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MMM, I'm so sorry for your loss.  I hope you're back over here again soon.

 

Library, I wouldn't leave her.  You don't get much when you pump, right?  If she nurses a lot at night, you will probably be uncomfortably full all night and almost dry by the time you get home.  Your milk supply may recover or it could be a weaning situation.  I think y'all will find a situation that works for your family, but I personally would have the whole family go to Dallas and just rent a car for them to see the sights or whatever.

 

Sara is off.  She had a hard time going.  He smiled for the first time 2 days ago, she was thrilled she didn't miss it.  He is getting more opinionated lately.  Still sleeping mostly, tho.  He did pretty well in the car on the way home.  Stayed calm as long as I sang for 45 of the last 50 minutes.  Of course, I don't know 45 minutes of songs so I felt pretty silly by the time I got down to the hokey pokey.

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MMM: So sorry.  You sound strong, but I can imagine how upset you must also be.  Best wishes to you and DP during this time of healing.  hug2.gif

 

Library: Whatever you decide to do about the conference, I thought you might find this  article about relactation interesting/useful.  I'd probably bring everybody along, but I can understand why you might not.  FWIW, I went on a week-long research trip when Z was almost two and wasn't able to get much milk while pumping on the trip. I figured we were done, but she picked it back up when I got home. I don't think she was getting much milk after that point, but we both enjoyed nursing a few times/day for nearly two more years!  But at that point, Z didn't need the nutrition or formula, so it is different....  Hope you get it figured out to your satisfaction.

 

Isa: DP can feel movement!  How wonderful!  You are SO getting to the fun part!

 

Indigo: Update?  Baby?  Exciting!

 

AFM: Went to a LLL meeting this morning, which felt good, though L was pretty fussy.  I put her on a blanket on the floor, and the toddlers were fascinated with her--it was mutual.  L was squealing at them, trying to talk.  It was adorable.  Then she got tired, gassy, and mad, but we had a good morning.  This afternoon, I made latkes with Z's class at school.  Such a full day of mommying--too bad I have a conference paper deadline hanging over my head.  It was fun, though. 

 

 

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Good morning everyone, and thanks for your discussion/advice. Snuggled up with Alice last night, I'm really not sure I can leave her, even for a few days, though to throw this into the mix: DP is a fairly new-ish driver and says that she's way too timid to tackle Texas highways and driver ignunce, so that will factor in. UGH!!  I still don't know what I'm going to do, but we'll figure it out before long. I need my little one (and my big one too...)

 

Indigo~ News?  How about now????

 

Seraf~ Glad Sara's safely on her way, though I'm sure it's hard on everyone to be apart.

 

AHope~ Thanks for sharing your experience and the article. If I do leave her home, I'll pump for sure, but I have absoluletly wondered/worried if this might be the end of my milk, which I'm sure not ready to surrender.

 

Who else? What else? Actually, I need to go shelve books, so I'll leave you with a little elf in an outfit hand knit and felted by her mummy (not me, obv...) 

 

 

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Library: She looks delicious.... can I have just a nibble?  How about a finger?  A toe?  I promise you won't even notice.  biggrinbounce.gif

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MMM - I am so, so sorry to read this. You and DP are in my thoughts. I hope this healing time finds you surrounded by care and support hug2.gif

 

Starling - thanks for the thoughts on older DD and the babe. I am starting to be more conscious about what I say to DD about my tiredness. I think answering 'yes' is brilliant and important, and will do my best from here on out. Already noticed my DD much more positive when I don't say things like "mommies too tired, maybe later". GIving her a timeline and a yes. So simple but huge.

 

Seraf - Glad the flight got sorted! How are you doing? When does Sara get home now?

 

Library - OMG. That is so adorable!

 

Pretty Isa - Yippee! Awesome about DP feeling movement. My DD recently felt it too. Now she 'talks' to the baby regularly (aka screams loudly into my belly). She also likes to lick my belly, calling it a big ice cream cone!?!?! How are you feeling? I'm heading into 3rd trimester here and starting to get more sore - but the last 3 months were fantastic.

 

Indigo - ooooooohhh... I feel some news comin!

 

everyone - hello!!!!

