October Chat Thread! - Page 3

[Sweet.Bee]

MidwifeErika, that's actually what my husband said: that a child under 3 won't even long for those days before a sibling b/c he/she won't remember them.

juneboymum, that sounds like normal 2-year-old behavior to me. My son goes through phases where he is either really difficult or somewhat easier. He's very stubborn, so we regularly have the tantrums and clashes of will, often over what an adult would consider really silly but is a life-or-death situation to a toddler. It's things like the absolute need to have the yellow plate, or the refusal to drink milk out of a cup (must be a bowl).

It's interesting that your son said he didn't want a diaper. Ours pleaded for his diaper when we tried potty training, which is why we've made no progress on that front. Like I said, stubborn. 

[AfricanQueen99]

Jumping into the point about siblings being young when the newbie shows up...  My son and this new kid may very well share a birthday - my son's second - and I feel *so guilty* about my sweet boy never remembering being the baby of the family.  My daughter was just under four when the son showed up and still, to this day, she talks about things "before G showed up."  I love that she remembers her life as an only *and* how having a sibling changed and enriched it.

[softlysinging]

Originally Posted by sarah_bella1050 

I had to go to the dentist yesterday for a broken tooth that was hurting.  It was infected and they tried to pull it, but the anesthetic kept wearing off and they couldn't get it out.  So now I have an even bigger hole, antibiotics, and a whole lot of pain that I can only take Tylenol for.  My week is not going well at all! 

They wouldn't give you anything better?  My doc was totally ok with giving me vicodin when I hurt my back when I was pg last time.  I would call your mw/ob and see what they think.

[chilichiki]

Originally Posted by sarah_bella1050 

Well, I can definitely feel the whole "wind out of your sails" feeling cedarwoman LOL.  Getting so tired now, and my belly is so heavy and cumbersome.  My kids are acting like hullagins b/c mommy poops out every day by 5pm LOL.  Just 3 more month left! 

I had to go to the dentist yesterday for a broken tooth that was hurting.  It was infected and they tried to pull it, but the anesthetic kept wearing off and they couldn't get it out.  So now I have an even bigger hole, antibiotics, and a whole lot of pain that I can only take Tylenol for.  My week is not going well at all! 

I had a cracked wisdom tooth when I was pregnant with my first.  I had to get it pulled and then vicodin was prescribed.  Is there a reason why they won't give you vicodin??

On another note-  I have noticed it getting increasingly harder to catch a good breath, which is very frustrating.  I have always been a very anxious person, and I find myself experiencing awful panic attacks lately.  Anyone else getting these?

[Devaskyla]

Back from dh's ERCP. It went well, except they "changed the appointment" to an hour earlier than it was supposed to be. Only, they neglected that he's still classed as positive for VRE, so we wound up having to wait over 2 1/2 hours for them to actually do it. Left home around 10 & finally got back around 5. Had to pay a small fortune for a cab to get there for the "earlier" appointment, which really bugs me. We could have stayed in bed another hour & taken the bus if they'd told us he'd be last. Kids were mostly well behaved though, so that was nice.

So exhausted. Between the cough, the baby kicking, needing to pee & the toddler waking up, I got a grand total of 3 hours of sleep. Maybe less. And dh is still pretty dopey from the sedation.

I feel huge. Dh tells me I look about 12 months pregnant (admittedly I said it first a couple night ago, because from my angle, I did!) and keeps insisting it must be twins & they just somehow missed seeing one. I'm sad I don't have a proper looking bump though & no one can tell I'm pregnant but people who know me.

I'm having bouts of feeling like I can't get enough air. Borrowed dh's pulse ox monitor for a couple minutes during one at the hospital & it was lowish, but still over 90. Can't decide if I should go to the dr or not. It's either baby pressing on my lungs or the cold or both. I'd probably just go if I had a car, but I don't and just going up a couple flights of stairs or walking less than a block is making me cough & have trouble breathing for awhile after, so the prospect of getting there & home is kind of daunting.

I hate feeling like I'm just complaining. At least dh's procedure went well & he's hopefully, finally done with any major medical procedures related to his near death last year. Or any medical procedures for any reason.

[AfricanQueen99]

Originally Posted by Devaskyla 

I hate feeling like I'm just complaining.

Being pregnant isn't a walk in the park.  At all.  It's ok to complain and whine and vent and just get pissy with everybody.  Bitch all you want...we can all relate!
 

[montessorimama1]

Originally Posted by Devaskyla 

I hate feeling like I'm just complaining. At least dh's procedure went well & he's hopefully, finally done with any major medical procedures related to his near death last year. Or any medical procedures for any reason.

Hang in there... I wish there was more we could do to support you!  You provide us newbies with so much advice and guidance, and it sounds like you're having such a rough time right now.  :(  Sending you hugs and hoping things will start becoming less stressful for you...
 

