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[seraf]

Not me!

Originally Posted by Jaimee 

Okay, it's awfully quiet around here... everyone off having babies??

I'm 38 weeks and 4 days but I fully expect to go at least another week.  I am now officially done with work until next year, so that's pretty exciting.  Now I can focus on all the, um, other stuff that needs doing.  I made some swaddling blankets and my birth stool.  I guess I just need to do more laundry and cook for the freezer and I'll be good.  Maybe finish building a toybox and I think the bed would be much nicer with a new shelf/headboard (we recently moved to two mattresses on the floor.  Two pregnant women in one bed requires a number of pillows.  Then a newborn will take the place of some pillows, and it's amazing how much space such a tiny person can take up.  What else?  I guess I just have to keep drinking and maybe find something tasty from the kids Halloween candy.  Really smart being pregnant over Halloween.  

I had thought about going wheat and dairy free before the birth, but I don't think I can do it.  One kid had a problem with wheat, the other with dairy.  Since they have different donors, this one could be totally fine, but all the wheat free/dairy stuff I used to eat were fresher things that don't freeze so well, so I'm sure if we have a fussy baby I will start cooking again.  I suppose I will get some split lentils and make some sambar/daal/stew just in case I need something fast.

Hope everyone is doing well.  Sorry to hear about all the family drama.  I hope you each find the light at the end of your tunnel.  And maybe a baby will find the light soon too?  I am surely awaiting news of a new baby round here.

[meesh933]

Originally Posted by jbk21 

DIfferent topic, but why are men impossible to deal with?  DH is grumpy today.  About what, I have no idea.  I mean he tells me, but seriously I don't see the issue.  His life is just so hard, you know, getting to go to a job that he loves and talk to ADULTS all day long, and then come home to his wife and wonderful son, home-cooked hot meal, and then he's in bed by like 9:30 at the latest and sleeps like a rock.  Rough.  So rough.  

We don't usually have days like this, but apparently it must all be catching up to him.  He's so ready for this pregnancy to be over (as if that fixes anything?  Life gets harder after the baby comes, buddy) but he just doesn't want to finish all the pre-baby projects.  All two of them.  That he's had months to do.    I would do them, but I'm PHYSICALLY INCAPACITATED RIGHT NOW.  Growing a child- me- right here.  I can't do much to help, but I do all the other projects that I am able to do.  But that's when he's at work so he doesn't even notice.  

I'm so annoyed.  Ugh.  I love my husband, I do, but he can be SUCH a drama queen.  



 

OMG. Last weekend DH rolled his ankle running. ANd proceeded to hobble around and whine all.weekend.long. STFU. I'm 8 months pregnant, my hips hurt like hell, I can barely move, but I do EVERYTHING around here and still take care of two young children. Gimme a break. You hurt yourself while you were jogging alone in the woods? While you were getting alone time, to do something YOU wanted to do? And I was at home for 10 hours straight with the kids? Yeah. Shut up, stop limping, and be useful. No one cares.
 

[Jaimee]

Originally Posted by jbk21 

DIfferent topic, but why are men impossible to deal with?  DH is grumpy today.  About what, I have no idea.  I mean he tells me, but seriously I don't see the issue.  His life is just so hard, you know, getting to go to a job that he loves and talk to ADULTS all day long, and then come home to his wife and wonderful son, home-cooked hot meal, and then he's in bed by like 9:30 at the latest and sleeps like a rock.  Rough.  So rough.  

We don't usually have days like this, but apparently it must all be catching up to him.  He's so ready for this pregnancy to be over (as if that fixes anything?  Life gets harder after the baby comes, buddy) but he just doesn't want to finish all the pre-baby projects.  All two of them.  That he's had months to do.    I would do them, but I'm PHYSICALLY INCAPACITATED RIGHT NOW.  Growing a child- me- right here.  I can't do much to help, but I do all the other projects that I am able to do.  But that's when he's at work so he doesn't even notice.  

I'm so annoyed.  Ugh.  I love my husband, I do, but he can be SUCH a drama queen.  
 

I hear ya!  Dh is the one lounging in bed again right now and I'm the one that's up pottying ds and getting him dressed.  I was up most of the night AGAIN b/c I cannot stop scratching these f*$#@ing bites and now I've got either allergies or pregnancy congestion (or both I suppose) that is draining into my throat and making me cough.  So I wake up a gillian times a night coughing, scratching, needing to pee, and then ds comes in at the crack of dawn- seriously, the sun is not up- and that's it.  Up for the day!  Whoo hoo!!!  And dh goes on a run, goes to the gym, off to his stimulating job that he LOVES... 
 

