I'm glad I'm not the only one going through this. Well, not glad, but you know what I mean. Hopefully, our babies outgrow this soon. This wouldn't display everything I chose for multi-quotes. Is there is a limit on how many posts you can quote? Anyway:
Originally Posted by lisastrickland
Could your DH sit in the back with her and touch her? Ella screams, but if I can sit back with her and hold her face and talk to her, she calms down. I know that wouldnt help when hes not with you, but maybe it will help some?
He can't fit back there. We have a small car - a Nissan Versa - and there isn't room with the two seat. DS is back there, too, most of the time and he tries to sing to her or rattle something to get her attention. I don't think she can see him that well at this point, though. She's so tiny and her sit is so big and I think it partially blocks her view of him.
Originally Posted by Italiamom
No great suggestions here. DD also really doesn't like the car. If we can time it so that she's about to fall asleep, changed, and full of boob sauce, then she'll do okay with a pacifier. But that's assuming we can time it just right, which often doesn't work.
It's so SO much harder when you need to go somewhere at a certain time (like driving your DH to work or appointments), vs. just a trip to the grocery store. I HATE hearing her cry like that, and 9 trips out of 10 we don't have the option of timing things *perfectly* around her, we just have to go.
Yes, that totally sucks. I feel bad that I have to grab her and go, no matter what, because we're on a timeline.
Originally Posted by cat13
Yesterday we drove 5 miles and I had to stop halfway through and feed him (even though he wasn't hungry). Stopped crying and even gave a little smile, then screamed the second he got back in the car. Ugh! Breaks my heart!
He doesn't have reflux and we have an upright seat. There isn't any difference if I sit in the back with him, and no difference now that we've put a mirror and toys for him to look at either. We are introducing a paci this week (and bottles too), so hopefully if he takes one that will help. Anyone else have other tips, or do we just have to wait until they grow out of it?
Also, how long do you keep driving while it happens? At one point, I thought it was probably better to hurry up and get home, rather than prolong the 'torture' by stopping. What's your opinion?
I'll do that, too, if I have time. I'll pull over into a parking lot and nurse her. After I drop DH off at work or DS off at school, I'll park and nurse. I figure it might help a little. But the second her little butt touches that seat she gives me this little pouty face and starts the crying. I've wondered the same thing about stopping to feed vs. just trying to get home as soon as possible. I've done both.
Originally Posted by SynEpona
To make sure they are both as comfortable & as safe as possible ....
No matter what kind of carseat you've got, they should be about 45degrees reclined until our babes get better head control, as they are designed to work that way to protect their neck/spine/airways.
Make sure the straps are coming from below (or at, but NOT from above) their shoulders (for rearfacing). That fits them better and keeps them safe. If your seat came with shoulder strap pads, use them. If it didn't, you can cut the toes off some baby socks and put the resulting 'tubes' around the straps to keep the edges more comfortable for baby.
If your seat (check your manual) can have the handle in the 'up' position, you could hang some soft music chime type toys there, to hopefully distract baby from the screaming! Make sure they are soft, and make certain it's a safe way for your car seat to be.
SING! That is the only thing that worked during Finn's very brief car-misery phase. Anything, but he was partial to silly rhyming children's songs. Talking to him didn't work, only singing (and I have no idea, as I'm certain my singing voice isn't that great!)
I'm going to put the shoulder strap pads back on. I took them off because I thought they may have made her uncomfortable. I'll see if it makes a difference. She is at 45 degrees. I was hoping that would prevent it in the first place. I remember that DS' first carseat - a bucket - didn't seem to recline enough and I had hoped that using this convertible, which reclines, would prevent the whole car seat crying in the first place. I have a toy hanging from the garment hook. Maybe I'll switch it out for one that makes noise. I wish she could hold toys so she'd have something with her to look at.
I think I'll try singing again. When DS was a screamer, the ONLY thing that eventually worked was the ABC song. I used to have to sing it over and over and over and over during every trip. And it had to be the ABC song. No humming. No Twinkle Twinkle Little Star even though it's the same melody. Maybe I'll give that one a shot.
Originally Posted by CrazyCatLady
Veianya and I are not fans of the car right now either. She likes her seat ok...as long as I am carrying it around. She likes the car rides ok...as long as the car never stops moving. But during every.single.red light, she screams her head off. Then she stops the second the car gets moving again. Very hard on the nerves. I make a 45 minute drive back and forth between my mom's house and here about twice a week. Luckily that has gone ok each time. But I fear the day she stops sleeping so much and will just scream for that entire ride.
Oh we HATE red lights. She will stop or slow down her crying now and then when I'm moving. The second I apply any pressure to the break or even just let up on the gas she knows it...and she screams. I live in a little suburban town with lots of poorly timed traffic lights. She does okay on the highway when we visit my parents. That's a 30 minute stretch of no lights, so she usually calms then, but she starts right back up as soon as I go through the tolls.
I like the suggestion to put something of mine with her. I will have to try it.