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post #961 of 1015


Yeah, I go to the chiro weekly.  She said she adjusted it a bit but that she really can't do much more.  Is there a specific manipulation your chiro does?  All I know is she pushed on the joint and I screamed in pain. OMG.  She said during labor the hormones and everything would make it so I wouldn't notice, so thanks for sharing your experience too.  I was nervous :-)

 

 

 

 

DS was sick alllll night long- I didn't sleep a wink!   I laid with him in his bed and just rested until he would start whimpering- that's when I knew he was about to vomit again.  It was a long night, but he's happy this morning (just threw up again an hour ago though) so we're taking spoonfuls of applesauce (what he wants) here and there to see if they stay down.  So far I'm not sick.  Whew.  Still, I think we won't be doing much today :-(

 

 

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Have you been to the chiro lately?  Every time my spd flares up I try to go the next day, plus I go every 2 weeks no matter how I'm feeling.  So far it's kept it under control and I still feel pretty good.

 

From my experience while pregnant with DD, by this point in pregnancy I could hardly walk.  If I walked more than a very specific (very small) amount each day, I would be stuck on the couch for three days trying to recover.  My babies have never 'dropped' that I know of, so I can't help you there.  In labor though it wasn't any worse.  The labor was my focus, the spd didn't matter much.  I don't remember it being an issue at all while pushing or anything.  I actually walked the whole time I was in labor because it kept my contractions moving along.  Yes, I suppose it was there, but I was used to that and the endorphins of labor won out.  Then, within 1-2 days of giving birth it was totally gone and I felt normal again (at least the pelvic pain area). 
 



We're going to trick-or-treat in a high-end neighborhood across town.  No one trick or treats on our street because it's too dark.  Plus, the other neighborhood gives out whole candy bars (like we really need that)!  My DS and I are going to be zombies, my DH is going to be the grinch and my DD is supposed to be Cindy-Lou Who.  So far my DD is refusing to wear her hair in a pony tail, but maybe she'll change her mind tonight?  Make sure that everyone takes pictures, let's post them up! 



 

post #962 of 1015

No, my chiro doesn't really do anything special.  He puts wedges under my hips and presses on them gently if they're out of alignment.  Really, I'm surprised at how much it helps because it doesn't seem like he's doing much with my hip area.  He mostly works on my back to keep my neck and spine straight.  I really expected to be in serious pain by now, even with my trips to the chiro.

 

I'm sure that you'll make it through labor just fine.  :)
 

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Yeah, I go to the chiro weekly.  She said she adjusted it a bit but that she really can't do much more.  Is there a specific manipulation your chiro does?  All I know is she pushed on the joint and I screamed in pain. OMG.  She said during labor the hormones and everything would make it so I wouldn't notice, so thanks for sharing your experience too.  I was nervous :-)

 

 



 

post #963 of 1015
Just wanted to say I quick hi. I need to catch up! I had a busy Sunday getting a Halloween party ready for my little girl scouts. They had a great time! Then, the moms and girls threw me a little surprise baby shower... It was so sweet! I'm pretty sure the baby now has an outfit for everyday until he's six months old.

I could not sleep at all last night. I came down with a cold and feel awful. I slept for maybe an hour, then woke up at 3 when poor dh got up (he drives back to work on Monday mornings if it's less than 4 hours away). I laid there till it was time to get dsd up at 5:30, then I took some Tylenol, got a heating pad, and managed to fall asleep... just in time for her to come in and say she missed the bus! So much for that.

Anyway, had my midwife appointment this morning. Didn't get checked or anything. I lost three pounds since last week, which I guess is normal at the end. 39 weeks on Wednesday!!

ETA: it probably sounds bad that I got dsd up and went back to bed! I normally stay up with her. But I was feeling crappy and she is 14 so... yeah, that's my bad mom excuse!
post #964 of 1015

Happy Halloween, all!  Or Samhain, or whatever you celebrate! winky.gif

 

Finally got it together and carved our pumpkin this morning.  Going trick-or-treating with the kids and cousins in the evening, after one of those city-celebration/bouncy house events--eep!  