[Jaimee]

Originally Posted by meesh933 

OMG. Last weekend DH rolled his ankle running. ANd proceeded to hobble around and whine all.weekend.long. STFU. I'm 8 months pregnant, my hips hurt like hell, I can barely move, but I do EVERYTHING around here and still take care of two young children. Gimme a break. You hurt yourself while you were jogging alone in the woods? While you were getting alone time, to do something YOU wanted to do? And I was at home for 10 hours straight with the kids? Yeah. Shut up, stop limping, and be useful. No one cares.
 

  OMG, we are quite the group right now aren't we?
 

[meesh933]

Originally Posted by Jaimee 

  OMG, we are quite the group right now aren't we?
 

LOL.  A bunch of 8-9 months pregnant women, all in one place. The rest of the world doesn't stand a chance against us and our hormones!

[Mal85]

Oh I hear you ladies on the husband complaints. He was complaining about something yesterday and I told him he had lost his complaining privileges until my postpartum time was over. Then, last night he had a couple of beers, which always gets in the mood for long, drawn-out conversations. I just was not in the mood. We crawl into bed and all I wanted to do was read my book until I fell asleep and he just would. not. stop. talking. I finally just looked at him and said "Do you ever stop talking? I'm trying to read!". Poor guy looked like a sad puppy... I really am a very bitchy pregnant lady right now. And I try really hard not to take it out on DD, so he gets to bear the brunt of it. 

This morning, I could have killed him. His alarm went off at 6:30. I heard DD leave her room and head for ours at the same time. She did the same thing yesterday, crawled in bed with us and was out again in about 10 minutes, slept until 8 (when DH felt the need to come kiss her goodbye before leaving for work, waking her up in the process ) So, this morning, she crawled into bed with us. 5 minutes later,  his alarm goes off again. He hit the snooze. 5 minutes later his alarm goes off again. I kid you not, he did this 5 times!!!! Of course, DD did not go back to sleep and neither could I! He got quite the earful when we all finally dragged ourselves out of bed. Is it really that hard to turn the alarm off so the other people in the room can sleep?!

Today, my goal is to get a lot of walking in. I have a few things I want to pick up for Christmas while they're on sale, so I'm going shopping with my sister. DH is convinced I'll go into labor tomorrow. But only after he takes DD out to breakfast. That's his plan. We'll see if he's right. I've gone back to thinking I'm just going to remain pregnant for an obscene amount of time. All signs of labor have gone away. Still losing a little mucous, but not much so I'm not very hopeful right now.

[TalkToMeNow]

Originally Posted by Abraisme 

  Yeah, did you ask what happens if you forget your fish net? 
 

I guess in that case, you're just s**t outta luck.  HA! I kill me!

Originally Posted by jbk21 

DIfferent topic, but why are men impossible to deal with?  DH is grumpy today.  About what, I have no idea.  I mean he tells me, but seriously I don't see the issue.  His life is just so hard, you know, getting to go to a job that he loves and talk to ADULTS all day long, and then come home to his wife and wonderful son, home-cooked hot meal, and then he's in bed by like 9:30 at the latest and sleeps like a rock.  Rough.  So rough.  

We don't usually have days like this, but apparently it must all be catching up to him.  He's so ready for this pregnancy to be over (as if that fixes anything?  Life gets harder after the baby comes, buddy) but he just doesn't want to finish all the pre-baby projects.  All two of them.  That he's had months to do.    I would do them, but I'm PHYSICALLY INCAPACITATED RIGHT NOW.  Growing a child- me- right here.  I can't do much to help, but I do all the other projects that I am able to do.  But that's when he's at work so he doesn't even notice.  

I'm so annoyed.  Ugh.  I love my husband, I do, but he can be SUCH a drama queen.  



 

My dh can be a drama queen, too. Recently, I've been thinking how he literally has only one thing in the world to worry about: work. Seriously. Go to work, work, leave work, get take out, go to bed. That's his day! Now granted, I can't complain too much right now. I have it pretty easy as my kids are older and in school till 2:30 each day. But man, when this baby is here... watch out!