 

AFM - well. Hello third trimester! Sheesh! I can't believe how fast the 2nd one went. I kinda wanted to stay there. My hips are waddling and I'm finding myself feeling a bit more... uncomfortable. Is it normal to have bouts of insomnia? Does anyone have some natural remedies ??? I can't drink warm milk (intolerant). Wondering what others have done, are doing. It is strange insomnia - I don't normally have issues with sleep. Now I find if DD wakes up in the night, I can't get back to sleep for hours. If she sleeps straight through, usually I do too.

 

We had a 3D ultrasound this week. We didn't do this with DD. I wasn't comfortable with an extra ultrasound and they were expensive. Though I kinda wanted one. This time, DP requested it. She had a crap experience at our 20 week US. There was some behind the scenes homophobia there - they almost didn't call her to come in after making it very clear she was to be there. And our US tech rushed really fast when she was in to show us our LO. I felt the same way after our DD's us so I get how she is feeling. After some reading I felt okay with getting a shorter one.

 

It was pretty magical. we found out that we are indeed expecting a girl. here she is. The whole ultrasound she was snuggling into the placenta or sucking on her cord. or playing with her feet. Seems she is a cuddly one :) oh man. I'm in love. it ended up being a really beautiful time for us and I'm glad we did it. Though I wish there was some clearer research done on risks to babe.

 

 

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alas, no exciting updates to share with you all.  we had an ob appt today and the doc (not our usual doc but he's super nice and relaxed) estimates that our wee lassie will be as big if not bigger than her older brothers.  he also said the nausea, pressure and ctx are to be expected and may or may not mean anything.  his guess is that she will hang out in there until at least her due date.  :)

 

she is still moving around like crazy and we regularly see a foot through dp's belly.  wild.  dp plans to quit work on the 30th.

 

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Indigo, thanks for the update.  Bummer for the nausea.

 

OMOM, she is darling.  Sucking on the cord?  Wow.  I don't remember the insomnia remedies, I slept well enough.  Sara comes home the 25th.

 

Library, that is one darling elf baby.

 

AmandaHope, did L help make the latkas?

 

Sara's in Isreal.  She recorded a few songs for S and last night I rolled up her nightshirt and put it beside him on the bed.  He cuddled up with it rather cutely and coo'd, smiled and fell quickly asleep without nursing or anything.  I was shocked but it was so sweet.  Until this weekend I wasn't sure how clear he was on the people in his life.  When we were with her parents occasionally he would fuss with one of them and then calm immediately when Sara took him, so that was pretty clear.

 

 6 weeks

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MMM- I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. You are in my thoughts.

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MMM, sending extra hugs to you today. hug2.gif

AHope, love your wrap! great deal!! orngbiggrin.gif now I'm totally obsessed with going and getting some fabric... we have the ergo, and I LOVE IT, but it's a bit bulky for travel. the rucksack looks like it would be great for times when I don't want to lug the ergo along! sounds like the LLL meeting was good! ours was cancelled due to illness this month, I'm a little sad b/c I've really been enjoying seeing all of the littles grow from month to month! and how nice you were able to visit Z's class to make latkas! I bet she LOVED that! love.gif

Seraf, so glad that S wasn't too unhappy the whole ride home! it can be hard to sing to a baby for that long... by which I mean, thinking of songs and being creative with them to keep a baby entertained/occupied/distracted. I've never had to sing to S for that long, good thing because I tend to sing twinkle little star and the ABCs alternating. poor kid, I'm so boring. I should try the hokey pokey! smile.gif so sweet that S cuddled up with Sara's shirt! and I love that she recorded herself for him, fantastic idea!

library, ugh. good luck with the decision on whether or not to bring Alice and DP. sounds like there are some big pros and cons. and that li'l elf is too cute! wonderful little costume!
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OMOM, glad you had the second u/s! sounds like it was totally worth it! she's adorable. I hope you can get through the 3rd tri without too much discomfort!

indigo, glad to hear an update! I've been missing the 3rd trimester lately exactly for seeing (and feeling) a foot poke right out of my belly. I hope DP doesn't feel too bad these last few weeks!

isa, that sounds like quite a fabric stash! I have the same sort of bead stash... I like to play around and I've made some pretty cool stuff but when it comes right down to it, it mostly just takes up space... lol. actually, now that I'm thinking of it, I should pull those out... oh, yeah, who has time for that?! wink1.gif and SO AWESOME that DP is feeling the baby moving! orngbiggrin.gif

