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[IwannaBanRN]

Originally Posted by TalkToMeNow 

Oh, you're thinking of it from a supervision stand point... like with toddlers! That's not at all what I meant! I mean that I think it would be pretty crappy parenting to just wake her up everyday and go right back to bed rather than being up and around when she eats breakfast/ leaves the house. Same thing if it's just her and I around for dinner. I would feel bad if I didn't make something for us most of the time. I could just tell her to get her own food (she's capable) and then do my own thing, but I don't. I think even teenagers need to feel like someone cares about them and wants to spend a little time with them. She spends 95% of her time in her room, so I'm certainly not smothering her... but I do try to be around when I can. :)

Ah! *snaps fingers* I got it now. lol Yes, that does make sense. My mom is a total morning person and was up with us if she wasn't working at her coffee shop. Only thing I didn't like about her being up when I was leaving for school was seeing what I wore to school. lol She'd stop me at the door, look me over and tell me to change if she didn't think it was acceptable. haha

[birdhappy85]

Oh my goodness I am SO GRUMPY tonight! I don't know what's going on with me. I felt like I was going to go into a rage earlier and I am not that kind of person. I burst into tears, I was so on edge. I took a bath to try to relax - with candles and all - and my cat sat outside the door meowing the entire effin time! I actually flipped out on him and startled him so bad... I've never done anything like that before. I just can't handle his relentless meowing anymore. At least he has stopped meowing ever since then and is asleep on the couch right now. Ever since then I've been in such an angry mood, I can't calm down. Ugh. I'm tired of being pregnant, I'm tired of moods, I'm tired of everything right now. And why the heck are kids coming up to our door and ringing the doorbell when we have our front porch light off and all of the dark blinds drawn?! COME ON! Is nobody teaching their kids anymore that you don't trick-or-treat at people's houses that are completely dark without a porch light on? I'm going to be enduring this for another hour still.

Maybe I should just go to bed early. I feel like crying myself to sleep. I really truly just want my body and mind back to normal and want my baby in front of me. It has been the longest and most difficult 38 weeks of my life, I can't even imagine a few more weeks like this.

Thanks for listening.

[dashley111]

Originally Posted by TalkToMeNow 

Oh, you're thinking of it from a supervision stand point... like with toddlers! That's not at all what I meant! I mean that I think it would be pretty crappy parenting to just wake her up everyday and go right back to bed rather than being up and around when she eats breakfast/ leaves the house. Same thing if it's just her and I around for dinner. I would feel bad if I didn't make something for us most of the time. I could just tell her to get her own food (she's capable) and then do my own thing, but I don't. I think even teenagers need to feel like someone cares about them and wants to spend a little time with them. She spends 95% of her time in her room, so I'm certainly not smothering her... but I do try to be around when I can. :)

I LOVE this viewpoint!  So often now people look at teens like miniature adults- and the reality is most of them are not, and don't want to be (on a subconscious level, that is, or maybe I took too many psych classes in college).  Why not nurture and care for kids as long as we can, and let them BE KIDS instead of making them be self-sufficient so early. 
 

[LiLStar]

Well, I know a semi mean trick to get a cat to STFU if they're being really obnoxious. I get the cat wet. Very, very wet. Now... the purpose of this isn't to "punish". Not at all. Its just that a wet cat is going to sit and lick themselves until they are completely dry, then be exhausted and pass out. Thus, quiet cat ;) 

[MrsKatie]

Well, my midwife appointment was stupid.  No progress, none at all - that sweep on Friday did nothing.  She almost couldn't even do one today, she had a much harder time than the other midwife did just on Friday, which made me feel like I'm going backwards.  I wish I didn't even do those stupid sweeps, they're obviously for nothing anyway, and the one today really hurt, and now all I can do is cry.  I'm gonna go past 41 weeks and I'm gonna be in the goddamn hospital.  I know this is major negative thinking but I'm in a pretty foul mood right now and need to vent.  I was SO sure this baby would be here by now.  SO SURE.  And I KNOW my dates are off and that I'm closer to 40 weeks than 39 weeks 3 days.  So why isn't anything happening?  Why won't my stupid body DO anything?