Originally Posted by meesh933 

OMG. Last weekend DH rolled his ankle running. ANd proceeded to hobble around and whine all.weekend.long. STFU. I'm 8 months pregnant, my hips hurt like hell, I can barely move, but I do EVERYTHING around here and still take care of two young children. Gimme a break. You hurt yourself while you were jogging alone in the woods? While you were getting alone time, to do something YOU wanted to do? And I was at home for 10 hours straight with the kids? Yeah. Shut up, stop limping, and be useful. No one cares.
 

Mine came home a few weekends ago with a neck ache. I know that sucks, but man was he milking it. Him: "Do you think I should go to the ER?" Me: "No, because they will never actually see you and we will wait forever because all you have is a FREAKING NECK ACHE!!! Take some tylenol!" Now, when I start to hear whining, I just say, " No. I'm 8.5 months pregnant. I win." 

He's too funny about getting sick... so dramatic. A small irritated spot on his skin? Must be shingles. Or leprosy. Strained neck? Slipped disc. Feeling icky after having soda and candy? Diabetes. Heart palpitations? He won't live to see 45...........This is why women have the babies. 

[TalkToMeNow]

Originally Posted by Mal85 

Today, my goal is to get a lot of walking in. I have a few things I want to pick up for Christmas while they're on sale, so I'm going shopping with my sister. DH is convinced I'll go into labor tomorrow. But only after he takes DD out to breakfast. That's his plan. We'll see if he's right. I've gone back to thinking I'm just going to remain pregnant for an obscene amount of time. All signs of labor have gone away. Still losing a little mucous, but not much so I'm not very hopeful right now.

Good luck with the walking! And the going into labor plan for tomorrow. 

[IwannaBanRN]

Wow, sounds like I'm really not the only one with a hard day yesterday. lol Hugs to all of you!

I told my mom last night that I was in fact NOT going to be staying at her house for 3 weeks to have the baby. I was so worried about that yesterday. She was a little pissy, but come ON, I'm still coming to visit her with the kids this coming Thursday and Friday. Most grandparents don't see their grandkids this much when they're 300 miles away, AND with just the kids' parents bringing the kids to them. Pretty onesided, if you ask me. Anyway, we're trying to figure out a way to make everyone happy and let Michael stay with her for a couple weeks and that way my mom will get time with him like she wants and I'll have an easier time adjusting to the new baby.

[dashley111]

The dramatic husband rants are making me feel SO much better about my husband!  I swear the next time he takes my pregnancy crankiness and says something like, "I know I'm just the most terrible husband in the world but..."  I will punch him.  I will PUNCH him.  Because he isn't joking, he is just a giant 14 year old girl sometimes. 

[Jaimee]

Yes, just this morning, after my lovely night and early wake up, ds has been walking around crying and whining.  He wouldn't eat his breakfast and is just generally in one of "those" moods.  So I'm already feeling defeated that today is going to absolutely suck and dh, says something like, "For the love of... Austin stop crying!!!"  And I look at him and say, "yeah, at least you get to go to work!"   And he turns on me and is like, "Jaimee, that is so not appropriate.  I don't want to have this conversation again."  Of course I start to see red.  All I'm asking for is some sympathy, a little compassion... you know, how about "yes, I can tell this is going to be a challenging day, I'm sorry, I hope it gets better."  You know?  Is it so hard?

[Abraisme]

Yeah, I totally know what you mean.  My DH will do pretty much anything that I ask him to, but oh man, if he doesn't want to do it his attitude will be pissy all day.  My DH is a serious martyr when it comes to chores.  I really, really have to make sure to allow him some free time, or he won't take any and then gets really resentful..  (he acts like a woman, shhhh, don't tell him that)   I must say though, my dh does have a stressful job and is just a high-stress person in general.  He really is highly effected by going to a job that he doesn't like.  He can't really change his job either, the economy is bad and his current company offers a lot of benefits.  I really do think that my job is easier than his, although it may very well just be my personality vs. his.  Anyway, I totally know what you mean.

I have found a little way to help my DH see what I've done all day.  I simply do 95% of a project, and then put it ALL away when he gets home.  Like, I'll do the ironing, but leaving it hanging in the livingroom until he sees it.  Then he'll come home and be like, wow, you ironed 15 shirts today! 

Thankfully though, my DH is really empathetic and will say something nice to me if I'm having a rough day.  He's also a very productive person and gets a ton of stuff done.  For every downfall our spouses have, I'm sure they have 10 other wonderful things about them. 
 