[mamasmoman]

Originally Posted by AfricanQueen99 

Being pregnant isn't a walk in the park.  At all.  It's ok to complain and whine and vent and just get pissy with everybody.  Bitch all you want...we can all relate! 

  Devaskyla-Hope you and your family are well :)

DS has been rather spirited lately, causing a very tired mama at the end of the day. I've had some family-related stress and the combination of pregnancy, stress, and over-tiredness has been producing the strangest dreams. Last night's involved birthing pigs, Marines, and the Occupy Wall Street movement. Didn't eat a good breakfast(stale brownies and a cup of tea), so I'll have to make sure to eat better the rest of the day. Who's been able to enjoy changing leaf colors?

P.S. I feel for the ladies who are struggling with constipation and am sending said suffers healthy poop vibes!

[HardCoreMom]

Originally Posted by montessorimama1 

Hang in there... I wish there was more we could do to support you!  You provide us newbies with so much advice and guidance, and it sounds like you're having such a rough time right now.  :(  Sending you hugs and hoping things will start becoming less stressful for you... 

devaskyla, this is my sentiment, too.  sending my support your way.

[writinglove]

Thinking of you Devaskyla. Your spirit is so strong, I know you can make it through this.

AFM, I'm terribly pissy at everyone and everything these days. One of my best friends, who is single and childless, and I got in a fight last night over something very trivial. I think my transition to motherhood is making us both a little crazy. I'm going to wait until the mud clears before I talk with her about it. 

On the good news front, my babies heart looks great! I had a fetal echo this morning and they sent me home with smiles and congratulations. There are a few factors in my life that could complicate his little heart, so I am greatly relieved. I also found out my that fatigue has nothing to do with hypothyroidism. Since I don't have a thyroid, I get a little worried when I start to feel more tired than usual. I don't want anything to happen to my babe's brain development!! I guess the fatigue is just plain old pregnancy fatigue. Fair enough.

Babe is currently breechish transverish. I hope he stops favoring nesting his little head in the upper left side of my womb one of these days. My MW won't take me if the babe is breech. I know I have loads of time, but my hormones are a little nuts right now and the worry is coming out. I'm taking the Conscious Motherhood ecourse, so I've got some good coping skills, but it is nice to get this all out to you all. 

I hope everyone is doing well. 

xoxo

[montessorimama1]

Originally Posted by writinglove 

On the good news front, my babies heart looks great! I had a fetal echo this morning and they sent me home with smiles and congratulations. There are a few factors in my life that could complicate his little heart, so I am greatly relieved. I also found out my that fatigue has nothing to do with hypothyroidism. Since I don't have a thyroid, I get a little worried when I start to feel more tired than usual. I don't want anything to happen to my babe's brain development!! I guess the fatigue is just plain old pregnancy fatigue. Fair enough.

Hurray!!  That's wonderful news, I'm so happy for you, one less thing to worry about, right?  As for your friend, I think you're right in letting things cool off.  I've found that some of my childless friends and I have been drifting apart.  I guess that's just how it goes sometimes, but it's kind of sad... :(  I hope you guys work it out!

AFM, I'm heading out for a pap smear (fun... not!).  I'm tellin' ya, this whole "being a woman" thing is so over-rated sometimes.  Baby seems to be all over the place these days - she was doing the Mexican hat dance on my bladder yesterday and I almost didn't make it to the bathroom.  Today she's decided to lie transverse and work on her chorus girl kicks (at least she's leaving my bladder alone).  She had been very calm the past few days because I had been making a concerted effort to manage my pelvic positioning, but then yesterday I just got tired of the whole thing and laid on my back propped up on pillows for a while.  She went NUTS (and I got up with an awful lower back ache)... Not doing that again!  I've been having a horrible time sleeping, I think it's time for a body pillow, but our bed is so small that it's either DH or the body pillow in there with me (guess which one gets first dibs these days? hee hee hee)

Sending everyone happy belly vibes!
 

[Devaskyla]

Thanks everyone! Managed to get a big chunk of sleep last night & I'm doing better today. Still exhausted, but I'm growing a person, that's hard work. :)

The hormonal crying about people dying has got to stop, though. Yesterday I at least have a logical explanation; Steve Jobs reminded me a lot of how my dad looked just before he died. But seriously, the crying over complete strangers who I haven't heard of in years is just...weird. Never had this reaction to pregnancy before.

writinglove That's great news about your baby's heart! I'm sure that's taken a weight off you.

montessorimama A pap? That seems really odd. Thought they only did those in the first few weeks, if at all. I'm going to have to try to have one sometime after the baby comes. I keep forgetting & haven't had one ummm....since my 6 week check up with ds1. Oops.

Dh has finally had enough of the mess around here too & decided to start helping me clear things out. Yay! I did ask him if he was nesting too. For some reason he wasn't amused. lol Hoping to get rid of several bags more of clutter/garbage & get the bedroom cleared up.