[musicmama08]

Katie,

It'll happen.  It may even happen overnight.  You don't have to be dilated at all to have a baby the next day.  Just relax and when you least expect it, labor will hit.

[musicmama08]

Birdhappy,

Sorry you're going through such a tough time.  The funny thing is, once the baby comes, you will forget you were miserable during the pregnancy at all.  I hope the next week or two fly by for you!  And that those kiddos stop ringing that doorbell.

[musicmama08]

Originally Posted by jbk21 

This is really weird, but does anyone else have trouble grasping that you're going to have a (/another?) baby?  In a lot of ways it's very real to me, but maybe I'm just distracted by DS1.  I just can't imagine what the baby will look like, what it will be like to have two, that we're actually going to be HOLDING another baby soon.  I don't think I'm making much sense here, but maybe someone else feels the same thing.  I kind of just feel like I'm going to be pregnant forever.  Maybe that's why I'm so patient for labor to start- because I really don't understand that I am going to go into labor and have a baby.  Does that makes any sense at all?  

JBK - totally makes sense.  I'm in no rush to have this baby.  In fact, the whole idea that I could suddenly go into labor anytime is very odd to me.  It's not that I feel like I couldn't handle it, but it doesn't seem to make sense.  And yes, holding and caring for another child also feels very foreign.  Luckily, DS is very excited to have a baby brother or sister, so hopefully it won't be that tough of a transition for him.  What a weird time in life!
 

[Paigekitten]

Originally Posted by MrsKatie 

Well, my midwife appointment was stupid.  No progress, none at all - that sweep on Friday did nothing.  She almost couldn't even do one today, she had a much harder time than the other midwife did just on Friday, which made me feel like I'm going backwards.  I wish I didn't even do those stupid sweeps, they're obviously for nothing anyway, and the one today really hurt, and now all I can do is cry.  I'm gonna go past 41 weeks and I'm gonna be in the goddamn hospital.  I know this is major negative thinking but I'm in a pretty foul mood right now and need to vent.  I was SO sure this baby would be here by now.  SO SURE.  And I KNOW my dates are off and that I'm closer to 40 weeks than 39 weeks 3 days.  So why isn't anything happening?  Why won't my stupid body DO anything?

  I am feeling the same way this time around.  

But it can happen so fast.  My first two were 40 weeks 2 days and 40 weeks 3 days with ZERO pre labor signs.  You have until 41 weeks 6 days right?  That's still a long time, plenty of time for baby to come.

[TalkToMeNow]

Originally Posted by dashley111 

I LOVE this viewpoint!  So often now people look at teens like miniature adults- and the reality is most of them are not, and don't want to be (on a subconscious level, that is, or maybe I took too many psych classes in college).  Why not nurture and care for kids as long as we can, and let them BE KIDS instead of making them be self-sufficient so early. 
 

Thanks! Totally agree.



MrsKatie, everyone is so right! You have plenty of time. And if your dates are really off, well it's working in your favor. I had absolutely no signs that I would go into labor with dd1. No checks, no mucus plug, no stripping membranes, etc. I just woke up at 39 weeks 6 days and started laboring. It can happen at anytime. Just try to relax and do some stuff that makes you happy.

[MrsKatie]

Originally Posted by Paigekitten 

  I am feeling the same way this time around.  

But it can happen so fast.  My first two were 40 weeks 2 days and 40 weeks 3 days with ZERO pre labor signs.  You have until 41 weeks 6 days right?  That's still a long time, plenty of time for baby to come.

No, I have till 41 weeks exactly.  If I go into labor at 41 weeks 1 day I have to be in the hospital.

[Jaimee]

Originally Posted by birdhappy85 

Oh my goodness I am SO GRUMPY tonight! I don't know what's going on with me. I felt like I was going to go into a rage earlier and I am not that kind of person. ...And why the heck are kids coming up to our door and ringing the doorbell when we have our front porch light off and all of the dark blinds drawn?! COME ON! Is nobody teaching their kids anymore that you don't trick-or-treat at people's houses that are completely dark without a porch light on? I'm going to be enduring this for another hour still.