Originally Posted by jbk21 

DIfferent topic, but why are men impossible to deal with?  DH is grumpy today.  About what, I have no idea.  I mean he tells me, but seriously I don't see the issue.  His life is just so hard, you know, getting to go to a job that he loves and talk to ADULTS all day long, and then come home to his wife and wonderful son, home-cooked hot meal, and then he's in bed by like 9:30 at the latest and sleeps like a rock.  Rough.  So rough.  

We don't usually have days like this, but apparently it must all be catching up to him.  He's so ready for this pregnancy to be over (as if that fixes anything?  Life gets harder after the baby comes, buddy) but he just doesn't want to finish all the pre-baby projects.  All two of them.  That he's had months to do.    I would do them, but I'm PHYSICALLY INCAPACITATED RIGHT NOW.  Growing a child- me- right here.  I can't do much to help, but I do all the other projects that I am able to do.  But that's when he's at work so he doesn't even notice.  

I'm so annoyed.  Ugh.  I love my husband, I do, but he can be SUCH a drama queen.  



 

Edited by Abraisme - 10/28/11 at 8:25am

[IwannaBanRN]

Seriously, I can't complain about DH right now. He's been so compassionate about how I've been feeling lately that it makes me love him more. When I came home yesterday, I was in tears because of all the sh*t that was going on and he helped me get out of my jeans out into some (more comfy) sweats and got me something to eat after I told him all of what happened and I added at the end while laying down in bed "....and I'm hungry, but all I want to do is cry and go to sleep" in between sobs. He's been so sweet.

[Abraisme]

Ha ha ha... A few weeks ago my dh got a bug bite on his arm from some strange bug that he'd never seen before.  He was SURE that it had laid eggs under his skin and they were going to hatch out at any moment.  I mean, the bite itched for days, so there must be eggs in there, right?  Uhmmmm.... yeah. 
 

Originally Posted by TalkToMeNow 

He's too funny about getting sick... so dramatic. A small irritated spot on his skin? Must be shingles. Or leprosy. Strained neck? Slipped disc. Feeling icky after having soda and candy? Diabetes. Heart palpitations? He won't live to see 45...........This is why women have the babies. 

[TalkToMeNow]

Originally Posted by Abraisme 

Ha ha ha... A few weeks ago my dh got a bug bite on his arm from some strange bug that he'd never seen before.  He was SURE that it had laid eggs under his skin and they were going to hatch out at any moment.  I mean, the bite itched for days, so there must be eggs in there, right?  Uhmmmm.... yeah. 
 

Too funny! Dh would be the same way. 

[jbk21]

Originally Posted by meesh933 

OMG. Last weekend DH rolled his ankle running. ANd proceeded to hobble around and whine all.weekend.long. STFU. I'm 8 months pregnant, my hips hurt like hell, I can barely move, but I do EVERYTHING around here and still take care of two young children. Gimme a break. You hurt yourself while you were jogging alone in the woods? While you were getting alone time, to do something YOU wanted to do? And I was at home for 10 hours straight with the kids? Yeah. Shut up, stop limping, and be useful. No one cares.
 

Gosh, I'm glad I'm not the only one.  I kinda felt bad for posting something on here about it but seriously.  It's getting old.  He said I get all the attention (I don't get that much attention- far less than with baby #1) and I wanted to say "well don't you think I kind of deserve for people to ask how I'm doing?!  Look at me!"  Sheesh.

Originally Posted by Jaimee 

I hear ya!  Dh is the one lounging in bed again right now and I'm the one that's up pottying ds and getting him dressed.  I was up most of the night AGAIN b/c I cannot stop scratching these f*$#@ing bites and now I've got either allergies or pregnancy congestion (or both I suppose) that is draining into my throat and making me cough.  So I wake up a gillian times a night coughing, scratching, needing to pee, and then ds comes in at the crack of dawn- seriously, the sun is not up- and that's it.  Up for the day!  Whoo hoo!!!  And dh goes on a run, goes to the gym, off to his stimulating job that he LOVES... 
 

My DH complains about being tired all the time.  It will only get worse after baby comes- I'm NOT looking forward to it.  He couldn't help with night wakings with DS1 because DS would just freak out and I'd have to do it anyway.  I'm hoping baby#2 is more flexible, but then again I just want DH to sleep b/c he works and I don't want to make him whine more.  

Originally Posted by TalkToMeNow 

I guess in that case, you're just s**t outta luck.  HA! I kill me!

