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post #21 of 41

My son is named after my husband's grandfather who died a few months before I got pregnant. His name was Ray Calvin, and since I'm not much for the name Ray, we named our son Calvin and chose Thomas as the middle name just because we liked it.


We had a really hard time with our daughter's name. I've always loved the name Ruth, and I knew I wanted that to be her middle name. It turns out that was also my husband's grandmother's name. I was listening to The Beatles one day while I was pregnant, and the song Julia came on. I knew that had to be her name. I mentioned it to my husband, and he loved it (he's pickier about names than I am!). And I found out that Julia was my great-great grandmother's name. 


I'm pretty sure that we're done having kids now, but I already have another boy and girl's name picked out just in case. Sheepish.gif

post #22 of 41

ds is named indirectly for a close friend of dh's who died suddenly when they were 19. Actually, I suggested using the name, when I was a few months pg, just because I'd always thought it was cool (it's extremely rare), and dh confessed that he'd been having a recurring dream for weeks (before we got the BFP) that his friend was alive after all and he had to go to his birthday party. Wow. So that just seemed like the name it was meant to be.

dd is named for my grandmother, who I was very close to and who died a few months before dd was conceived. It was The Baby's name before we even conceived her--ds and I used to talk playfully about "Baby E". Unfortunately, it's become one of the most ridiculously common names for girls, so common, in fact, that we decided we couldn't use it and picked something else. In the last week, we switched back to this name, though we were convinced she was a boy so it didn't seem relevant. Again, it just seemed like it had to be her name.


Both of their middle names are just names we really happened to like--Sebastian and Sophie (again, too common, but it means "wisdom," and dh and I are both academics, so...).

post #23 of 41
I love this riff on naming children.

post #24 of 41

DS1 was because we tried a bunch of names, but they either sounded strange with his surname, or they just didn't fit him. The only thing my ex and I had agreed on beforehand was that he wouldn't get a unisex name...and then a unisex name was the one that fit. We just kept looking at him and thinking, "yeah - that's his name".


DD1...I'd waited a long time for a second baby (several years of never explained secondary infertility, followed by a series of three miscarriages). DH had his heart set on the name "Emma' for a girl. I didn't really care for it, but when she arrived, and turned out to be a girl, I was so glad to have a real, live baby again that I gave in on it.


DS2...dh and I found it really, really hard to agree on a boy's name. We have completely different tastes. So, we eventually each short-listed to 10 names, and ds2's name was the only one that appeared on both lists (I beileve it was in 10th place on both!).


I honestly don't remember how we settled on dd2's name. We just liked the sound of it.


I have a thing about two syllable names. I won't choose names that are any other length. So, my children have a total of eight names between them (not counting surnames - but, oddly enough, my maiden name, first married surname and current surname are all two syllables, as well), and all eight are two syllables. The initial vowel sound in each of my children's names is also a short "e" sound, but that was an accident.


I was named (middle name) after my late maternal grandmother, and I hated her guts, and spent much of my life hiding the name from everybody I could hide it from. So, I don't do names in honour of anybody. None of my chlidren's names (first or middle) honour anyone I know.

post #25 of 41
Oh and the initials couldn't spell anything.
post #26 of 41
Originally Posted by LynnS6 View Post

Oh and the initials couldn't spell anything.

I so agree. And defiantly nothing like PIG, DOG, HAG or anything odd or dirty sounding.
post #27 of 41

We picked our kids' names because we liked the sound and look of them.  We were looking for names that were unusual but not way far-out.  We also wanted fairly short names.  We wanted the initials (first, middle, last) to not spell out something weird or offensive.


Dd is Djuna Emily (after author Djuna Barnes, and artist Emily Carr), and ds is Alden Michael (Alden - just a name we liked, and Michael is my dad's name).


BTW (in case anyone is curious) Djuna is pronounced "joo-nah".  The D is silent.  The name was originally made up by Djuna Barnes' father.

post #28 of 41

DD1's name came from a conversation we had about 3 weeks after we started dating. Somehow got talking about kids and names we liked, and turns out we both loved the name Isabella Grace. We tried out a thousand other names three years later when we were married and actually expecting our girl, but we couldn't settle on anything else, it had to be Isabella Grace. "Isabella" is ridiculously common here now, but at the time, I only knew one other person with the name. Even if I had known then that it was going to explode the way it did, she would still have to be Isabella, I can't imagine her as anyone else.


My son's name, Silas, came from Scripture, the story of Silas and Paul. I heard it in church one Sunday, long before I was even pregnant, and heard a voice as clear as crystal telling me that I was going to have a boy and his name was to be Silas. I loved the Scripture (Acts 14;19-40) but hated the name, so I just shoved the whole experience to the back of my mind. When I got pregnant about 7 months later, the "voice" came back and it kept insisting that my boy's name was to be Silas. I fought for half the pregnancy to come up with another name, because I still hated "Silas" and so did everyone else around me, but it started to grow on me and eventually, I started fighting everyone else, ex-dh included, to get it. The only way he would agree was if I let him choose the middle name. I was a little worried at first, because his top choice for quite a while was Wilford, but he eventually settled on Henry and I was very happy with that. 

post #29 of 41
One is named after a beloved grandfather.

Another is named for the first person on one side of the family to come here from the old country.