AFU, lots of things going on here... we've got an army crawler on our hands but he doesn't use this skill very often yet. I think he's still building those muscles. he's really starting to pull up now and seeming to want to cruise. neat! his sleep is better and better... he had been going to sleep, via nursing down while I sing twinkle little star and the ABCs once each, in our bed. then I lied there for about ten minutes until he either poped off and resettled or his latch became weak and I just rolled away. he usually awoke after an hour of sleep, I nursed him back down (about a ten minute process) and he'd sleep another hour or two or, sometimes, even three! I'd join him when I was ready to sleep and that usually awoke him enough that he wanted to nurse again. so, I was feeling quite good about his sleep and ability to sleep alone some. I mentioned the idea of a Montessori bed/room to DP with the bonus that I could try and nurse him down in his own bed, leaving ours available for us for at least the first part of the night. we went to the kids consignment shop down the block and got a bed rail, we dropped the bed to the floor (but left the crib frame around the sides and back, I'll try and post a pic) and I agreed to start by trying to have him nap there for a week. it was slow going... I couldn't leave his side for the naps (but never have really been able to for naps, wherever they are), then DPs 'rents came over for dinner last Thursday night and wouldn't leave at his bedtime... I tried to wait them out because I was paranoid that MIL was being nosey about our bedtime routine (esp since we put the bed on the floor!), so I reluctantly brought S into his room, laid down with him just like I did in our bed, and after about a half hour, he was asleep! I was able to sneak away just after the ILs left and DP and I got to cuddle in bed!!! orngbiggrin.gif he awoke after an hour and I was able to nurse him back down in his bed! when he awoke the next time, I was ready to sleep so I brought him to bed where we all slept the rest of the night. it was amazing. we've been doing the same ever since. it's kind of a pain for mr (literally) to lay on his crib mattress with him, but TOTALLY worth it! I couldn't relax a whole lot the second night as I fell asleep in my own bed without him (it only lasted 15 min before he woke that night, anyway) but its gotten easier for me and is really great now! sorry for the novel but I'm just so happy and proud of our success that I had to share! thanks for reading, if you were able to make it to the end of my lengthy post!
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MMM: So sorry, lots of love and thoughts for you.

 

Seraf: Oooh he is so cute, I wanna squish him (in the nicest way). If you guys need anything while Sara is gone ( I know you are practically a wilting flower ;) let me know. We don't have Lennon this weekend so we can trek to the country that is your home if you need help :) Or are just lonely

 

Ahope: Ok since L is about the same age as Harrison, are you also getting no sleep at all? this kid never sleeps?!!! He takes 4-5 20 minute naps a day and is up ever 2 hours (on a good night ) and 45 minutes (on a bad) He has one tooth and ALMOST has a second so I am trying to blame the teeth. Other than that he is so fun right now. I bet you are loving all the smiles and laughs as much as me. Is L rolling over? H has done it a couple of time but seems rather uninterested. I can't remember if you guys cosleep?

 

Starling: I would love a pic of your sweet babe:) How are things?

Krista: How are you feeling?

 

Library: Um I kinda want to steal your daughter. She is outrageously adorable.

 

Crystal: Still hanging in there lady?

 

Isa: lets get a christmas belly shot. I expect garland ;)

 

AFM: Life is good, I got my period back which BLOWS. Also it means I am ovulating which is dangerous since I have this wicked bad baby fever thing happening. God I am glad that it isn't so easy for me to get preggo as having sex or I would def be knocked up with an "oops" baby real soon. Haha.

Chels and I are doing well, finally settling in to parenthood of 2.  Lennon is being the BEST big brother, I htink he is really enjoying that Harrison's personality is showing.

I am Christmas ready, I just have to go to the Asian market to get all my ingredients for my Korean meal. Mmmmmm  I got Chels a cruiser bike for xmas this year, she is going to be PUMPED. I think she got me a vintage bathing suit which is also really exciting. I will NOT be sending a picture of that one :)

We are taking the boys swimming tonight, I heard it can help with babies that don't like to sleep so I am hopeful!BOYS.jpg

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Wehrli, I sing all the time, can't say it usually makes sense or that my voice is anything to write home about, but I break into song a lot.  LOL, no idea why.  My son was recently subjected to a song about his wooly pink pants.  Sara sang him a few songs, but she was fighting back tears, so I almost cry every time I play them for him.  If you're having a hard time nursing him on a crib mattress, why not use a twin mattress (I would personally forgo the side rail if it's on the floor)?  If this is going to be a long term thing, you might as well be comfortable and he'll use a twin soon enough anyway.

