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Zubeldia- Your new house does sound worth it!  That will be nice to be around all that beauty and to not have to commute.  I have been fixing up our old house for the past 5 years and I am almost done.  I've done a lot of the work myself, it's been my outlet when I have felt high emotion.  I was almost done with the last few projects, then got pregnant.  It's been a bit hard for me to sit back and look at unfinished projects.  My husband and I talked last night about what projects we are going to let go and what ones we will hire someone to do.  It is really worth it to live in a comfortable, nice house.  Our house is really small and modest but I like it.  

And your son is ADORABLE! 

Texanromaniac- You never said if we should call you Rainey Daye or Tex?  Glad the stringy stuff stopped.  We are also going to take it easy that department.  Glad you are past the mark with Riley.  I need constant projects to fill my mind- I have a secret mess of shame.  My cousin calls it the "Roberts room" after the women in our family that all have a room piled to the ceiling with crap.  I keep my house so tidy that people have asked if we are moving.  But I do have this other room... We have a studio where my husband draws and I have my area of piles.  We are having a house guest on Wednesday, staying for the month of October so I HAVE to clean up before then.  I took a truck load of stuff to the thrift store yesterday and saved a couple boxes of toys for baby #2.  

Matushka- I have bladder pressure also.  Yay!  I was starting to show when I miscarried and that was so recent that I know this womanly body will just pop out!  I have been waking up to pee and that seriously brings me joy.  I love the "March of Triumph!"  Your husband is a sweetheart.  

 

-Violet

post #162 of 514

Tested positive! I was sitting there with sweaty palms thinking they were going to say, "no, I'm sorry, it's negative." Whew. There was a woman there with her baby in a car seat, obviously there for her 6 week checkup. It was hard to look at. I have an appointment and ultrasound on the 18th at which time I'll be 7 weeks so I should most definitely be able to see a heartbeat. I will not be out of the woods yet, but it will be a relief to see (if it's there). I know statistically that your risk of mc goes way down once you see a good hb (and with my age, the highest risk of mc is in the first 6-8 weeks). It's going to be a hard wait.

 

My friend is at her appt right now. I'm sure she's having another u/s to see what's going on (2 weeks ago they said the baby had stopped developing at 5wks6days). I know she still has a little hope, but I'm pretty sure they were right. I hope they give her something like miso to help her get started since she hasn't even been spotting or cramping. She doesn't know about my BFP yet. I was hoping to wait until her mc had completed before telling her because it would be slightly less a slap in the face. It's going to be hard no matter what. Given I was told about some pregnancies (like, a million) since March you'd think I'd know the best way to tell her, but I don't. Anyone have any suggestions?

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Zub- Your little boy is very cute! Your new house sounds amazing! That will be a nice fresh start to a new chapter:)

 

 

Manna- KUP about your appt today, when do you leave for your vacation?

 

Texas- Glad you are feeling better:)

 

AFM- I'm just waiting for the results of my 3rd beta....does anyone else have sore breasts...I mean my boobies are sore and swollen, but my nipples are so tender that I can't touch them and are even sensitive to being in a bra...ok, sorry if thats TMI...:)

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Manna- yay! I think we cross posted..anywho, YAY for the BFP at the Dr office! Unfortuately, in the past,  I've gone through what you friend is going through.....all my hormones were normal (this was pregnancy #3), I went in to have my 8 week scan and the baby only measured 6 weeks...the dates were way too off for me to have any hope, but my OB had me wait 2 weeks then come back...same thing, only measured 6 weeks..we waited 2 more weeks to see what my body was going to do..by this time, it had be 12 weeks since my last cycle and my body wasn't doing anything. I had 2 options - D&C or take some suppository medication that would induce contractions..I went with the meds...it was painful, but tolerable, I passed huge clots for 2 weeks, but my body did complete things without a D&C....I'm not sure how your friend feels about either option, but you can share my story with her if you think it will help her in any way. I was certainly happy to avoid the D&C, but it's a personal choice of course. As far as sharing your news with her...well my best advice would be just to wait a little while to allow her to begin to heal....will she be hurt if you don't tell her right away? I just know that if she is starting the miscarriage process, then she just may be too fragile right now. I'm sorry I don't have better advice....