Anyone else starting to make a shopping list of things you need for the birth/first few weeks? I've already picked up a small package of Depends for the first couple days of bleeding. Debating between making myself some cloth pads for bleeding or just buying pads. After a few weeks wearing them, those disposable ones are so painful, though.  I might do a combo. I want to get a small bottle of witch hazel, a fish net (for if I manage to have a water birth), a new shoelace for the cord, more capsules for the placenta, a better mortar & pestle, a wide elastic bandage to add to my belly band I made for ds3 (it wasn't quite long enough)....I'm sure there's few other things. lol Luckily we have everything we need for a baby, I just need to wash it & find somewhere to put it.

Is anyone else planning on using a milk saver? I thought about getting one so many times with ds3, but was sure I'd stop leaking soon & it would just be a waste of money. After leaking for nearly 10 months (it was only around 6 weeks with the first 2 kids)with him, I decided I was getting one this time right from the start. lol It's pretty cool, although a lot thicker than I was expecting.

[montessorimama1]

Originally Posted by Devaskyla 

montessorimama A pap? That seems really odd. Thought they only did those in the first few weeks, if at all. I'm going to have to try to have one sometime after the baby comes. I keep forgetting & haven't had one ummm....since my 6 week check up with ds1. Oops.

It's not common, but I haven't had one in several years and I was living abroad when I got pregnant, so my mw recommended it just to rule out any issues.  I checked with the ob/gyn at my HMO and there are no counter-indications to doing it, so at least now it's done.

So glad you're feeling better after a good night's sleep!  And you're right, you're growing a little person, cut yourself some slack!

[juneboymum]

Originally Posted by Devaskyla 

Is anyone else planning on using a milk saver? I thought about getting one so many times with ds3, but was sure I'd stop leaking soon & it would just be a waste of money. After leaking for nearly 10 months (it was only around 6 weeks with the first 2 kids)with him, I decided I was getting one this time right from the start. lol It's pretty cool, although a lot thicker than I was expecting.

Oh yeah, thanks for the reminder!  I had never heard of one until DS was 1+ years old and I wasn't leaking anymore.  When he was an infant, I could completely soak a prefold diaper when he nursed!  It makes me a little ill to think about how much liquid gold was wasted.  Yay, now I have (1) thing to "register" for!
 

[writinglove]

My husband is making some serious progress on the basement renovations. We'll be able to move the office soon, and then I can start on the nursery. hooray! That's all for now.

[montessorimama1]

Originally Posted by writinglove 

My husband is making some serious progress on the basement renovations. We'll be able to move the office soon, and then I can start on the nursery. hooray! That's all for now.

Oh how fun!  Be sure to post pictures!! 

[HardCoreMom]

can i just say how happy it makes me to be reading through these threads, seeing how so many of you guys are also online here right now?  i always get so excited to "see" my friends here with me (at random hours of the day and night).  i like to feel connected to you guys like that.  maybe it's silly, but your little green "online" dots make me really happy.

[cedarwoman]

Hey that is pretty cool! Thanks for pointing that out... I'm slogging through two essays due tomorrow, had a big meeting with work about transitioning my position after my contract ends and I go on "leave" (there might not be funding for my position when I get back as I found out tonight, hence " " marks!)...

and it makes my night to know there are other mamas up late with kicking babies in their bellies! Is anyone else just avoiding lying down? I'm pretty sick of side-sleeping!

[montessorimama1]

Originally Posted by cedarwoman 

and it makes my night to know there are other mamas up late with kicking babies in their bellies! Is anyone else just avoiding lying down? I'm pretty sick of side-sleeping!

Side sleeping... YUCK!!!  I couldn't even turn on my right side last night because baby's head was wedged somewhere around my right hipbone and she kept going nuts if I tried to turn... and then DH loves to fall asleep with his hand on my belly feeling the kicks, which is super cute until you realize that daddy is asleep, and yet the baby doesn't know that daddy is asleep and keeps kicking in response to the pressure of his hand... ugh... This baby is so responsive to outside stimulus; the moment I wake up or DH puts his hand on my belly, WHAM, she starts kicking!  I don't know if others are like this, but it's pretty fascinating!

I'm meeting up with some colleagues today to discuss starting a new Montessori school in our area.  I'm so excited, and there's already TONS of interest from parents!  Keep your fingers crossed for me!

[AfricanQueen99]

Originally Posted by cedarwoman 

 Is anyone else just avoiding lying down? I'm pretty sick of side-sleeping!

Yeah that.  I'm pretty much up all night as I can't get comfortable on either side...and every time I try to flip to my right side my brain screams at me to get on the left.  So I'm mostly tossing and turning and not sleeping at night...and there is limited chance to sleep during the day.  I'm exhausted!