I've always been fairly pro-homework. I think that homework can be useful in teaching children about time management, work ethic, etc. Or that's how I felt until my son starting having homework!
We need differentiated work for DS. His teacher is dragging her feet on even meeting with us, and I'm at the point of going over her head since she can't seem to find a time for a parent-teacher conference.
DS is bringing home what I consider busy work. It's basic patterns (2-3 pieces repeating) and basic addition. DS' math skills are years ahead of that work. At home, he's working on multiplication & division. We do multi-digit addition & subtraction. He plays Sudoku, tangrams, chess for fun. I bought a 2nd grade math curriculum for him that we're zipping through to learn any random skills he doesn't have. We've done fun stuff like early geometry, basic equations (simple linear equations), Roman numerals. (I am preparing all of this information for our meeting with his school.)
He didn't finish his homework last week. The parts he did do were a struggle. He cries and argues about why he should have to do "preschool" work. Of course to be fair, he did pay our 4YO to do 2 pages for him before we realized it. (She's cheap, too - only 10 cents per page!) Anyway, his teacher sent home this note yesterday about how he needed to complete his homework because it counts as part of his grade and that homework is very important. It was irksome yesterday, but we had several things going on after school. I did have him complete the homework and take it in today. The more I think about it, though, the more just absolutely fuming I am that this woman who cannot find a time to meet with us dares to write us a chiding note about doing work that he was figuring out on his own at age 2! I've never thought we'd opt out of homework, but I'm wondering if it's best to say that we're opting out until he can have homework that is on his level. He's begging for math work at home, which is why we're doing the formal curriculum. (The game/puzzle stuff he just does on his own.) Would we be wrong to opt out until it's more appropriate? I feel that it's just homework for the sake of homework, which I'm finding is really distracting from the actual task of learning.