Queer Conceptions: October 2011 - Page 13

[LezzyFamDiary]

Thanks for the warm welcome!

Skyandtru yes I am on youtube!  Thanks for subbing lol!  What's your youtube username?

nosreves A bit about me... I am a Las Vegas native and my DP is from upstate NY... We got married (CC) in Key West last September, but plan on getting our license in NY in December.  We have been together for 4 years.  We bought a house in April, and have been hoping to fill up the extra rooms with little bundles

I after searching for the perfect doctor I ended up with Sher Institutes and have been lucky enough to actually work with Dr. Sher himself!  In April I was accepted into their IVM study.  I had me egg retrieval in June, had 14 eggs, then 12 matured in lab, and recently found out that I have 5 normal eggs (the most in the study) I am waiting for news today as to if and how many actually fertilized.  My transfer is scheduled for December, although my psychic says it wont happen until February-March. 

Cross your fingers for me girls!

[lisedea]

Seraf--Yes, I would be as crazy as the two of you. Actually...things aren't working out as hoped...still a chance but she left the place she was living (no idea why....) and has lost communication with most family members. Not sure we want to get involved in that...but I guess whatever happens, happens!

Welcome Lezzy!!

Outdoorsy--Sometimes a positive doesn't last very long--that is why most people say to test twice a day. The first time you get a positive, count it! I don't really know what to think about the smeary look though...sorry.

Nosreves--How frustrating!! I second Seraf's question about whether they can wash it for you and then you do the IUI yourself. There has got to be some loophole!

So...as I mentioned to Seraf, things aren't working out the best with the adoption thing...who knows. I have also been a bit freaked out about my cycle. I had dull, annoying cramps from CD15 until yesterday (CD 22) which NEVER happens to me until right before AF. I was a bit afraid that AF would arrive as early as last month but so far, no sign! I hope I am back to normal! If so, I will being doing my first IUI cycle at a fertility clinic around November 15th! I still haven't heard about my progesterone results...we'll see. Hopefully they are as close to normal as possible because I don't think I can take an abnormal test! Hope all is going well for everyone!

[SwtRainbowBrite]

Sky: YAY for insems!! I am hoping that you have some great beginner's luck!! And Nos explained what I was thinking to the T! Shame on your brother and his ridiculous comments, but screw them! You & your DP deserve all the happiness in the world and that includes you having children! One thing that I learned when I came out was that you have a perfect opprotunity to create a new family filled with loving a supportive friends & family and the rest you have to cut off or they will poison your spirit! Also, I have Youtube Vlogs as well if you ever want to tune in 

Nos: YAY for a prooductive meeting with the Ob/Gyn!!! I am so happy that you got the trigger script! I hope that is all you need to get the BFP! I think the trigger shot & the IUI was what did it for us, and you see that is what happened to Sara!! I am so proud of you for standing up and making your Dr listen to you! 

Seraf: Thank you so much!!! You are so close I know you have got to be getting so excited! 

LezzyFamDiary: I hope that your stay is short & sweet! And for your sake I hope the psychic is wrong and that you get your BFP after this transfer!!! 

Lisdea: I am sorry to hear that things are not going as planned with the adoption, I hope that for your sake and the sake of the unborn baby that things turn around soon! Also fingers crossed that AF stays away so that you can have a normal cycle so that you can continue on your journey to your BFP!

Krista: Where are you hiding out? Signs? Symptoms? Anything LOL!

AFM: So we got the result of our 2nd Beta today...... 800.1DP & I are SUPER excited that this may in fact be real! I am still worried, but DP is confident. We have an ultrasound scheduled for November 10th I will be 6 weeks and 3 days at that appt so I am hoping to be able to see the sac, with an embryo in it, and a hopefully a heartbeat as well... until then I will be holding my breath! Ok ta-ta for now I am exhausted and I am going to take a nap LOL

[outdoorsy]

Skyandtru -- welcome to the 2ww! I had my first one last month with live sperm (see my sig) and it was so emotional and hard because I was super attuned to any little symptom that I believed I was pregnant, then found out I wasn't. I hope you are doing OK!

nosreves - glad things are going better with your doc. As a fellow ICI-at-homer, I understand your worry about possibly wasting it. It's sad that you can't get IUI in France. I am in the US but chose to go the ICI route at least for two cycles -- next one coming up soon. Good luck to you.

LezzyFemDiary - Welcome!!! How can we find your videos on YouTube?

lisdea - so sorry to hear the adoption might not work out. what are your next steps?

As for me - I know they say you have to trust the smiley, but this has happened to me once before - I got the odd smeared test with smiley in the morning, then empty circle in the afternoon  -- and two days later, a really clear smiley that was repeated at the next test. I think the same may be happening now. I have absolutely zero EWCM so far, no temp signs, etc. So I'm hoping my real positive opk is coming tomorrow or the next day.

Best of luck to everyone in the 2ww!

[2ezforyou]

Crashing...again...and I LOVE it!