 

Yellow, what happy boys!  Thanks for the offer, I have a feeling lonliness will be worse when the kids are with their mama all next week.  Swimming is a great idea, I'm finally done bleeding, I could totally take the kids swimming today.  If I can find S's swim diaper I just may do that.  I'm not sure how he will like it, the water is still kind of chilly.  But the big kids would be beside themselves, they haven't been swimming since labor day weekend.

 

Can I say that I'm really enjoying 6 weeks?  He seems more like a baby now.  He is staying awake for longer periods and not nursing constantly.  He is taking longer naps and he watches people now instead of the walls.  I love it.  He smiles a few times a day and coos with us.  Oh, and he's 13 1/2 lbs.  The kid likes to eat.


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AHope—mmm..latkes. We’re trying to find a location that isn’t our house to make them this year…the only problem being that once we leave our house people want to get all fancy and put in parsnips and sweet potatoes (which are good—I even like curried latkes!) when all I want are boring traditional ones. Do you have the wrap yet? Do you like it? I’m so curious about this whole thing! Oh, and no one wrote me back about your party, so I think it’ll just be the two of us.

Library—it’s the elf-shoes that get me. So cute!

OMOM—I feel a bit like a manatee with feet. And I know it’s going to get worse. Mostly everything is just fine, but my hip and back hurt, and it’s getting harder to stand up from sitting. I was sitting on the floor wrapping presents last night and tried to get up using my fancy new glider…which is on a swivel base and kept running away from me. I think DP would have died laughing if she wasn’t so concerned that I’d fall. Love the ultrasound! And I’m glad you got a better experience out of it than the 2D. Shame on some people. Oh! And the one thing that’s working really well for me is the Hypnobirthing relaxation meditation thing that we got for our class. It basically talks you into relaxing fully..and then I have no idea what it says, because I am out like a light. She could be putting all kinds of crazy suggestions into my head. But it works!

Indigo—oh, I’m sorry you’re still in limbo! Come on, baby!

Seraf—he’s so sweet! I bet it was hard for Sara to leave—hopefully she’ll have the time of her life, though!

Wehrli—sadly, I’ve inherited my mother’s genes. She also has a HUGE bead stash (which I am not allowed to pillage) along with a dye studio (separate from the quilting studio, which is has separate storage for extra fabric in a cedar closet), and remnants of a pottery craze that stopped just short of installing a kiln in her basement. And that’s not even getting into minor forays into mosaic and stained glass. It’s a good thing that I (and my DP) like her, because I see my future writ large every time I go to her house. Glad you’ve found a good sleep solution! My favorite toddler bed ever was a crib mattress stacked on a double bed mattress (both with sheets on)—the kid could get in and out on his own, make his bed, and play all over it during the day. I’d highly recommend it as the next step once S is a little bigger!

Mizyellow—no pic? Not even of just the swimsuit? Pleeeze? I used to have quite the collection when I was 15 and small enough to wear such things with impunity…As a trade, I’ll start looking for appropriate tinsel for my belly shot.
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Wehrli - ha ha ha!  We must be doppleganger mamas!!!  I was uploading some video to my computer while the baby napped and I read your post.  I couldn't help but snap this picture (note: black cord belongs to the laptop I'm typing on right now).

 

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We had a crisis of crib a few weeks back.  A. would sleep in our bed no problem, but suddenly would not go into the crib or pack n' play for naps or the night.  The bed became dangerous because she's mobile and the dog (who either cuddles with her and wakes her up or just wakes her up).  I started by putting our crib mattress on the nursery floor and I nursed her to sleep there for naps for about a week.  We've moved the mattress into our room now and it works like a trundle bed.  I whip it out for naps and she's now sleeping there for the first part of the night (the hours of 7-10 or 11 where she usually wakes up at least 3 times).  I've smooshed it between her pack n' play and our bed while we trial it and it's working pretty well.  I can set her down on it and she doesn't wake up. My hope is to get her to sleep there through the night and eventually move it back to her room.

 

MMM - I'm so sorry for your loss.

Seraf - I bet that you're really starting to miss Sara now!  I love the story of how the baby just curled up next to her shirt and fell asleep.  That's so sweet!