My dh can be a drama queen, too. Recently, I've been thinking how he literally has only one thing in the world to worry about: work. Seriously. Go to work, work, leave work, get take out, go to bed. That's his day! Now granted, I can't complain too much right now. I have it pretty easy as my kids are older and in school till 2:30 each day. But man, when this baby is here... watch out!

Mine came home a few weekends ago with a neck ache. I know that sucks, but man was he milking it. Him: "Do you think I should go to the ER?" Me: "No, because they will never actually see you and we will wait forever because all you have is a FREAKING NECK ACHE!!! Take some tylenol!" Now, when I start to hear whining, I just say, " No. I'm 8.5 months pregnant. I win." 

He's too funny about getting sick... so dramatic. A small irritated spot on his skin? Must be shingles. Or leprosy. Strained neck? Slipped disc. Feeling icky after having soda and candy? Diabetes. Heart palpitations? He won't live to see 45...........This is why women have the babies. 

OMG I'm dying laughing (fish net).  LOL!

Yes, that is why women have the babies.  DH gets a headache and the world is ending.  
 

Originally Posted by Jaimee 

Yes, just this morning, after my lovely night and early wake up, ds has been walking around crying and whining.  He wouldn't eat his breakfast and is just generally in one of "those" moods.  So I'm already feeling defeated that today is going to absolutely suck and dh, says something like, "For the love of... Austin stop crying!!!"  And I look at him and say, "yeah, at least you get to go to work!"   And he turns on me and is like, "Jaimee, that is so not appropriate.  I don't want to have this conversation again."  Of course I start to see red.  All I'm asking for is some sympathy, a little compassion... you know, how about "yes, I can tell this is going to be a challenging day, I'm sorry, I hope it gets better."  You know?  Is it so hard?

UGH!  Anytime DH tries to do "my job" like cook dinner with DS1 running around it ends with DH getting all flustered and pissed off.  And every single time I say "see?  My job isn't so easy!"

[dashley111]

Grr.

My husband just called to check in.  He is supposed to be working today, but INSTEAD he decided to make a bet with a friend- if his friend can finish a half marathon today by 6 (swimming, biking, running) my DH is going to shave off his mohawk and surrender mohawk rights to his best buddy.  MAYBE its not a big deal, maybe I'm over reacting, maybe I have pregnancy rage, but I swear if he has to shave his head he is sleeping on the couch.  He is a chubby guy, and I  HATE HATE HATE it when he is bald. 

He looks like some kind of giant headed racist bald.

I'm so mad I'm actually thinking of ways to torture him.  This has got to be the hormones, right?

[Jaimee]

Originally Posted by dashley111 

I'm so mad I'm actually thinking of ways to torture him.  This has got to be the hormones, right?

Yes, probably, but at the same time I get irrationally mad when dh wants to grow a beard.  I hate beards.  My dad has a beard.  I don't want my dh to have a beard.  But he gets some sort of masculine kick out of being able to grow one so easily and revels in all the attention he gets from other guys.  I hate it.  I get so mad it makes dh want to to it even more.  I do not get that.  

[Abraisme]

Yeah, my DH can't handle doing a chore and managing the kids either.  After a short while he's always super flustered and needs a break.  I'm like, uhmm, I do this all day, do you want me to be all pissy at the end of every day?  He'll say something like, but I'm not used to it!  Yeah, like that makes it easier.  It's why most men aren't suited to be sahp.  They have a hard time doing 2 things at once and getting it all right.. 

Originally Posted by jbk21 

UGH!  Anytime DH tries to do "my job" like cook dinner with DS1 running around it ends with DH getting all flustered and pissed off.  And every single time I say "see?  My job isn't so easy!"

[Abraisme]

Would he actually shave his head knowing that you hate it?  I can't imagine my DH doing something that he knows I would hate, especially if it involved weeks of me having to look at him to see it.. 
 

Originally Posted by dashley111 

Grr.

My husband just called to check in.  He is supposed to be working today, but INSTEAD he decided to make a bet with a friend- if his friend can finish a half marathon today by 6 (swimming, biking, running) my DH is going to shave off his mohawk and surrender mohawk rights to his best buddy.  MAYBE its not a big deal, maybe I'm over reacting, maybe I have pregnancy rage, but I swear if he has to shave his head he is sleeping on the couch.  He is a chubby guy, and I  HATE HATE HATE it when he is bald. 

He looks like some kind of giant headed racist bald.

I'm so mad I'm actually thinking of ways to torture him.  This has got to be the hormones, right?