Originally Posted by bandgeek
I don't really know what to say. Maybe I didn't phrase it the best but the OP did ask for opinions. She doesn't look obese to me but with all the weight problems in this country nowadays I think people don't see it when a child is borderline overweight. They are used to seeing so many heavy kids that one borderline looks perfect.
I'm not in the US, and we have the weight problems, but not to the same extent. I know what heavy kids look like (ds2 looks heavy). OP's dd does NOT look heavy.
And average kids get told they don't eat enough because they look too thin compared to their peers.
I'll have to take your word for this. I've only ever seen someone try to push a child to eat due to being "too skinny" a handful of times. I think it was completely out of line in all cases, but they were also all really, really thin kids (the "all bone" physique).
If this post was supposed to only be for reassurance then I do apologize.
I think there's a lot of room between "only for reassurance" and the phrasing you used. Without the "necessarily", it wouldn't have bothered me as much, but even your first sentence was kind of...off.
If the OP posted about an underweight child and posted a pic of child who looked a little too thin, I would have been honest then too (and I'm fairly sure that would have been perfectly acceptable given that the weight issue often only goes one way).
If you had replied using the same phrasing, but with the opposite words (as in my above example), it would have bugged me, too. To me, this isn't about a "weight issue", though. It's about the level of paranoia we're developing over the weight of very young children. Children are growing so fast, and often so unevenly, that talking about blood tests and a nutritionist after one visit is overkill, unless we're talking about a child who is suffering obvious ill effects (eg. a couple I know who literally can't run a half block). If teh ped is concerned, I could maybe see scheduling a follow-up in 3-6 months, to see if she's at the same BMI, or has had a growth spurt, or whatever. But, beginning to intervene, without establishing that there really is an issue is overkill and counter-productive, imo. We don't have the same kind of pressure to "fatten em up" with thin kids, so I don't think you'd see the same reaction from a ped, unless the child was showing other signs of issues. And, I think the medical profession puts waaayyy too much emphasis on height, weight and BMI in children.
I think the OP needs to look at different angles, which is what I tried to convey in my first post. Somehow it got misconstrued in that I'm just judgmental of fat people, end of story. I'm not. I used to be heavy myself and goodness know I have problems with overeating. I tend to speak very frankly about weight and sometimes forget that it's a super touchy subject for most people. I don't expect all kids to be exactly the same size but all too often I hear parents brushing off concerns. I applaud the OP for considering that something might be off. If she looks at everything, decides her DD is fine, then that's great.
Fair enough. Personally, having looked at the pictures, I have no idea what "everything" she should look at, but that's life. I can say that I absolutely wouldn't subject my child to blood tests over a BMI that the doctor seems to have calculated incorrectly in the first place (the ped said 97th percentile. Two posters here got 94% and 95% and I checked a calculator, as well, and got 94%). Before a doctor convinces me to subject my child to blood tests, they're going to have to give me a better reason than the asinine BMI.