AmandaHope - Sounds like you're being a superstar Mommy with all of that quality time.  I'm glad that miss L. was the delight of your LLL meeting.

LibraryLady - Love the outfit!  Alice is going to have the best costumes all throughout her life.  I hope everything works out about your leaving/not leaving the baby.  

OMOM - Whoo hooo for the third trimester!  That's so incredibly exciting.  I think you also must be wondering (like I am) where the heck the snow is?  I'd like to have some soon, but I guess it's been pretty easy to get out with your DD right now, too.  Here's hoping for a mild winter.

Indigo - No big news...yet!  Here's hoping you get to meet your big baby soon.

MizYellow - Life sounds great!  What is the Korean meal you're cooking?  Oh, and we definitely want to see the vintage bathing suit!

Isa - You sound quite gifted in the craft/artistic department.  I think it's pretty funny to see your future in your mother.  I'm starting to see some of my mom in me, too.

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AHope—mmm..latkes. We’re trying to find a location that isn’t our house to make them this year…the only problem being that once we leave our house people want to get all fancy and put in parsnips and sweet potatoes (which are good—I even like curried latkes!) when all I want are boring traditional ones. Do you have the wrap yet? Do you like it? I’m so curious about this whole thing! Oh, and no one wrote me back about your party, so I think it’ll just be the two of us.
 


How about my house on Sunday? I have no need for anything fancy in my latkes, and I've already made them twice, so I'm happy to let you do it or help out in my kitchen if you'd like.  I was planning to make them anyway.  YES, I have my wrap, and I love it!  The only problem is that the color was listed wrong on Amazon--it is actually pink and purple--super girly, even for me ;-).  So maybe I'll trade it for another one at some point, but I love using it.  So far we've done well with front and hip carries, and I'm going to try out a back carry today if Lilah will let me.  She gets super fussy when I'm getting her situated but seems happy once she is settled.  She loves the front cross carry and sleeps that way--at Z's string concert this morning, in fact.  Can't wait to see you on Sunday!  Starling and Seraf: I have a rucksack problem!  The rucksack arms (backpack-style) seem to pinch a nerve on my left side, giving me shooting pain down the outside of my arm.  The Ergo in a back carry does the same thing.  UGH!  So I'm working on the back cross carry (which I think is similar to a back double-hammock carry--so much new terminology!), which felt a lot better when I tried it with a local babywearing leader (funny that there are such people, but I'm thankful).

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Isa, your glider story cracks me up.  You mentioned starting sewing young, that makes me happy since sometimes worry that my kids were started a bit young.  You still have all your fingers, yeah?  Kidding.  They have been helping sew since they were old enough to play "red light/green light" using the foot pedal as a gas pedal.  Fun times.  They still ask to press it whenever I'm sewing.  Ari has been getting into guiding the fabric through but I won't let her guide the fabric through and press the foot pedal at the same time.  Too distractable still.

 

Gumshoe, cute pic, what kind of pacifier is that?  I don't think I've ever seen one like that.  Shay has one for the car, doesn't really suck on it anymore, but he likes to lick it.  He can't keep it in his mouth, but I like the one piece thing.

 

AmandaHope, does it mess with your shoulder if you cross the arms over your chest (why can't I find pics anywhere)?  Or the Tibetan?

 

I took the kids swimming.  Shay was unimpressed.  He didn't cry but he kept rooting, which I took as a sign of displeasure.  When we were changing afterward Ari looked at the diaper changing station and asked about the koalas on the picture.  And then she asked why it (the diaper on the baby koala, not the station itself as it turned out) was white. She thought it should be red because, "Most people use cloth diapers"  It made me laugh and I told her that in the US most people don't use cloth diapers and most cloth diapers aren't red, so the koala was probably in the majority by wearing white.

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Gumshoe—I think of myself as being less gifted than game. It’s one of the nicest legacies of my parents, actually. We all just jump in and try things, even if we have no idea what we’re doing. Sometimes it doesn’t work out, and sometimes it does, but it’s usually more fun to just muck in and give it a go than to spend time worrying we’re going to do it wrong. smile.gif The trundle-crib looks like the perfect solution! And I LOVE that sheet!

