Originally Posted by MrsKatie
Well, my midwife appointment was stupid. No progress, none at all - that sweep on Friday did nothing. She almost couldn't even do one today, she had a much harder time than the other midwife did just on Friday, which made me feel like I'm going backwards. I wish I didn't even do those stupid sweeps, they're obviously for nothing anyway, and the one today really hurt, and now all I can do is cry. I'm gonna go past 41 weeks and I'm gonna be in the goddamn hospital. I know this is major negative thinking but I'm in a pretty foul mood right now and need to vent. I was SO sure this baby would be here by now. SO SURE. And I KNOW my dates are off and that I'm closer to 40 weeks than 39 weeks 3 days. So why isn't anything happening? Why won't my stupid body DO anything?
ooooh Katie. I know how you feel. You have to, have to, have to, have to relax though. IF your body went backwards, it is because of stress or fear or not feeling relaxed. I know it's hard to relax, but you really have a lot of time. I agree with Amanda- even if you are further along than they think, at least that means your dates are in your favor. You might go past your due date. It's likely, in fact. I know you don't want to hear that, but I also understand that thinking you were going to go early (I thought that with #1 too) has kind of set you up for some disappointment right now. SO try to think "I'll go into labor after my due date, and that will be fine" so you aren't disappointed for the next 4 days. I am not trying to patronize- if anything I'm trying to talk to "my first-time pregnant self" because I totally get the anger, the sadness, the frustration and impatience. I was a wreck. But that does NOTHING to help labor happen. It does the opposite. You need to get rid of the adrenaline and non-helpful hormones so that oxytocin can have an effect on your body and get labor moving. Baths, maybe a glass of wine, benadryl, long walks, dates with friends so you can get your mind off the baby... massage, acupuncture, anything to get you into a good place mentally and physically. If you want to cry, have a good cry. Sometimes releasing that tension helps get your body relaxed. Only about 50% (according to a standard bell curve) of mamas are going to go into labor before 40 weeks. Your body isn't stupid. It knows just what to do and you'll be holding that baby in no time. I know it doesn't feel like it, but you have to believe that this is all for baby's good. Babies need all the time in the womb that they can get.
Also, a watched pot never boils so if anyone is bothering you about popping that baby out just tell them to STFU if you know what I mean.