about our family members and people we love". DH, on the other hand, starts lecturing him and I can see DS totally tuning him out. Neither reaction seems to be working.