Amanda—I would love to take you up on the latkes, but we’re supposed to be meeting a friend for lunch so I don’t think it’ll work out. I do have a pile of cookies for you, though! (oh, and my mom finally did write that she can’t come—my stepgrandma had hip surgery a few weeks ago and it keeps popping out of joint, which is painful for her and stressful for everyone involved, so they’re going to be at her house all weekend trying to cheer her up).

Seraf—nope, no major sewing-or-craft-related injuries to speak of. The rule was to always know where your fingers are, and not get them in line with the needle—which comes in handy as advice for circular saws, too, it turns out. Hilarious about the cloth diapers thing! Why are yours red? Better stain coverage? Sick of all those dingy whites?

AFM—so, I’ve been reading a book about pregnancy stuff (Do Chocolate Lovers Have Sweeter Babies—it’s not the best one I’ve ever read, but it’s interesting little tidbits about the science of pregnancy) and one of the things the author talks about is how babies who hear you reading or singing the same songs while they’re in utero will remember them after birth. Have any of you tried this with your kids? Does it work? I’m thinking that DP and I should each pick a story and a song or two and repeat them from here on out, partly for bonding purposes, partly because I secretly wonder if it’ll be more soothing and can be some kind of last-resort calming weapon in the fussy wars to come… Any suggestions for what to read/sing? I’m thinking about The Runaway Bunny, since that was always one I loved reading with my mom, but I’m open to suggestions.
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gumshoe, oh em gee! we are doppleganger mamas!! too funny and super cool!!

isa, wow! awesome your family was so into crafting! and i can understand why no one can touch her bead collection, i kinda feel the same.

mizyellow, sorry about your PPAF! yuck. i've been wondering if and when mine will come back. your korean meal sounds delish! i hope that the boys enjoyed swimming... did it help H sleep?

seraf, thanks for the tips. we cannot afford a twin mattress now, plus we are still sort of in the closet about our bedtime routine/nursing to sleep/cosleeping. and really by in the closet, i mean that it's really none of anyones business but i just don't want to go there with a few ppl, esp MIL. the crib mattress works fine, i really like that we kept most of the crib frame around it (for now). and the bed rail flips up and down, so it's really easy enough. i just fold up the rail when i leave his side and drop it down when i go back. easy peasy. glad the kiddos liked swimming, aside from Shay. funny story re the diaper changing station!

AHope, awww... i'm really sorry to say we have to miss the holiday party... greensad.gif DP's uncle died sort of suddenly from cancer. we thought he'd have around a year but he got pnemonia and passed early this week. funeral is sunday. such a sad time of year to lose a loved one... he was kind of a bigot and didn't treat us that well but we need to support the family. DP 'rents are really close to that particular Aunt and Uncle. we hope that S can bring some joy into such a sad time.

AFU, here are some pics of the nursery: (album in hyperlink)
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Isa, our diapers are all homemade.  Well, we have 6 white ones because we found some "car cloth" diapers at a store for super cheap.  I thought they were flats but they're 4 layer prefolds.  Sara likes them, so they're always in the diaper bag.  The homemade ones are all just flannel sheets that have been torn (they fray less if you rip them than if you cut, but they did shed strings for the first several washes) to a size I like.  We have maybe 18 red plaid ones and less than a ten each of beige, beige plaid and baby blue (made these too big, so I've been cutting them in half as I come across them, so there will be a lot of them soon) and a few are purple with snowflakes.  I have no idea why she thinks they're all red.

 

ETA: Wehrli, it is a cute set up.  I can understand being in the closet about co-sleeping, I probably get more grief about that than all my other parenting choices put together.  Tho in Cleveland I heard an awful lot of stuff about people nursing longer than someone thinks proper.  I just grinned and said, you probably don't want to talk to me about that.

 

How do they know the babies remember them?  I have known from very early that S knows my voice, but mostly because he would root on anyone when he heard my voice.  Now he doesn't follow me visually around the room but once I open my mouth he will turn toward me.

