StormBride would u really dump the ped? even after the OPs second post about the ped? would u not give the ped a second chance? just coz its weight? body images and wigged out ideas?
I saw someone refer to the OP's second post about the ped, but even after re-reading the thread, I missed it. I'll read it again, and see if I can find it.
it seems the ped has supported the mama all this while. could we not give her the benefit of the doubt? could she have been whigged by a recent case and freaking out? i mean if it was growth spurt she should have already seen this trend shouldnt she in her well baby visits?
Why would she have seen the trend? IME, the usual well child checkups are once a year at this age. That's barely even a snapshot of the health of people who are changing at an incredibly fast rate. If the ped never saw her just before a growth spurt, she'd have no way of knowing what the child's pattern is. And, if she happened to see her last year (when her BMI was 70%) right after a growth spurt, and right before one this year, then she's pretty much comparing two different children, for all practical purposes.
dd does the same thing. goes rounder and then suddenly almost overnight shoots up. since i've noticed since 4 dd had done the same thing for the last 5 years. if the ped has been seeing her she should see this pattern shouldnt she? of course provided she saw her at the same time. i mean it just blows my mind that a ped of all persons did not factor in growth spurt.
It doesn't blow my mind at all. But, as I said, I have trouble taking anyone very seriously when they put this kind of import on BMI. BMI doesn't allow for musculature (my oldest once put on 35 pounds in six months - it was all height and muscle, and he was slimmer, except at the shoulders, at the end of it than at the start), growth spurts or anything else. It's a very simple calculation and it's one absolute number. And, growth spurts aren't all at regular intervals. Actually, I don't think any of my kids have had regular growth spurts. (DD1 was wearing clothes in sizes 3, 4, 5 & 6 until a year ago, and her "true" size was probably about 4.5. She started wearing them at about 3 or 3.5...and very abruptly outgrew almost her entire old wardrobe a few months ago, at age 8.)
i understand where you are coming from - where everyone is coming from but dump the ped over this? just coz its a body issue - i dont think so.
I guess I don't see dumping the ped as that big a deal. I'm not a big fan of the medical community and I find the level of testing, and prevalence of specialists in the US system really...odd. I don't have a ped, and don't want one. (I'm not even sure I'm going back to the one I saw about assessing ds2, because - as usual - she didn't listen to me at all.) My views aren't "just because" it's a body issue. They're also because I don't like the approach and attitude about it.
if the world thinks OPs dd is fat they are going to let her know pretty soon. dd is tall and broad and stocky. and in the same category as OPs dd. however dd looks it. she has a tummy, she is 4'9" and a 100 pounds. and guess what? she is the same as her father and uncle when they were that age plus she has a mother who has 'heavy bones' (how i have always 'looked' and what my weight said has always been different). the world has been calling her fat since she was 5 years old. including her own father. i've had to counter that a lot to make sure dd doesnt get a complex. i guess so far she hasnt since she chose a bikini for a swim suit.
I have a medium-to-large build, and tend to bulk up with muscle. Even when I'm fit, I'm way outside the old "ideal weight" charts, and my BMI when I'm at my best would probably still fit just into the overweight category (between a large-ish ribcage, abdominal musculature, and a slight fat pad). I know a woman who was assessed, visually, as being overweight - by nurses and doctors - when she was actually underweight, simply because her bone structure is so heavy that she looks big, no matter what. I know what you're talking about - being a big kid is going to get you labelled "fat", whether you are or not. But, imo, there's a big difference between the other kids calling you fat (which is very hurtful - don't misunderstand me about that) and medical professional labeling you as having a medical condition, just because your body doesn't fit the effing BMI.
i would give the ped one more chance instead of dropping her like the plague. plus i am curious what else she asked and discussed.
did she bring up growth spurt, family genes...?
looking at OPs dd there is no way i would call her fat.
Obviously, the choice of keeping the ped or not is up to the OP. I don't see a doctor regularly, eihter for me or for my kids. I don't think doctors are the right people to see about my health. I see them when there's something wrong, not when things are okay. OP obviously values her doctor's input more than I do, so I wouldn't expect her to handle the situation the same way I would.
And, I agree about her dd. That child is not fat.