I know exactly how you feel.  I hate that feeling- that out of control so angry feeling.  I'm sorry you had a day like this!  As for the trick or treaters, just put a note over your doorbell and/or on the door that says "out of candy, sorry!" or "please do not ring door bell."  It has always worked for us.

Originally Posted by MrsKatie 

Well, my midwife appointment was stupid.  No progress, none at all - that sweep on Friday did nothing.  She almost couldn't even do one today, she had a much harder time than the other midwife did just on Friday, which made me feel like I'm going backwards.  I wish I didn't even do those stupid sweeps, they're obviously for nothing anyway, and the one today really hurt, and now all I can do is cry.  I'm gonna go past 41 weeks and I'm gonna be in the goddamn hospital.  I know this is major negative thinking but I'm in a pretty foul mood right now and need to vent.  I was SO sure this baby would be here by now.  SO SURE.  And I KNOW my dates are off and that I'm closer to 40 weeks than 39 weeks 3 days.  So why isn't anything happening?  Why won't my stupid body DO anything?

I'm sorry Katie!!  Different mw's have different skill levels, so don't take her difficulty as a sign that your body went backwards.  I'm sorry it hurt, but I bet it does something now that you're heading toward 40 weeks.  The studies were all about preventing women going past 41 weeks... you've got time!  The best thing you can do is relax and I don't mean that to sound patronizing in any way, but stressing doesn't make labor happen sooner.  What did the mw say in regards to other induction methods?
 

[jbk21]

Originally Posted by MrsKatie 

Well, my midwife appointment was stupid.  No progress, none at all - that sweep on Friday did nothing.  She almost couldn't even do one today, she had a much harder time than the other midwife did just on Friday, which made me feel like I'm going backwards.  I wish I didn't even do those stupid sweeps, they're obviously for nothing anyway, and the one today really hurt, and now all I can do is cry.  I'm gonna go past 41 weeks and I'm gonna be in the goddamn hospital.  I know this is major negative thinking but I'm in a pretty foul mood right now and need to vent.  I was SO sure this baby would be here by now.  SO SURE.  And I KNOW my dates are off and that I'm closer to 40 weeks than 39 weeks 3 days.  So why isn't anything happening?  Why won't my stupid body DO anything?

ooooh Katie.  I know how you feel.  You have to, have to, have to, have to relax though.  IF your body went backwards, it is because of stress or fear or not feeling relaxed.  I know it's hard to relax, but you really have a lot of time.  I agree with Amanda- even if you are further along than they think, at least that means your dates are in your favor.  You might go past your due date.  It's likely, in fact. I know you don't want to hear that, but I also understand that thinking you were going to go early (I thought that with #1 too) has kind of set you up for some disappointment right now.  SO try to think "I'll go into labor after my due date, and that will be fine" so you aren't disappointed for the next 4 days.  I am not trying to patronize- if anything I'm trying to talk to "my first-time pregnant self" because I totally get the anger, the sadness, the frustration and impatience.  I was a wreck.  But that does NOTHING to help labor happen.  It does the opposite.  You need to get rid of the adrenaline and non-helpful hormones so that oxytocin can have an effect on your body and get labor moving.  Baths, maybe a glass of wine, benadryl, long walks, dates with friends so you can get your mind off the baby... massage, acupuncture, anything to get you into a good place mentally and physically.  If you want to cry, have a good cry.  Sometimes releasing that tension helps get your body relaxed.  Only about 50% (according to a standard bell curve) of mamas are going to go into labor before 40 weeks.  Your body isn't stupid.  It knows just what to do and you'll be holding that baby in no time.  I know it doesn't feel like it, but you have to believe that this is all for baby's good.  Babies need all the time in the womb that they can get.  

Also, a watched pot never boils so if anyone is bothering you about popping that baby out just tell them to STFU if you know what I mean.  

[Abraisme]

Yup, I had zero pre-labor signs both times..  I don't dilate at all until I'm in labor and then I have a baby within 24 hours.  Your body will do it when it's ready, you still have plenty of time. 
 

Originally Posted by musicmama08 

Katie,

It'll happen.  It may even happen overnight.  You don't have to be dilated at all to have a baby the next day.  Just relax and when you least expect it, labor will hit.