 

  Congrats again, I'm so excited to be on this journey together:) I hope that in a few months we are all discussing baby names together!!!! 

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Yes, I wasn't planning on telling her until after her mc was completed. I don't know what she'll do, but I suspect she will not want a D&C if at all possible. The doctor had left it up to her two weeks ago and she decided to wait at that time. The problem is, she knows I was ttc too and although she hasn't asked me anything about it in the last few weeks (certainly not since my BFP), I worry she'll say something like, "So what about you? Are you close to ovulating again yet?" I had shared with her several days before AF was due in Sept that I didn't think it was going to be that month so I don't think she would suspect that it was that month. If I wait a long time to tell her then I think she'll feel hurt, but there's no way I'm telling her right now. That would be so cruel.

 

Looking forward to your beta results! I have slightly sore nipples, but not really any soreness breast-wise. Because I've had five term pregnancies before (sorry, I'm not trying to be proud or anything), I just don't go through the same breast changes I did during the first two pregnancies. The first one was awful. I couldn't hug anyone and didn't even want to put a shirt on. They were hot too, like when you're engorged. I jumped up in size to the point that I had trouble fitting into my old clothes, much less bras. That doesn't happen any more. I noticed with my last baby that I had started swelling slightly by the time he was 12 weeks, but that's about it. I think I was a little sore then too. That went away after he died even before he was born.

 

Whenever I think about an u/s in 2 weeks I feel like hyperventilating...

post #166 of 514

Very quick fly-by (back later for more!) but Stacey, sending good vibes your way. Check in when you can!

 

And YAY for BFP, MAnna

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Hi guys - Manna - great about the BFP! I know EXACTLY how you feel about waiting for that first scan (goes to everyone else here who's in that wait too). I honestly was hoping the next one (I've had 3 so far) would be better, but ... it wasn't. Still nervous.

 

However, I am starting to realize that this pregnancy could potentially continue. It feels more "real" to me now. That, also, is kindof freaking me out. I think EVERYTHING will be freaking me out now. Oooh boy. Deep breaths over here. Also, I am starting to waffle on the "do I want to know gender" question. DH does. I thought I did but I think I'm reluctant because a gender might make me "bond" with this pregnancy more, and I'm kind of scared of that.

 

Are you guys thinking about finding out gender?

 

slshoe - let us know how the beta results end up!

 

texan - glad the stringy stuff is over. You make me enviious - can you believe there's been no action for me in that department since we got the BFP? That's like almost 2 MONTHS. Eeek. I think we're both just too nervous to "bother" things down there...it's totally silly. Well, we have our anniversary coming up, so that's a good excuse to get back in the swing of things...carefully.

 

violet - I'm popping out way earlier this time...12 weeks and a smidge, and I'm trying to hide the fact that I'm down to 2 pairs of pants to wear to work, and like 2-3 skirts...nothing else fits. And, the big shirts are coming back. I'm not talking about the pregnancy at work (way too difficult), so if things keep going, I'm trying to hide the growing middle as much as possible...let them think I'm fat. lol.

 

BTW, zub - your house description makes me want to pack my bags and head out to Portland! What a fantastic location. Your guy is so cute - mine has the blondie hair too, I just love it. He's having "picture day" today at school, and I'll bet the teachers do something weird with his hair - it happens every time. I really need to get some good shots of him. We know photographers here (being actors and all), so I just need to make some calls and get that done. You've inspired me with that beautiful pic.

 

And, Corgi - would you mind updating one thing on the info page? I'm expecting (hate that word actually - has a lot of weight to it!) #3, not #4. thanks.

 

I'd write more but I really should work a LITTLE today...ha.

post #168 of 514
Thread Starter 

*UPDATED*

 

Hi everyone,

Sorry I have been absent a wile, it is school Holiday here in South Africa and my kids have been dragging me to play dates like mad!

 

MANNA - I am sooo glad you could get the conformation of a BFP from an official source!  That is so great.  i hope that does just make it a bit easier getting trough the next few weeks.