It was important to us to pick names with personal meaning, not just because we happen to like a random collection of sounds.
post #30 of 41

My first is her first name is my middle name. Its also my great grandma's first name and it goes back further in the family but I don't remember exactly how. DD1's middle name is my MIL's middle name. DD2's first name is just a name that I liked, her middle name is my husband's grandma's middle name. My son's first name is my husband's grandpa's first name, his middle name is my grandpa's first name, his last name is hyphenated DH's grandpa's last name/our last name.


If we had another child we already have names selected. If its a boy he would be named after my uncle and DH's father's. If its a girl she would be named a name I really liked and my mother's middle name.

post #31 of 41

Both of mine are named after family members.  DD is named after my grandmother, I always adored her name and especially the fact that it was uncommon. DS is named after my dad, I adored him but didn't want to use his name as it made me sad, but it was the only boys name dh and I could agree on liking, it is a classic but thankfully underused name.

post #32 of 41

Naming was really difficult for us. We come from different cultures and it's very difficult to find names which work in both.


Our first daughter's name is a variation of MIL's, though that's not why we chose it. We just heard it and liked it. It's very short & simple, and both sides of the family can pronounce it. We agreed to it very quickly and in hindsight I wish I'd given it more thought. I still love the way it sounds, but if I could do it over I would choose something more substantial and insist on adding a middle name.


DD2's name has no family connection. We had an even harder time naming her - she was nameless the first 5 weeks of her life! We finally managed to agree on something that wasn't high on either of our lists. Funnily enough, I'm actually much happier with it than I am with our first daughter's name. It's grown on me a lot. It also has several good nickname options, so she can go by one of those if she chooses to do so when she's older.

Edited by Snowflake777 - 10/10/11 at 1:26pm
post #33 of 41

DD's name has meaning to us personally and in history:  "Life" in Greek.  It is a special significance for us because we suffered several miscarriages and she was a fighter even in the womb.  She lives up to her name.  She  will always be about living to the fullest...we can see it now.  As soon as her gender was identified, we knew who she was, both in name and spirit.


Btwn:  I really do believe that individuals live up to their names.  My parents choose a name that I feel totally describes my person.  It is Hebrew and I feel I'm my namesake.  Weird.  

post #34 of 41

With me, it just felt right in my belly.

With my son, I just knew...I knew I was pregnant two days in and that I would have a boy...about a month later I knew his name would be Aristotle. (metaphysics changed my life forever...so did he...). I kinda felt like I should name Socrates or Cesar since those are both family names but it didn't resonate.

With my daughter, I kept looking and looking and looking until one day I saw it and I knew it to be the case. I really wanted Vasalisa like the story but it only seemed good as a womb name not HER name.


I do know I wanted names that weren't common but it didn't matter since the names I really wanted were picked by...something greater than me.


However, my husband wasn't sold on either name so we came up with a list of five names and he had his favorites (Bryce and Estrella) After the babies were born he took them while I slept and was told to figure it out. With Aristotle, I woke up and he shook his head and said, "he just isn't a Bryce or anything else on this list but Aristotle...it's just who he is" and with my daughter it took him 3 days because he REALLY wanted Estrella but finally, "she just doesn't look light and ethereal like an Estrella but like a warrior...Zafina it is." In both cases I said he could go with something else on the list but in both cases he said it just didn't go. I had final say on the list. He had say on the final name.


I like saying I have the complete collectors set from A to Z


Oh and I will say...their womb names were Mongoose (son) and Vasalisa (daughter)

post #35 of 41

My husband thought he invented "Everly" as it turns out it is an old english boys name.  We had that name picked out 2 years before Everly was born.


We wanted our children to have unique names but also names that were easy to pronounce, read etc.


For my second daughter we just went through the baby book until we found a name we liked.  I had taught a Maisie in the past and when that one came up we were done looking. 


We also liked how Everly and Maisie sounded together.


Their middle names are more personal.  Maisie shares my middle name, and Everly shares her middle name with several relatives.

post #36 of 41
Originally Posted by Shannie77 View Post

My husband thought he invented "Everly" as it turns out it is an old english boys name.  We had that name picked out 2 years before Everly was born.

Do people ask you if that name is for the Everly brothers?

post #37 of 41

Our twin boys are named after people, both first and middle names. They are also both classic names, without sounding old-fashioned (James and Bryan).

post #38 of 41

Both DH's grandmother and my own (who partially raised me) died when I was pregnant with my daughter, the middle child.  We also loved their names, and DD's first and second names are after them, which was very special.  Our oldest son had a combo of names we liked but were also after family/friends.  Our youngest was a tricky naming.  We couldn't decide on Kenji (after a family friend) or Alexander.  We decided we'd go by what felt right at birth.  Alexander means mighty roar, and our son's birth demeanor settled the matter (he's still pretty rowdy, and shortens his name to "Xander")

post #39 of 41

DS is Ian Thomas. Ian because DH wanted Ethan and I wanted anything but Ethan and Thomas because it's DH's middle name and FIL first name. DD is Marley Marie. I loved the name Marley since I was first pregnant with her and when she was born it just fit her so perfectly (and still does). Then she has my middle name with also happens to be SIL's middle name. No idea what we will do next time.

post #40 of 41

Basic names rules were:

  • Anyone who saw it would know how to pronounce it
  • Anyone who heard it would know how to spell it
  • One syllable nickname available
  • Not used by anyone in either of our families
  • Initials wouldn't spell anything
  • No name similarity (DH, DS, DD and I have names without similar sounds or starting/ending letters)


Beyond that, we took a list of names to the hospital and then figured out which name they looked like :)

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