CONGRATS Rainbow!!! What a journey it's been. Yay for the betas. And congrats!!!!

[Skyandtru]

Brite- congrats on ur beta!!! Thank you for the support i feel special  our families aren't the most supportive right now. Of course i would love to check out ur ttc vlogs on youtube send me your username!!!

Outdoorsy- I totally know what ur saying about every symptom I can only imagine how i will be acting in a few days 

AFU- Have any of you experienced cramping the day of insem and the day after? Is it bad? I have been having mild cramping sort of like pre menstual cramps? 

[KSDoulaMama]

Originally Posted by nosreves   i reeeally am not looking forward to the estradiol, and if i weren't so worried about getting fertile cm, i think i'd forgo it.  anyone have any thoughts?

I have been on estradiol for several weeks now as part of my IVF protocol. It definitely gave me COPIOUS amounts of fertile CM when I started it! Another benefit is that it thickens the lining of the uterus, which can only be a good thing when you're hoping for an embryo to implant. The shot was scary the first day- it's kind of a big needle. But after that it was no big deal. :)

Originally Posted by LezzyFamDiary 

Hi I'm new to the thread, SwtRainbowBrite invited me... just wanted to introduce myself and say good luck and congrats!

Just wanted to say I love your picture! Almost makes me wish we had gotten married on the beach, haha. Welcome and I hope all goes well for this transfer cycle...

[TineyDreams]

Thank you everyone for your support!!

Outdoorsy: Thank you for the advice! Definitely something DP and I have been thinking about for some time.

Krista: Thank you!

Skyandtru: That’s so rough about your DW and brother. Family is so hard sometimes…

Nosreves: Thank you so much for the kind and supportive words!

Lezzy: 

I still haven't spoken with my brother--which is something I don't plan doing anytime soon. DP has been talking about sending him an email about how she feels....mostly that he used to be my greatest supporter in the coming out process to the family, and now has become very insensitive and just plain stupid. SO I guess we'll see what happens... 

In other news: DP and I have our 1st GYN appointment on Monday about the TTC process. We were lucky enough to find one that is lesbian friendly and has helped tons of couples get pregnant. We are supper excited and nervous about it! We have also been talking about visiting an RE per request from you ladies.  We're thinking it might be a good idea--just not sure about the extra cost at this point.  At this point, we are planning to do our 1st insem in December. We want to make sure DP is on her prenatals for at least 3 months. We are still trying to figure out whether we should do ICI/IUI and at home/clinic. We are hoping that our appt. with GYN will help us decide. Please keep your fingers crossed that everything is a GO for us! We have also chosen our sperm and need to figure out where we are going to store it, etc. We're in OH and the frozen sperm will be coming from Seattle! It's a long way out....but we fell in love with our donor's profile and the people at the bank! Ok...now going back to laying down, a serious cold is coming my way! 

[Skyandtru]

 Have any of you ladies experience cramping the day of insem and the day after? Is it bad? I have been having mild cramping sort of like pre menstual cramps?

[kgulbransen]

Sky: cramping can be totally normal. I can't remember, did you do an IUI? Cramps can be a result of ovulation and/or they can be a result of the catheter going into the uterus for the IUI. Although the IUI cramps shouldn't last long, if it's a result of that, it could have just irritated the uterus enough to bring it on. It's nothing to worry about that. Are you pretty confident you have ovulated and your period is on track? If so, I wouldn't worry about a thing.

AFM: Thanks to those who asked about me. I am 9/10DPO (FF and I are in argument). I had a major dip in temp yesterday and a huge spike this morning. Not sure what that means but it put a little bounce in my step for some hope. Other than that, nothing much to report. I'm thinking AF is due Sunday if I listen to FF who says I'm 9DPO today. We all know I hate to POAS so I can't make any promises there. Can't POAS yet as I might still have trigger shot in me.

If I don't get pregnant this cycle, guess what I get to do next cycle? Self inseminate! Has anyone ever done that? I haven't but I have a good friend (single lesbo) who has gotten herself pregnant twice that way. DP will be out of town on a biz trip next cycle. My BFF cracked me up and said she "believes it goes outside the bounds of the BFF code but she would be willing to assist." I thanked her but told her that was way too much even for my absolute bestest BFF. I think she was relieved.

Here's to hoping I can bring another BFP to the board this month!

[MrsPP]

Krista - Weird! FF and I are in an argument too - I also think I am 10dpo and it says 9 - I didn't know you and I were so close! I also had a temp spike this morning! No dip yesterday though... It was strange to read your post because it sounds exactly like where I'm at. Other notable things that are different this time - dizziness and very vivid dreams the last three nights. Fingers crossed for us both! 

[outdoorsy]

Krista, good to hear from you! I'm hoping for BFPs for both you and MrsPP this cycle!

Sky - I had cramping after some of my insems, which were ICI. I think it was partly ovulation, magnified by being overly attuned to my body.

[kgulbransen]

MrsPP: We could do a coordinated virtual pee and bless a stick at the same time! I don't know what's up with FF and I'm not sure what day I WANT to be on at this point.