 

I will post pics once the kids are dressed up.  I'm a bit bummed that I can't really dress up this year--all my costume-type stuff involves corsets and such!  

 

So, yeah.  ALL those contrax and labor signs I was posting about yesterday?  Petered out once I wen to bed, around 1am.  irked.gif  They were back by 4am, when I got up to compulsively clean (yay insomnia, lol), but they're not any stronger than yesterday's.  Bleah.  Trying to stay zen--keyword, *trying*...!

 

We asked our 4yo when the baby was gonna come, and she said "two November!", which is funny cause she's not all that well-versed on calendars yet.  I guess we're going with that date now??  LOL!

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We're going ToT-ing tonight with DD. She's dressing up as a witch and is so excited to wear her costume. She wanted to put it on this morning, but luckily I dodged the bullet, it needed to be washed since she wore it to a Halloween spook-ville thing on Friday. So, instead we put on some Halloween temp-tattoos and painted her fingernails to match her costume. We're going to attempt some face-painting tonight and she's super excited about that. 

 

Nothing new on the baby front. I went shopping again yesterday with my mom to see if some more walking would get things going. All I got out of it was severely swollen feet and legs. I've gone past elephant feet and moved on to club feet. Hoping I make it through ToT-ing tonight. Come on baby, you're welcome to join us out here anytime!!!

post #966 of 1015
I'm avoiding trick or treating this year. Dd1 and dd2's dad offered to take them this year. We live in the same town and a lot of their friends live in his neighborhood, so I said yes. Some years, we all go together, but I decided to sit this one out. Too much walking! I hear you on the elephant feet, Mal, and am trying to avoid that! Walking to get things going is not in the cards for me right now.
post #967 of 1015

I feel like a bad home-owner this year since we decided not to get candy for Trick-or-Treaters. We're going to just keep our front porch light off and hope children don't still come up and ring our doorbell nonstop. We just aren't in the mood, especially with DH having to work tonight. We dressed up for Halloween for a friend's party on Saturday night. I'll post pictures later! I'm really looking forward to getting into the Halloween spirit in coming years with our child(ren)! Holidays are just so much more exciting when you have a complete family to get into the spirit with. biggrinbounce.gif I can't wait.

 

 

I'm on a last-minute mission to interview a few more pediatricians before this baby pops out. We love the one integrative health doctor we interviewed already and her office is so dang close it would be more than ideal, but I think we'd end up having to pay out of pocket for visits due to DH's insurance. crap.gif DH works at the biggest regional medical center here and along with that comes the best Children's Hospital in the state. I would normally be ecstatic at the opportunities that provides us for healthcare under his insurance, but instead I'm kind of freaked out that a pediatrician in that system might not be open to any alternative care in childhood... I need to interview some doctors to see if my fears are legit and make a decision. Baby is coming SOON! I found a really young female doctor through the children's clinic system that I'm hoping will be more open to our wishes and I'm interviewing her tomorrow. Wish me luck! I really hope she works out because all of our baby's well visits, vaccinations and whatnot would be 100% covered.

 

Time to go eat some lunch. I made chili yesterday and baked a variety of banana/choc chip/nut/& blueberry breads + muffins to freeze. It's taking everything in me not to eat it all right now! lol

post #968 of 1015

This is really weird, but does anyone else have trouble grasping that you're going to have a (/another?) baby?  In a lot of ways it's very real to me, but maybe I'm just distracted by DS1.  I just can't imagine what the baby will look like, what it will be like to have two, that we're actually going to be HOLDING another baby soon.  I don't think I'm making much sense here, but maybe someone else feels the same thing.  I kind of just feel like I'm going to be pregnant forever.  Maybe that's why I'm so patient for labor to start- because I really don't understand that I am going to go into labor and have a baby.  Does that makes any sense at all?  shy.gif