 

VIOLET - Sorry you are feeling a bit down, I am sure we all feel like that at least twice a day.  It is so hard to deal with all this above dealing with a new pregnancy.  I am sure everything will be just fine for you and all of us, we must just keep faith.

 

Z - What a hansom young man - the pic is lovely and thanks for posting it!

 

Please if anyone has any picture that is nice, special or just important to you PLEASE share it here - it is nice to get closer to everyone else and to keep our minds upbeat and positive.

 

TEXASM - Do I know where you at with the messy desk, I am sitting at one!  My DH only completed my new office last week and it looks like it has been active for months!!!!  Glad you are getting past the difficult stages in this pregnancy, and glad to see that you are positive!!

 

SLSHOE - I would love to get the results of my 2nd BETAirked.gif.  My boobs are defiantly BIG, but not sore.  Not much else.

 

EK - I would defiantly like to know the gender, they can tell at 13weeks US here, so that will be before Christmas.

 

Glad we all going well here.  I am only starting to feel a little nausea in the mornings, and very tired basically all the time, and BIG boobies.  That is the total of my symptoms at the moment.

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I forgot to say - I went for my second BETA on Monday - but apparently the OB did not have time to call me with the results today.  My DH said, she would have called if there was something wrong.  i am scared, I just want to hear what my BETAs was, I called her office twice and both times they said she will call back.

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Corgi- I'm still waiting on my results as well...it's 4:30 here. Last time, she didn't call til 5:00....I just hope both of our doctors realize that we would like to know the results too:) FX, hopefully we can both post good results soon:)

post #171 of 514

How do ya'll get your rainbow symbols in your signatures? I can't find it in the smileys available.

post #172 of 514

Believe me, if it was up to me right now I'd probably be taking a few days break at least, but it was hard enough on DH when I started to miscarry Paisley cause it was over two weeks of no bam-chicka-wow-wow...and even my giving him a helping hand didn't quite cut it for him. He tries to be patient, but he starts getting stressed even for the few days of AF (cause he doesn't like the ick factor)...and he pretty much decided when we married that he wasn't gonna do any stress-relieving on his own cause he'd rather us be together than him off in the shower or whatever. I actually appreciate that cause I like that he only gets off on me...but it does make him a bit cranky if it's been a while. Sorry if that's too much TMI (I'll prob come back and delete this later). blush.gif
 

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texan - glad the stringy stuff is over. You make me enviious - can you believe there's been no action for me in that department since we got the BFP? That's like almost 2 MONTHS. Eeek. I think we're both just too nervous to "bother" things down there...it's totally silly. Well, we have our anniversary coming up, so that's a good excuse to get back in the swing of things...carefully.



 

post #173 of 514

Stacey- What does FX stand for? I've seen it for a while, usually referring to hopeful thoughts for another person. Help? smile.gif

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I'd rather be Rainey Daye or just Rainey for short. Neither is my "for reals" name, but I've used both online. I just decided this year though that even though I am still a Texan who is a maniac about Romania, that it just doesn't fit me as well now as it did when I first started using it around the web back in 2002 when I was working toward going to Romania as a full-time, non-traditional missionary!! You know, now that it's been over five years since I've set foot in Romania and I'm a suburban mommy and housewife, albeit on the slightly crunchy (comes across as a bit weird to the soccer moms) side!!

 

I do want to contact a moderator/admin to see if my nickname can be changed, but I'm not too sure how to go about doing that. Is there a place here on MDC where we can fill out a contact form or something? I've changed most everything I still do online to Rainey Daye.

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Texanromaniac- You never said if we should call you Rainey Daye or Tex?  Glad the stringy stuff stopped.  We are also going to take it easy that department.  Glad you are past the mark with Riley.  I need constant projects to fill my mind- I have a secret mess of shame.  My cousin calls it the "Roberts room" after the women in our family that all have a room piled to the ceiling with crap.  I keep my house so tidy that people have asked if we are moving.  But I do have this other room... We have a studio where my husband draws and I have my area of piles.  We are having a house guest on Wednesday, staying for the month of October so I HAVE to clean up before then.  I took a truck load of stuff to the thrift store yesterday and saved a couple boxes of toys for baby #2. 


