I am 15 weeks pregnant with my (hopefully) fourth child. I have had preeclampsia with all of my living children's pregnancy's. I had 2 second trimester losses in 2010 and my current pregnancy I'm on Lovenox to hopefully prevent this from reoccuring.
My family, mainly my mother, is always making comments about me being pregnant. They just found out about my current pregnancy so I've had to hear all the same comments that I"ve heard from her before. She says how can you risk this again? Why would you want another child when they could be bipolar(DH is)? I found that one the most offending. You'd think I'd be used to dealing with "this" by now. I've heard why do you want more children you already have 3.
Of course none of them understand how hard it would be for me to not fill the void I have from trying and losing my babies and then not go on to have another. I really can't imagine. I just don't know how to deal with rude comments from them. I have explained to my mother that it's really unfair to say these things to me and she apparently doesn't get it. It really hurts to have NEVER had my parents be excited for any of my pregnancies(9 of them). I'm a married adult who takes good care of my children and they are good kids, why is this such a bad thing? I guess my mother still thinks of me as a child, I find it offending and disrespectful. Thoughts on what I can say differently to stop these rude comments or just let it roll off my back?