post #969 of 1015

J- it is kind of surreal still. More so than it was with DD. I had time with that pregnancy to imagine what life would be like with her and imagine holding her. This time, I just don't have the time for that. Our lives already changed in a big way when we had DD and I know we have a big change coming again, but it doesn't feel as big as it did the first time. I went shopping yesterday and noticed how hard it is to look for stuff for the baby and kept going over to things I'd rather get for DD... I was Christmas shopping and I'm already done shopping for DD, so I really needed to focus on finding things for the baby, but it's hard to shop for her when she doesn't seem as "real" yet as DD is. It's hard to explain... I know she's coming and when I think ahead to the holidays, I know we'll have two little girls, but I have a hard time actually seeing it in my mind's eye.

 

My sister has 4 kids of her own and she was talking about this with me yesterday. She said for her, it was always exciting to have a new baby, but it's never the same as it was the first time. Not better or worse, just not the same.

post #970 of 1015
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This is really weird, but does anyone else have trouble grasping that you're going to have a (/another?) baby?  In a lot of ways it's very real to me, but maybe I'm just distracted by DS1.  I just can't imagine what the baby will look like, what it will be like to have two, that we're actually going to be HOLDING another baby soon.  I don't think I'm making much sense here, but maybe someone else feels the same thing.  I kind of just feel like I'm going to be pregnant forever.  Maybe that's why I'm so patient for labor to start- because I really don't understand that I am going to go into labor and have a baby.  Does that makes any sense at all?  shy.gif



I have totally not processed this pregnancy/baby yet. It's going to be a real shock when there actually is a 3rd kid in this house! It seemed a lot more real the 2nd time. I think it's a combination of having been pregnant twice before, and so none of this is new to me, and not having any time to myself to really mentally prepare.

 

I will say, the other night I had a scare with my blood pressure and the baby not moving, and that made me feel a little more attached. Still, though, the whole thing is just so foreign still. I really hope that doesn't mean the transition is going to be awful....

post #971 of 1015
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Originally Posted by jbk21 View Post

This is really weird, but does anyone else have trouble grasping that you're going to have a (/another?) baby?  In a lot of ways it's very real to me, but maybe I'm just distracted by DS1.  I just can't imagine what the baby will look like, what it will be like to have two, that we're actually going to be HOLDING another baby soon.  I don't think I'm making much sense here, but maybe someone else feels the same thing.  I kind of just feel like I'm going to be pregnant forever.  Maybe that's why I'm so patient for labor to start- because I really don't understand that I am going to go into labor and have a baby.  Does that makes any sense at all?  shy.gif



Yes, tooootally. Its hard to fathom how our family is going to change. Like tomorrow. Or 2 weeks. Or who knows when! Its also weird in a way having a boy and a girl already, and already "knowing" what a girl dh and I produce looks like, and what a boy looks like. And now we get to see another variation! Hard to imagine. I have dark brown hair and never imagined I'd have blonde kids. Maybe I'll get a dark haired baby? (well, they were both born with dark hair but it fell out and grew back blonde) And scary in a way.. I have no idea WHO this child is. I've been very lucky so far with 2 very developmentally normal, healthy children! And thats just not a guarantee at all. I don't know if this one will throw me for a loop in some way! Didn't even have an ultrasound, so for all I know this kid has a 3rd arm growing from their chest ;) 

 

I do keep seeing in my mind, a brand new wet naked newborn laying on my chest stillheart.gif I'm looking forward to that! Ahh,... I should sew some more nb dipes. Nothing gets the baby fever flowing like holding a brand new teeny tiny diaper! 

post #972 of 1015
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Originally Posted by jbk21 View Post

This is really weird, but does anyone else have trouble grasping that you're going to have a (/another?) baby?  In a lot of ways it's very real to me, but maybe I'm just distracted by DS1.  I just can't imagine what the baby will look like, what it will be like to have two, that we're actually going to be HOLDING another baby soon.  I don't think I'm making much sense here, but maybe someone else feels the same thing.  I kind of just feel like I'm going to be pregnant forever.  Maybe that's why I'm so patient for labor to start- because I really don't understand that I am going to go into labor and have a baby.  Does that makes any sense at all?  shy.gif