 

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Rainey Daye - you totally made me chuckle with your post! I hope the moderators can change things to what you like, but it's Rainey Date here on our end!

 

Okay, falling asleep at work - almost heading home where I will be alone with the boy again tonight - and he doesn't fall asleep until 9 at least. Here's hoping I stay awake! One thing I did today, thought I'd share - signed up for a prenatal yoga class next week Monday. Hopefully a class like this will help my stress levels.

 

I hope everyone has a good night - won't be back until tomorrow probably...

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Speaking of my wished for username of Rainey Daye, I've successfully changed my username on Pinterest and Flickr to Rainey Daye, my blog's URL is now changed, and YAY I even have my Facebook page URL changed to that. So IF only MDC and the one other forum I frequent will just let me change my usernames, I'll have successfully transitioned from Texanromaniac on everything I pretty much use...well, except my email addy!! Don't know how easy that'll be...cause I've had Texanromaniac on one email account or another since 2002!! :-D

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You guys totally crack me up! Rainey, you lot would die if you knew how long DH and I go without having sex! Honestly I am too embarrassed to tell you, but after 17 years together...! DH is amazingly understanding about my lack of interest and so always appreciates it when we're trying for a baby. Poor him, though, as we've fallen pregnant the first month of trying every time!

 

Coffee, hello! I think FX means 'fingers crossed'. Maybe? That's how I read it.

 

V, how are you doing? Thinking about you a lot.

 

ek, DS has never slept through the night so I definitely feel your pain. He was up at 2:30 yesterday and stayed up and this morning it wasn't much better.Poor little guy is sick, though, and he was sent home from nursery. And you'll need to come and visit us in Maine! We'll be just south of Portland (very close). The school district is really good, too, so we have lucked out.

 

Corgi, great to hear from you! How are you doing? Any word on the betas?

 

And Stacey??? I have been writing this post for about an hour (made dinner in the midst) so I may be xposting. I'm excited for you.

 

Not much to report here. I keep on planning out the days when I can TTC again because I just dont quite believe that it's going to work out. I hope I am wrong. I almost told my parents tonight but the truth is my mum is about crap about these things so I will wait. ANyway, I don't feel sick, but then I do and I feel more confident, and then I don't and I forget that I was ever nauseous and I go back to my old pessimistic self.

 

Oh, ek, I meant to say that I am in the middle of a yoga challenge. Daily yoga... I don't especially like yoga so it really is a challenge :) But it must feel really big to you to do the class - perhaps a signal to yourself that things really are going to work out. hug2.gif

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Rainey- You are funny!  That is kind of sweet of your husband in a two fold kind of way.  The rainbow is in there with the smiley faces.  

 

I am an emotional WRECK!  I'm also not ready for winter. 

 

My husband told me today that the most important thing I can do, is to gestate.  He is taking the day off work tomorrow to help prepare for our house guest.  It's raining here.  I'm going to do some laundry and then sit around and gestate.  -Violet

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I'm glad that things are going well for you ladies. I know that emotionally it is tough. I never understood just how tough until I lost Avalon. I wish I could give you all a hug. grouphug.gif
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Coffee - Zub already mentioned it, but yes, FX means fingers crossed:)

 

Zub- Hang in there:)

 

Corgi- Did you get results today?

 

AFM- My doctor did not call today..I'm a little ticked with her...I know today is her day to do surgeries, so I'm thinking she just didn't have time to check in....but, still they should have a system where SOMEONE calls people waiting for lab results..I'm going to call first thing in the morning...I FEEL like my numbers are rising, my eternal hangover feeling is starting.......slight headache, nausea and tiredness...hey bring it on, I'm not complaining at all, I just wish my doctor would have called with my numbers so that I can check another thing off my list...I will feel slightly better if my doctor calls with good news and then next week the u/s shows a heartbeat....my baby girl that was due in November had great numbers and a heartbeat at first, so I'll still be nervous, but at least it's another step in the right direction:) 

 

 

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