Originally Posted by wombatclay
We actually have tried those harness/leash things... ds is kind of like the deranged puppy, he just doesn't "get" the harness and knocks himself off his feet over and over (runs full tilt, hits end of harness, falls over). DH and I kept waiting for him to learn but nope. LOL I was telling dh I'd give it another try though because yeah... he unlatches strollers/shopping carts and just climbs out while we're moving full tilt. No fear.
More seriously, a topic from last month's thread that is worth delving into this month... living in a non-pagan community, or near non-pagan family/friends/employers. How much do you share? How do you stay true to your own evolving beliefs and philosophies when they may not be shared by others, or when others might be actively hurt by those beliefs or antagonistic to them? How do you balance being in the broom closet with being honest and true? How do you know thyself if you can't BE yourself in public, or even sometimes in private?
DS was just.like.that. JUST like. I just got kind of good at fetching him up before he crashed, but it didn't always work...whatever. It stinks watching your kid hurt, especially when it's bullheaded and self-inflicted, but you just kind of have to shrug and move on, y'know? R did that all.the.time. And no fear, either. You know on the playgrounds that are meant for 5-12yo's? And they have a fireman's pole that is about 6' off the ground? At 2, ds would walk right off of the opening. As if the ground under his feet kept going. Like Wile E. Coyote off the cliff, and he'd look down after to realize there's no ground? DS did that. Did not use the pole, or even notice it. I'd have to be under it to catch him every time.
My Paganism: now that I'm kind of practicing a dual faith, that's a weird situation. I'm really coming to the realization that I'm a Witch through and through and I just can't jive with the Jesus thing, but I'm still trying to reconcile both and find a way to believe that Jesus is God, too-- just, not the only one. As for being Pagan I am WAY out of the closet and I don't care who knows. But that took a long, long time. I guess that's part of my growing the not-give-a-shit bone.
Here's the funny part: DS thinks they are unreconcilable and that people will....I dunno, condemn us for the other. Like, he does NOT want the Catholics at the church where we take classes to know we're Pagan. And he's afraid, I think, of our Pagan community finding out that we "do" Catholicism. I guess that's being 10yo, though, huh? He begged me not to let on that we're Pagan at the Catholic church. I said, I am not ashamed of my spirituality and if I feel the need to let it out (which I have not, yet) then that's MY path, but I will not "out" him because that's HIS path.
Originally Posted by Valerie.Qc
I don't feel the need to "hide" but I don't go around saying I'm Pagan either...
My spirituality is more about being connected with the natural cycle of life, about acknowleging the sacredness in the mundane, about intention in my daily life and my own connection to the divine than about rituals so it's not obvious for people around.
But I am way open about it, if anyone asks. EXCEPT Baptists, in general....they are so "In Yo Face" down here that it's just not worth my time or energy.
Originally Posted by wombatclay
It's possible that the afterschool program will have to go even if all there is well, just because I can't manage ds. :( How sad a testimonial to my parenting is that?
I meant to reply to this as well. It's NOTHING to do with your parenting. Which is why you have the others, so that they all can be testimony that everybody's different, and it's not you at all. I met a mom once whose 1st son was just off the wall. Just nuts off the wall. Her 2nd one was calm, compliant, an angel, behavior-wise. She had spent so much time in tears over the first one. She thought she was a failure as a mom. Then she had the 2nd one and she said "I know God sent me the 2nd one so that I would know I am not a failure as a mom".
Tor is just who he is. That's all. I have had people telling me that R chose me as a mom because he knew I could handle it. And those that believe in God say that about him, too, that God knew I could handle R and that's why I was chosen to be his parent. I seriously doubt <God's (or whoever's)> and R's confidence, most of the time, and I don't know who in the world thought I needed MORE patience, but most times it's a day-by-day thing. Lately, srsly, I am so afraid I'll be That Mom for the final time-- my son will be the one in the paper in the orange jumpsuit, or <gasp> that he won't make it through childhood or young adulthood because of stOOpid decisions and impulsiveness. I just keep trying to stay in the now. It's bloody hard, no mistake.
Originally Posted by LionessMom
funny, my mil is more ok now that i started attending a church even if it is uu. <shrug>
Isn't that the weirdest thing? People leave me alone because of the UU, generally What, because it's a building?