 

It is utterly surreal and virtually impossible for me to believe that I am actually going to have a baby.  But my reaction to that feeling is to be even MORE impatient for labor, because it's kind of like "I'll believe it when I see it."  And I have NO idea whether this babe is a boy or a girl (I just keep going back and forth, and at this point either one seems so "right"), which seems to exacerbate the unreality of it all.  I keep going over in my head all the "proof" that I'm actually pregnant; yes, we saw pics on a u/s... I haven't had a period in 9 months... my belly's huge... I feel the baby all the time... midwives don't question it... yep all signs point to baby!  And yet I can't wrap my head around it.

 

Part of it, too, is that there's nothing I've ever wanted more in my entire life than to have a baby.  So there's this too-good-to-be-true aspect to the entire experience, too.

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I have totally not processed this pregnancy/baby yet. It's going to be a real shock when there actually is a 3rd kid in this house! It seemed a lot more real the 2nd time. I think it's a combination of having been pregnant twice before, and so none of this is new to me, and not having any time to myself to really mentally prepare.

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post #974 of 1015
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ETA: it probably sounds bad that I got dsd up and went back to bed! I normally stay up with her. But I was feeling crappy and she is 14 so... yeah, that's my bad mom excuse!



Why is that bad? She's 14! In barely 4 years, she'll be moving out or into a dorm room in college. Unless she has a disorder where she falls asleep constantly, or is on suicide watch, a 14 year old doesn't need close supervision. That's just my opinion.

 

post #975 of 1015

DD dressed up as a bush baby, her own very special request. I'll post a picture as soon as I get them uploaded. Our co-op had a Halloween walkabout/Trick-or-Treating event yesterday in the late afternoon, and I felt like it was a perfect way for a two-year-old to experience ToT for the very first time, so I doubt we'll be going out tonight too. Maybe just to a few houses. Goodness knows I certainly don't need any more candy in the house!

 

Had a good night's sleep last night, and all contractions have calmed down, even the non-stop BH I've been having lately. I'm really hoping to make it all the way to the due date next week, to allow for time for this bathroom to be finished up. Not really feeling all that comfortable with having a homebirth in our moldy house of disrepair. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

post #976 of 1015

Thanks everyone for your replies, and for stating it better than me :-)  I guess it really is because DS1 is real so it's hard to think about baby2.  Will he be just like DS1? Look like him? Be completely different?  etc.    I love and am attached to the baby- in fact I think I am more attached than I was with DS1 because I can actually *see* (via DS1) what the fruits of all this labor (ha I'm so punny) create.  With DS1 it was more surreal and hard to grasp.  But I guess I just can't imagine another child since we've been a family of 3 for 2.5 years.  It's hard to process that one day soon I won't have this huge belly anymore and there will be another person to care for!  Wow!

 

 

post #977 of 1015
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It is utterly surreal and virtually impossible for me to believe that I am actually going to have a baby.  But my reaction to that feeling is to be even MORE impatient for labor, because it's kind of like "I'll believe it when I see it."  And I have NO idea whether this babe is a boy or a girl (I just keep going back and forth, and at this point either one seems so "right"), which seems to exacerbate the unreality of it all.  I keep going over in my head all the "proof" that I'm actually pregnant; yes, we saw pics on a u/s... I haven't had a period in 9 months... my belly's huge... I feel the baby all the time... midwives don't question it... yep all signs point to baby!  And yet I can't wrap my head around it.

 

Part of it, too, is that there's nothing I've ever wanted more in my entire life than to have a baby.  So there's this too-good-to-be-true aspect to the entire experience, too.



That's how I felt with my first too.  It didn't seem real until I was actually holding her, and then it was incredible!

