Originally Posted by Onemoreontheway
You are not making any one uncomfortable. If you are, I wouldn't worry about them. Life isn't all bread and butter pickles and unicorn farts - motherhood seems like as good of time as any to learn that if one hasn't by now.
I wish I had some magical words you could say to your husband and brother to motivate and wake them up. I really do. Instead, like Meridith said - I can only offer you my support, my sympathies, and an open ear.
That first part made me laugh, which I definitely need more of in my life anyway.
And the second part- thank you. I'll take whatever I can get. Jeff and I both grew up with church as a major part of our lives and definitely grew away from it... very far away from it... so I don't think that will help. Hopefully something else will, sometime.
Originally Posted by forestmushroom
Astraia, Hugs! I hope things get better. That is just way too much on your plate. One thing I do is have the kids rotate chores. For some reason they love to do the dishes, and if they aren't too bad I'll let them do that. They can clean the sink/bathtub (we just use baking soda and vinegar so it is safe), and they can load the washer/dryer fold and put away their clothes. We do "flash mob" pick up sessions where everyone helps, and we try to pick up as quickly as possible. It is fun.
Another thing that really helped was to radically declutter the crap. If the kids leave their toys around like they don't care about them, I box them up and put them in storage. If they can't pick them up, I sure as heck won't! After 6 months if they can name what they want from the box they get it. Otherwise it goes to good will. I went through their clothes and got rid of a ton of stuff. So laundry doesn't pile up since they have to do it.
I hope you get some help, mama!
I don't know that I can have my kids do chores yet, being 1.5 and not quite 3. I think I can give Nigella basic chores (please put your toys in the basket when you're done playing) and really start getting on Orrin for some things (don't throw the book across the room when your'e done reading, put it back on the shelf), but assigning chores now would be failure I think. Well. Hrm, now I'm thinking about it... I guess 3 isn't too young to start. Make your bed, put your pajamas under your pillow not in a heap on the floor. They will be done incredibly imperfectly, but it's the motions that count at this age I think.
I keep going on crazy decluttering sprees, and things were definitely better when the toys and books were reduced dramatically. I put a bunch of little-used stuff downstairs with the intention of tossing what never made it back in the cycle, but my brother moved into the basement and everything came back upstairs and back into general circulation. I need to do another overhaul, and I need to figure out the clothes because they both have way too many in circulation- although part of the problem is that we're definitely still between seasons. The last few days has been shorts and t-shirt weather, and next week will be rain boots and sweaters.
Originally Posted by janellody
I'm not gonna lie.. my hubby and I fantasize about having kids to help out with chores LOL. We are SO lazy when it comes to chores, we do them but hate it. I always had an allowance and did chores growing up to earn it and I totally think it's a great system! I don't want slave laborers, I am willing to pay for it!! I know it's a long way off, but oh boy will I be happy to get some help around here :)
We were slave laborers, we never had an allowance...I think I'm ok with slave labour :P They're part of the family, they should help equally. (that's what we were told when we whined, anyway!)
And yes, I'm looking forward to this as well :)
Originally Posted by Goddess3_2005
we do a crazy monkey clean up in our house, where everyone cleans as fast as they can for 15 minutes. WE put on some fun music and get to work, the kids love it.
i have been couch surfing lately. Even sitting at the computer makes me sick. i have gotten not much of anything done, although i made some homemade laundry soap yesterday and i was pretty proud of that. The dryer broke, but they kids are loving hanging the laundry on the line and i love the way it smells so its a win win, we will see how long that lasts, i give a couple more days.
Stressed about my business, ia m too sick to be able to focus on it and my manufacturer is a pain in my butt cheeks.They sewed my new diapers backwards and were late by almost a month. SO now not only do they have to be re-sewn, but i am late releasing product.uggh.
Too sick to update much more, weekly doctors appointments suck, trying to get my fasting blood sugars under control. alI craveis junk foods and altoids are the only thing that keeps the morning sickness at bay.
Crazy monkey clean up.... I'm trying to picture how that would work. I'm picturing more toys and books being thrown around randomly then going anywhere useful, but we can definitely give it a shot!
I left the rest of your post up, too because- man! I can't imagine, it sounds like it's incredibly rough for you :( That's a lot to deal with- definitely hear you on the junk food, but no issues with blood sugars here which makes it way easier on me. Hope it all improves soon.
I think part of the issue is that because I never work at the same time of day, I don't have any routines in place. I don't even know how to start a routine. We just get up whenever we all wake up, muddle through the day until I leave (sometimes almost as soon as we get up), and then muddle through the rest of the day when I get home with no consistency or reliability in any part of our day or week. I know it's hard on the kids because it's really hard on me.