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nosreves - je suis desole, no catheter ICI experience here...

 

lise  - !!!!!!! so happy for your good blood test results !!!!!

 

as for me - still waiting to o. getting into my customarily long timeframe - today is cycle day 22.

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I can be threadkeeper this month unless there is someone else that really wants to be.
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dandy -- oh that's terrible about the infection.  i guess it's one of the risks we take in using KDs and fresh, but it's still a bit scary.  i'm glad you're able to treat it and get back on the rollercoaster.  i'm on clomid this month for the third time, and i know other gals on here have taken it.  feel free to ask questions or vent if you need to (it makes me very emotional...)  welcome back, btw!

 

krista --  no no, we're definitely going for ICI and not IUI.  no access to washed sperm here, so it's really our only option.  so far we've been doing something closer to IVI with just a syringe, but this time around, i want to use a speculum and something that will allow us to deposit the sperm directly on the os. with my cm problems, that seems the smartest choice.  what day are you on now, btw?  and how are you feeling?

 

rainbow -- thanks for the input.  what you said about dropping the sperm directly onto the os gave me an idea, and we ended up ordering some graduated pipettes to attempt a similar manoeuver. how are you feeling these days, and how long til the first u/s?  sending big, warm hugs your and DP's way.

 

desert -- merci for the link!  that was exactly what i was looking for.  unfortunately, we couldn't find anything like it here in france (at least not available to the public), so as i mentioned to rainbow, we went ahead and ordered pipettes to use in a kind of dropper fashion.  it sounds complicated, and i'm wondering about all of it spilling back out.  DP thinks we should close the speculum when we're finished and just leave it in for a while while my hips are raised. i guess we'll see what works after we've tried.  btw, i'm so sad to hear that your foster kids are going back to their mother.  there's a part of me that wants to be optimistic and think that she'll change and begin to be a good mother to her children, but i've lived long enough to know that those kinds of cycles of abuse and neglect are hard to break.   watching those two little souls you've nurtured go back to uncertainty and instability must be heartbreaking. and i second what tineydreams said above.  i'm *sure* the time those kids have spent with you and DP has had a huge positive impact on them.  they'll always carry that little seed of love and care that you have planted in them, and that will surely give them strength in the time to come.   i hope that the light at the end of this sad tunnel will be a BFP and your own little bundle of joy.  

 

afm ...  AF arrived yesterday as expected, and i began my third round of clomid last night.  normally i do days 2-6, but after reading a few studies and looking at the availability of my donors, i decided to move things forward a day.  i'll go in for an ultrasound on cd10, and if i have one or more follicles that are 18+mm, i will trigger the next day.  i've decided not to take the estriol, because it just messed me up too much mentally the last time, and i think it delayed my ovulation by almost a week.  i'm also doing baby aspirin, fertility yoga poses, femoral massage, red raspberry leaf tea and acupuncture to try to improve my lining.  i'm taking the highest possible dose of EPO for cm.  i've got my fingers crossed that i'll be ready to insem around the 11th or 12th of nov, because the donors probably won't be available afterwards.   in other news, i'm leaving for amsterdam tomorrow morning, and i'll be gone until saturday night.  i am sooo looking forward to this time with an old friend in a city i love.  it's the first time in two years that i'll be going somewhere to visit a friend.  as lovely as paris is, it's been quite lonely for me, so i definitely could use the time with someone i can talk to and be myself with.   i'll still be catching up on everyone in between long talks, walks and bicycle rides, though.  

 

it's not really celebrated over here but Happy Halloween to all of ya'll where it is.  eat some candy for me!

 

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go for it Lise!  and here's hoping that threadkeepers luck is with you!

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MrsPP- Come on, don't leave me hanging here! Are you testing this cycle or no???

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KS - Ha! Sorry! I tested yesterday (12dpo) and it was negative. I did not test this morning because I just didn't want to see another white stick. Temps are dropping. AF is supposed to arrive tomorrow or Wed but I think it could be as early as today - I just have a feeling. I am sad, of course, but yesterday DW and I decided to go ahead and look at donors again just in case. We wanted to have a  list this time in case our first choice was not available like last month (we ended up with #3 but only after a slight freak out - this time wanted to be prepared). ANYWAY - the bank just released about 5 or 6 new guys in the last two weeks and I kid you not - one of them is a dude Nicki! Tall, curly brown hair, blue eyes, German and English, musical...the list goes on. We are smitten! It's the first time I've felt like this crazy "omg, this is THE ONE" feeling. She felt the same way. We kept staring at the profile and saying "wow, I really like him". Like I said he is brand spanking new, which means, of course, no pregnancies yet. Previously we had only used guys that had been successful. But we both have a great feeling about this one and someone has to be the first, right? :) If November is not our month we will be taking a break Dec and Jan (holidays and vacation to Hawaii) and starting again in Feb - likely with doctor's assistance. Thanks for asking about me :)

 

Krista - Any news from your end??