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This is really weird, but does anyone else have trouble grasping that you're going to have a (/another?) baby?  In a lot of ways it's very real to me, but maybe I'm just distracted by DS1.  I just can't imagine what the baby will look like, what it will be like to have two, that we're actually going to be HOLDING another baby soon.  I don't think I'm making much sense here, but maybe someone else feels the same thing.  I kind of just feel like I'm going to be pregnant forever.  Maybe that's why I'm so patient for labor to start- because I really don't understand that I am going to go into labor and have a baby.  Does that makes any sense at all?  shy.gif



It's very surreal for me, as well. I'm also having a tough time with thinking I won't know what to do or will do something wrong. Like, I'll be lying in bed at night totally under the covers and then freak out for a minute thinking, "I can't lay like this with the baby! What if I forget!?"



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Part of it, too, is that there's nothing I've ever wanted more in my entire life than to have a baby.  So there's this too-good-to-be-true aspect to the entire experience, too.

 

I have the same feeling because I didn't think I'd ever get to have another baby. I always wanted at least three, but then I got divorced and was single and all that. So I'm still sort of surprised and I'm very grateful that this is happening. 

 



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Why is that bad? She's 14! In barely 4 years, she'll be moving out or into a dorm room in college. Unless she has a disorder where she falls asleep constantly, or is on suicide watch, a 14 year old doesn't need close supervision. That's just my opinion.

 


 

Oh, you're thinking of it from a supervision stand point... like with toddlers! That's not at all what I meant! I mean that I think it would be pretty crappy parenting to just wake her up everyday and go right back to bed rather than being up and around when she eats breakfast/ leaves the house. Same thing if it's just her and I around for dinner. I would feel bad if I didn't make something for us most of the time. I could just tell her to get her own food (she's capable) and then do my own thing, but I don't. I think even teenagers need to feel like someone cares about them and wants to spend a little time with them. She spends 95% of her time in her room, so I'm certainly not smothering her... but I do try to be around when I can. :)

 

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I thought about it from a supervision standpoint too, lol!  I guess that's the mindset we parents-of-toddlers are in.  I see what you mean though- and thankfully your daughter is lucky to have a good mom!  My mom was never around to get us ready in the morning and I hated it.  Good for you for being there!  I'm sure she understood that you are sick!

 

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It's very surreal for me, as well. I'm also having a tough time with thinking I won't know what to do or will do something wrong. Like, I'll be lying in bed at night totally under the covers and then freak out for a minute thinking, "I can't lay like this with the baby! What if I forget!?"

 

I have the same feeling because I didn't think I'd ever get to have another baby. I always wanted at least three, but then I got divorced and was single and all that. So I'm still sort of surprised and I'm very grateful that this is happening. 

 


 

Oh, you're thinking of it from a supervision stand point... like with toddlers! That's not at all what I meant! I mean that I think it would be pretty crappy parenting to just wake her up everyday and go right back to bed rather than being up and around when she eats breakfast/ leaves the house. Same thing if it's just her and I around for dinner. I would feel bad if I didn't make something for us most of the time. I could just tell her to get her own food (she's capable) and then do my own thing, but I don't. I think even teenagers need to feel like someone cares about them and wants to spend a little time with them. She spends 95% of her time in her room, so I'm certainly not smothering her... but I do try to be around when I can. :)

 



 

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Yup, it's all very surreal to me too and I'm on baby #3.  It's so strange that there is a fully formed baby in there!  It seems so easy to forget that at any moment a real live human baby could come out of my stomach. 
 

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This is really weird, but does anyone else have trouble grasping that you're going to have a (/another?) baby?  In a lot of ways it's very real to me, but maybe I'm just distracted by DS1.  I just can't imagine what the baby will look like, what it will be like to have two, that we're actually going to be HOLDING another baby soon.  I don't think I'm making much sense here, but maybe someone else feels the same thing.  I kind of just feel like I'm going to be pregnant forever.  Maybe that's why I'm so patient for labor to start- because I really don't understand that I am going to go into labor and have a baby.  Does that makes any sense at all?  shy.gif



 

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