 

I'm going to tell you honest, I've never had as much time for the bump as with my first.  O's mama would read him the same book before bed every night. It was called Possum and the Peeper.  Every few pages it predictably says, "Peep peep peep."  One time around 8 months along as she was reading, he kicked in time with each peep on one page.  It was crazy cool, but then O was either my coolest babe in-utero or the only one who I truly paid attention to.  He would kick in time with Tracey Chapman and one time he started kicking a steady beat and then a car drove by thumping the same steady beat and he kept time with it for several seconds after the car was past my hearing.  I did read a lot of stories repeatedly and sing the same songs when I was pregnant with A because of her big brother but none of them seemed to calm her once she was out.  Each kid has had their own special lullaby once they were born.  O's was Hush Little Baby - the Sylvia Long book version.  A's was Mamas Don't Let Your Babies Grow Up to be Cowboys.  For some reason either she liked the cowboy songs or they calmed my pacing self down which somehow helped her.  S hears a lot of Baby Beluga.  I have been singing it to him since he was born, tho not before and he clearly responds to it.  He also calms well to all I can remember of 1 2 3 Like a Bird I Sing.  He heard the other 2 plenty in-utero, but he doesn't react any differently.  I don't know if he has any attachment to the books I read the big kids at bedtime, but I have noticed that he goes to bed a couple hours earlier on nights they're home (and he's less fussy in general when they're home) and we go through the whole bedtime routine, but I don't know if that's also because we get up a couple of hours earlier in the morning when they're home. 

 

I honestly wouldn't worry that your babe will be fussy.  Haha, unless you have a girl.

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isa - I sang/read/ and played music for DD in utero. It was pretty cool when she was first born, after her first feeding I held her and cuddled her and sang. She looked up and had this great comforted face. Both me and DP saw it. We always thought she knew my voice from our night time songs and discussions during the pregnancy. One of her fav songs was an in utero song that we still sing it. Maybe just because she likes the song. Maybe not because of the things we did while she was in utero - but we like to believe that its part of it :)

 

DP mostly talks to Pi - telling her about the day, etc... She wants to do it each night and tries to. Sometimes she ends with a song. Mostly Christmas ones right now. I kinda miss being down there. It is nice talking to a belly when you are all snuggled against it and feeling their little bodies squirming and kicking in response. It is funny - I feel so much further away from the babe this time - can't get my face down there to sing and whisper in the same way :) I try explaining this to people and they think its crazy. How could I feel less close to something growing inside me? Closer in some ways, less close in others I guess!

Wherli - great set up! and whoohoo with your sleep successes! You too GUmshoe! Must feel so great!!!

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Good Friday morning~ I've had a crazy busy week of school and home responsibilities (food drive, candygrams, Santa Store, book award voting,  rest of my actual job and family) so I apologize for being out of touch. We're a busy board!!!

 

Wehrli~ I love your nursery! That bed is gorgeous!! And I squinted and squinted at the bookshelf trying to read titles (can't help myself...)

 

Seraf~ I sing all the time too! I make up songs, or sing random things, or play a game with her where I try and think of as many songs as I can with a specific word in them (like while we were walking I tried to think of 'walk' songs-- Walk The Line, Walkin' to New Orleans, These Boots Are Made for Walking, etc).  I have a terrible, off-key voice but BOY am I enthusiastic!!!

 

 

Isa~ Dr Seuss works really well  for in utero reading because the rhythm and rhyme is so strong in those. I'm sure you can find titles you like, but my favorites are The Lorax and Horton Hears a Who.   But any book is good, of course. Whatever it is you love.

 

Gumshoe~ LOVE the photo (and the purple afghan).  And the clever solution!! I remember reading about trundle beds in Laura Ingalls Wilder and when i was little I thought that the parents tucked the kids into the trundle and then shoved it back under the bed. I'm glad you're not doing that ;)

 

 

Allison~ Thank you! Alice is quite nibbleable. She has meaty drumsticks too, and those are good for nomming.

 

OMOM~ I love the superultrasound. We didn't do one of those, but they're very interesting it's true.  Yay for girls!!!  Enjoy your waddling!

 

MizYellow~  BOO for AF! I hope it wasn't a monster one like mine. 

 

AHope~ May I have some latkes please?!  I did a storytime book called "Herschel and the Hanukkah Goblins"  It was a big hit, but I had to do LOTS of explaining about dreidl games, etc. Still, every little bit helps.

 

Indigo~ Baby news?!!?!?!?

 

I'm forgetting folks, so HELLO!! And much love!!!  I'm still undecided about Dallas~ or rather not undecided, but unsure about how to make things work logistically and financially, but I guess I'll just keep going and see how it all shakes out.  Alice came to school today and had her picture taken with Santa and all the kids at school ooohed and aaahed about what a cutie she was.  I am a proud mama it's true.

 

TGIF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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