Yup, I agree!

Originally Posted by jbk21 

ooooh Katie.  I know how you feel.  You have to, have to, have to, have to relax though.  IF your body went backwards, it is because of stress or fear or not feeling relaxed.  I know it's hard to relax, but you really have a lot of time.  I agree with Amanda- even if you are further along than they think, at least that means your dates are in your favor.  You might go past your due date.  It's likely, in fact. I know you don't want to hear that, but I also understand that thinking you were going to go early (I thought that with #1 too) has kind of set you up for some disappointment right now.  SO try to think "I'll go into labor after my due date, and that will be fine" so you aren't disappointed for the next 4 days.  I am not trying to patronize- if anything I'm trying to talk to "my first-time pregnant self" because I totally get the anger, the sadness, the frustration and impatience.  I was a wreck.  But that does NOTHING to help labor happen.  It does the opposite.  You need to get rid of the adrenaline and non-helpful hormones so that oxytocin can have an effect on your body and get labor moving.  Baths, maybe a glass of wine, benadryl, long walks, dates with friends so you can get your mind off the baby... massage, acupuncture, anything to get you into a good place mentally and physically.  If you want to cry, have a good cry.  Sometimes releasing that tension helps get your body relaxed.  Only about 50% (according to a standard bell curve) of mamas are going to go into labor before 40 weeks.  Your body isn't stupid.  It knows just what to do and you'll be holding that baby in no time.  I know it doesn't feel like it, but you have to believe that this is all for baby's good.  Babies need all the time in the womb that they can get.  

Also, a watched pot never boils so if anyone is bothering you about popping that baby out just tell them to STFU if you know what I mean.  

[Viriditas]

I also had no pre-labor signs the first time. When I went to bed at 11 PM I figured I'd be waiting another 2 weeks. I had NO idea I was going to go into labor any time soon. Woke up 2 hours later with strong, regular contractions and bloody show, my water broke within an hour, and baby was born that day. Don't lose hope!

 

[LiLStar]

Hmm, 11-1-11 is pretty much the 2nd coolest day to have a baby this month. Someone have a baby! :D

[KayPea]

Except, of course, 11-11-11. I am kind of hoping to go three days late, and have the baby then. 

Originally Posted by LiLStar 

Hmm, 11-1-11 is pretty much the 2nd coolest day to have a baby this month. Someone have a baby! :D

[LiLStar]

Yep, thats why I said 2nd coolest! Part of me hopes I go then, but then I'm also paranoid that I have an enormous baby already and don't want it getting bigger! 11-1 would be a nice compromise. 
 

Originally Posted by KayPea 

Except, of course, 11-11-11. I am kind of hoping to go three days late, and have the baby then. 

[Paigekitten]

Originally Posted by LiLStar 

Hmm, 11-1-11 is pretty much the 2nd coolest day to have a baby this month. Someone have a baby! :D

That's my due date.  It would be so cool if mine came tomorrow.  My second pick would be the third, that's Edward's sister's birthday.  My third coolest day would be 11/11/11, because I don't really want to be 11 days late.

[IwannaBanRN]

I had a burst of nesting energy at 11:30PM. So, I made up a list of stuff I'd need for food to stock up meals in the freezer and headed over to Walmart. Felt bad for the guy on the side of the road, who had just hit a deer doing 65MPH. I stopped and helped look over his car and ended up following him to the gas station so he had more light to look at the damage. I wouldn't have paid attention to his hazard lights had I not dodged some of the deer that was smeared on the road. His left front end was SMASHED and his car was smoking a little but he managed and had a phone.

Anyways......So, I grabbed some tall storage containers and gallon freezer bags from Walmart with my groceries and made some shredded chicken chili, waiting for a lasagna, beef stew, chicken noodle soup, and after that I'll throw in some corn breads for the stew and chili. I'm super proud of myself that I'll be putting some food away for when I can't cook or am too tired to cook. This is actually the first time we've had enough extra money to do that. I know we'll save a little on food too, since DS will be at my mom's for a couple weeks so she can spend time with him and so I can have the baby easier. Alot more stuff seems to be coming together. Phew! November already.......where has the time gone?