Or is it?
We're starting off on this same foot every morning.
Everything is a fight.
Everything requires bargaining, threatening and eventually yelling from both of us!
We start every day the same.
Wake, potty, teeth, down for breakfast, while breakfast is cooking we do circle time
He helps me get the table set
We light a candle (which I started doing in an attempt to get him to stay at the meal table- it only worked for a hot minute but I continue to do it for myself now), say our blessing (which he rarely takes part in- hiding his hands behind his back when he knows it's time to hold hands)
Then it begins.
"eat your meal, please. ....Stop messing around and eat. ....Sit in your seat right and eat. ....If you don't eat this...."
The whole meal.
Lunch and dinner are usually about the same (unless we're having his favorite- noodles)
I wouldn't be so bothered by him not eating his meal if I knew it was because he wasn't hungry or just not interested in food but that's not the case because a mear 10 minutes after the meal he's back asking for a snack!!! ....and then we're fighting about that.
He's disrespectful and disruptive.
It starts at the breakfast table and I feel like it sets the tone for the day.
He wants to be able to just do whatever he wants whenever he wants and if I say no or things don't go his way it's a colossal melt down and screams of "You make me sooo ANGRYYYY!"
Now, when I say fighting I don't mean it like I'm yelling and he's yelling back the whole time.
It's more like I start off very calm and patient and he wears me down to the point where I'm ready to smack him upside the head.
And I've done this before.
I know- taboo to mention in a GD forum, but I'm coming here for help!
I don't want to smack or yell.
I try sooooo hard to stay calm and think about everything I say before I say it and think about what his reaction may be so I can try to avoid conflict. But then I think - how is this 3 1/2 year old outsmarting me and making me so stressed out?
Things like "Please keep your snack in the kitchen" or "it's time to wash your hands/get dressed/clean up..." have to be repeated over and over and over and over and over until I'm about to explode. And sometimes I do.
So sick of it and I don't know what to do.
Or is this all normal and I just have to deal with it the best I can in the moment???