So glad to know I have a direct buddy in this one. Yay for temp spikes! Let's hope they hold.

[lisedea]

MrsPP/Krista--That is funny...I am 9dpo as well...of course, I didn't insem this cycle so it doesn't mean much...but still...thought it was interesting.

[handerson003]

Hello all! Congrats to Brite!!! I always am MIA on the computer. I just get so busy with work and kiddos...

Dp is 9DPO today also!!! LOL funnie.. She doesnt have any different feelings or symptoms tho so we shall see if AF comes next Tuesday or not.

Fingers Crossed for you Krista and Mrs PP and EVERYONE else in the TWW!!!

[KSDoulaMama]

Originally Posted by MrsPP 

dizziness and very vivid dreams the last three nights. Fingers crossed for us both! 

Vivid dreams are one of my biggest signs! I am dying to know!!!

[LezzyFamDiary]

My youtube is www.youtube.com/user/lesbianfamilydiary

AND... none of my eggs fertilized, so I'm a bit depressed.  The doctor squeezed me in tomorrow afternoon so we shall see what he says.

Baby dust to you guys! It helps reading your posts.

[TillyBarry]

Congratulation to Brite and Vegan!!!

And good luck to those who are the the waiting weeks.

I got a BFP on two tests yesterday midday (10 DPO)!  I was not planning to test but I was nauseous and so did it on a whim.  The internet cheapie was very light but the digital said pregnant.  My DP was home with me to celebrate.  We are happy!

Thank you all for your support and for answering our questions.

[TineyDreams]

Lezzy: So sorry about your eggs... I'm sending positive and peaceful vibes your way 

[invitnconceptn]

Wow what a week!! I've been keeping close tabs on the everyone's posts via Iphone as I'm laying in bed.

Brite: Similar to some of other folks reactions, I too had some tears running down my face when I saw your wonder BFP fotos. I've only been here a short time and in the up and down and sometimes lonely rollarcoaster of a ttc process I have come to look forward to listening to others experiences. Brite, you especially have appeared so kind and thorough in your responses to me and everyone else. I'm am truly so happy for you and your DP and your sweet blessing.

Tilly: Congratulations on your BFP as well.

krista, lise, handerson, MRS PP: that is interesting that all of you are on the same cycle together. For the first time ever, my only friend who is ttc as well was one day ahead of me. it was comforting just know that someone is experiencing the ups and downs with me, makes the ride not feels so bumpy, you know. Wow every day in the 2ww is so nerve wrecking, but I think as the days creep into the the double digits, the level of anticipation can be so intense. Good luck to all of you..including SKY... I wish you all the least amount of stress over the next few days, which I know can be so hard given the circumstances..and ofcourse

AFM: I have to say that hearing Brite's great news really helped to put a "brite" spot over what was otherwise not good week for me. To be honest, since Monday I have felt all over the place about what could be going on in my body and all of this accumulated in me feeling so disappointed and frankly pissed off with my body today. Let me do alittle bit of week in review so you all can understand what I'm talking about: Typically AF would have come on Monday or Tuesday (10th or 11th dpo) but since I was taking prometrium (for the first time) I didn't think that AF would come until after I stopped taking it. But no of course not, nothing has happened like how I thought it would happen this whole past year and 1/2 of ttc. Monday I started to have intense cramps, and then tuesday I began to spot ever so lightly. Nothing signficant occurred wednesday. My temps were going down slightly each day, I'm mean like a tenth of a degree which I didnt' think was much of a decline. Then this morning (13 dpo) my temp shot up and I was pleasantly surprised until I got out of bed and realized that AF was here in all her ugly glory.  It sucked. It always sucks when this happens. I contacted my RE who reassured me that is possible to start AF even if you are on prometrium. I guess if there was anything good that came out of using it, it was that my LH phase was extended by two days. I don't think that I have ever gone 13 days past O in the whole time that I have be tracking. So I feel like it is back to the drawing board. I am going to make an appt with RE and see what next trick we can try. I have never tried other drugs. I don't even know what a "trigger shot" is that different people refer to and would love to know more about it, if anyone would be willing to explain it to me. Perhaps I need to try a stronger dose of progestrone? Really more than anything for the next day or two I think I just need some serious tlc bc i'm absolutely pooped. Between trying to make human and all the other important things of life, like tending to my wife who got bronchitis yday ...and dealing with my vet who cant give me a straight answer on how to care for my sick cat with pancreatitis....and gearing up for a extremely hard 1 yr anniversary of the death of my beloved canine, I don't think I can take one more stressor.  Oh seriously I need a vacation in the worst way. I keep staring at the desktop image of Maui on my computer nearly salivating wishing I could physically just teleport myself to this paradise place. Perhaps until I can conjure up 5000$ for a return Hawaii trip, maybe I will make an appt to try acupuncture for the first time. Thank you again to the person (I think Krista) who suggested it in a previous thread.

Ok I think I just ranted enough for one posting. Good night all.