I have always had really regular cycles and TONS of fertile fluid around the time I ovulate... until two months ago. Two cycles ago, I had a really strange AF (intense cramping, but blood was really thin, no clots and only for one day). I even thought I might be pregnant, but I got a BFN. Then I waited to get my fertile fluid and it didn't come like normal. I think a little bit came around my normal O day, but it was barely even noticeable and WAY different than usual. I was either dry or had creamy CM (neither of which are normal for me) and then I felt 100% sure I was pregnant with how my body felt as AF neared, but I kept getting a BFN. Five days late, AF showed up and it was more intense than usual. I bled for two days longer and there was more cramping and more blood and clots. It made me wonder if we conceived but it didn't take. I think whatever didn't come out that cycle before must've come out this time! So here I am, around day 11 of my cycle and I'm not noticing any fertile fluid, just sticky or dry - not my norm at all! I did notice some fertile-like fluid near the end of my AF, but it was hard to tell since it was tinged brown and DH and I had BD a few times, so it's always hard to tell what fluid is what! But perhaps I am ovulating earlier now??
I am really confused!! I don't know if my cycle is shifting and if I'm ovulating or not. I am hesitant to chart it with temps because I don't want to be thinking about TTC all the time. DH and I are just at the beginning of it and I know from previous experience (it took 18 months to conceive my DS) that I don't want it to be a "thing" that I obsess about and for me, charting caused that.
Does anyone have any thoughts or any tips about how to either know if I've ovulated (other than charting) or to bring on ovulation? Any help would be much appreciated. TIA!