 

wave.gif to all - sorry for lack of personals but please know I am thinking of you all!!! xoxoxoxo

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Brite--Can you please send me the threadkeepers info? Thanks! smile.gif
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KS - Ha! Sorry! I tested yesterday (12dpo) and it was negative. I did not test this morning because I just didn't want to see another white stick. Temps are dropping. AF is supposed to arrive tomorrow or Wed but I think it could be as early as today - I just have a feeling. I am sad, of course, but yesterday DW and I decided to go ahead and look at donors again just in case. We wanted to have a  list this time in case our first choice was not available like last month (we ended up with #3 but only after a slight freak out - this time wanted to be prepared). ANYWAY - the bank just released about 5 or 6 new guys in the last two weeks and I kid you not - one of them is a dude Nicki! Tall, curly brown hair, blue eyes, German and English, musical...the list goes on. We are smitten! It's the first time I've felt like this crazy "omg, this is THE ONE" feeling. She felt the same way. We kept staring at the profile and saying "wow, I really like him". Like I said he is brand spanking new, which means, of course, no pregnancies yet. Previously we had only used guys that had been successful. But we both have a great feeling about this one and someone has to be the first, right? :) If November is not our month we will be taking a break Dec and Jan (holidays and vacation to Hawaii) and starting again in Feb - likely with doctor's assistance. Thanks for asking about me :)

 

Krista - Any news from your end??

 

wave.gif to all - sorry for lack of personals but please know I am thinking of you all!!! xoxoxoxo

 

Okay, so maybe you just needed an awesome donor. It's not over until it's over but I like the sound of this male version of Nicki! :) Very promising.
 

 

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Rainbow: I was able to check out your blog on youtube--and I was SO excited as you and DP were checking the pregnancy tests! Almost brought be to tears! I know I've already said this but CONGRATULATIONS! So wonderful! I have a question--I saw that you were/are using the Circle Bloom system. Can you tell me a little bit about your experience with it? Has it helped at all? Do you recommend it? DP suffers from a lot of stress and we have been looking for a meditation system for some while--this one popped out at us! Would you recommend it?

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I have been in hiding for a while. Been dealing with a lot of stuff emotionally but I'm better now. Huge congrats to the BFPs for the month!! Sorry for all the BFNs!

 

DW and I took this month off not cuz we wanted to but cuz our donor was not around when we needed him. We have been talking and decided it was time we looked for another donor. We found this amazing site with free donors that for the most part are good guys just wanting to help out. We are looking into a few and are truely in "love" with one. The only down thing about him is he has brown eyes and both DW and I have blue, other than that he is about perfect. He has 3 beautiful children with his wife and 13 born thru AI and 7 more unborn! We are hoping to make it one more very soon. AF started a few days early this month so we are about 10 days from O. We are so happy to have some new found hope! jumpers.gif

 

 

dust.gifto everyone!!


Edited by Amt1015 - 10/31/11 at 12:30pm
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Quick check in. DPO13. No sign of AF. No feeling that it's just around the corner. Temps still somewhat elevated. FMU this morning on a digital said "Not Pregnant." Broke the sucker open with a hammer and wondered if there was a faint line. I mean VERY faint. I had those stupid faint lines. I decided to just trash it and forget about it.

 

At this point, I'm just continuing to wait. Last two pregnancies I didn't get a faint line until DPO14.

 

But I'm wondering if my cycle is changing due to my recent surgery. I haven't been able to find any andecdotal information on the web from anyone that has had surgery and said their cycle changed so am I pregnant or is my cycle changing? I don't know!

 

I'm actually doing pretty well. DP sprung on me this weekend that she isn't sure she wants to have a kid. Now that time has passed, she has decided she's not so sure. She's so tired all the time, how is she going to manage? She has too much to do between work and volunteer activities, how is she going to manage having to take care of a kid? Her timing is always impeccable (said very sarcastically). I just tried to listen and understand and told her, well things don't change for me. I still want a kid.

 

We'll see.

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Hi ladies!  This is Tiney's DP- I'm so thankful we found you all, and for all your wisdom and kindness!  I wish you all lots of powerful baby dust and BFP's soon if you haven't gotten one yet.  To everyone who has recently- congrats!! It gives me and DP lots of hope!!

 

So exciting news!!  We had our first appointment with our OB today, and it was awesome!  We were both very nervous I think we about peed our pants in the waiting room.  We had a weird interaction with the receptionist (Her: "What's your marital status?" Me: "umm..partnered?  This is my spouse so however you want to categorize that"  Her: "Oh so you're single?" Me: "NO this is my spouse." lol.... duh.gif) but as soon as we started talking with the doctor we calmed down.  She was totally pro-gay, has lots of lesbian (and even gay couples with surragates) patients, and has LOTS of IUI experience.  So here is our plan, please let us know any reactions or ideas you have!

 

So I'm on CD 6, and we will do our first insem next cycle.  So she gave us a script for Clomid, which I will take CD 3-7 next month, then go in for an ultrasound on CD 12 or 13 and take some medication that sounds pretty much like a trigger shot, then do one vial of frozen sperm 24 hours later.  We were both surprised that she only does one vial and one IUI per cycle, but she says she typically can have success within 3 cycles.  Does this all sound good?  We are pretty happy with it, adn SO excited to get started. jumpers.gif

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