Falling into Bajingo Juice: TTC #1 in our 30s - October 2011 - Page 17

[andaluza]

Hi ladies, Happy Friday!

Dana, sorry about your temp drop, I hope it was just a brief thing.

Sorry about the luteal phase, lakeruby. I think that's still considered sufficient time, but are you trying anything to extend it?

That's great about your continued success with weight loss, lilac! Are you considering fostering, then? Like you, krunchyk, and pooruglyhappy I am getting depressed about the timing issue for us, since it's pretty complicated for work and personal issues. I am trying not to let it get me down, but it stresses me out since for us so much depends on the timing.

Sorry about not feeling well calpurnia7. Mucinex is supposed to help with cm, but I don't know about the dm part. Did you ovulate?

How are you feeling now, indie1976? I have also read a bit on the bajingo juice graduates thread and I agree that it does give one hope!

Ericaf, I hope you and everyone else testing then have great news on turkey day!  

Krunchyk, congratulations on your PhD! I hope you find a great job soon! 

Welcome Shell77, I hope that your stay here is short! There is a thread about the acronyms: http://www.mothering.com/community/t/522590/abbreviations-acronyms-emoticons

Pooruglyhappy, are you already fostering? Best wishes with the process. That is what we always said we would do, but I feel as though I've used up so much energy and resources for ttc, I would like my husband to take charge with it. 

AFM, I am not sure what is happening. This weekend, at about 6dpo, I had a darker opk than I've had since then (not positive, but quite pink; since then, barely visible test line). I can't figure it out. And today I took my temp a bit later than usual and it was pretty high, not in the 98s like it is after o, so I really hope o is on the way, since dh has the week off. I just hope my body can o on its own and does so soon.

[ericaf]

indie: What a great idea to read that thread... thanks!! I had a m/c in August, and sometimes those bad thoughts will float in my brain but I just push them rightttt out. I read somewhere of the FF forum this from a woman, and I loveddd it:

 

"The point is... I want to encourage all of you ladies out that that you are not defective. You are whole. You are beautiful. Remember the power of our own minds, and that we have everything we need to conceive."

 

A-freakin-men!

 

Shell77: Pretty sure that means that you had your LH surge and you should ovulate about 12-24 hours after that! Are you charting? That is very helpful to do cause they you know you definitely ovulated and when!

 

So, ummmmmmmmmmmmmm. I broke down and tested today after seeing a lot of positives on Fertility Friend at 7-10 DPO. I'm only 7 DPO, but I have a tonnnn of prego tests I bought online and they were cheap enough so I figured what the heck. I got the faintest faint pink line there ever was on my way too early, don't even get my period for 7 days, looked at it an hour after test! It could be total crap, it could be chemical, but I'm just going to hold onto that it may really be positive!!! Praying and hoping!! I may throw up and die of a heart attack before I can retest. Hahaha.

[calpurnia7]

Originally Posted by andaluza 

Sorry about not feeling well calpurnia7. Mucinex is supposed to help with cm, but I don't know about the dm part. Did you ovulate?

I'm not sure if I did or not - FF estimated that I would O on Wednesday, but I have yet to see a shift in my temps.  I also discovered that I was taking the OPK tests at the wrong time of day, so I'm not going to rely on those results.  Ugg! 

[Shell77]

Thank you everybody for all your help   ... I have not started charting.. or bbt .. I hate to admit it but I was hoping I would not have to learn how to do those things .. UGH ... But I guess I need to learn. is there a website to go to to learn how to chart? and how do you know what your normal body temp is? .... I tested today and a BFN ... but I think it was too soon! I am still cramping .. I dont understand I feel like I cramp all the time on my right side... If I am not PG this time I think I should go back to the doctor again....THANKS AGAIN Huge baby dust wishes to everyone!!!

[krunchyk]

Welcome Shell77!  I bought Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler for less than $10 on Amazon.  It definitely is The Source for charting and a useful reference tool.  It will give you all the information you need to know in order to monitor your fertility.  Once I got used to it I really grew to love charting.  I find it to be empowering and an incredibly useful tool.  I hope you enjoy it, too!

Thebyr – Safe travels on your way back to the US.  AND fingers crossed on a successful conception and an amazing story to tell your babe.

Andaluza – I hope you do O on your own! I can relate.  Before I started Metformin ovulation was a crap shoot.  It really was an incredible feeling when I ovulated on my own on CD 20 after starting met (This, technically, begs the question – is that really on my own? Whatevs, I will take it.).  And then I did it again the next cycle! Five regular cycles and I am super proud of my body.  Fingers crossed for a normal, healthy ovulation!

Ericaf – I am with you! I’m thinking of going on a POAS binge.  I also bought a bunch of cheapies at the dollar store, and am thinking of just going for it.  However, I learned how to knit yesterday and that has really distracted me from POAS, MDC, and fertilityfriend.com.  At this rate I will have a scarf shortly!

AFM – Kniting, knitting, knitting.  It is so fun! Anyone have any website or blog recommendations? I’m still practicing basic stitches and I don’t know how to do a lot of things yet, but I’m learning.  Also, and this really reveals the giant nerd that I am, the newest iteration of my favorite video game is released on Sunday.  Zelda here I come.  These are all fabulous distractions from ttc and job searching.  Have a fabulous weekend ladies.  Sending lots of fertile thoughts to everyone out there. 

[andaluza]

Ericaf, a line is a line, especially if it is pink. But are you saying that you didn't even look at it for an hour, or that the line only appeared after an hour? I think you need to see the line within the amount of time indicated on the test (usually 3-5 minutes) and they tell you not to scrutinize the test after that time. Why not just test again using first morning urine tomorrow and look at it in the proper time frame? I hope you have gotten your bfp!!
 

Originally Posted by calpurnia7 

I'm not sure if I did or not - FF estimated that I would O on Wednesday, but I have yet to see a shift in my temps.  I also discovered that I was taking the OPK tests at the wrong time of day, so I'm not going to rely on those results.  Ugg! 

I would rely most on the temps, which has been most reliable for me. Even in my first month of crazy and bad temping and no positive opks, I could still see a temp shift. My opks and temps never line up exactly, though.

Opks are the bane of my existence. I detest holding my urine and not drinking a lot of water. I have heard that it's better to test later in the day, which may be what you refer to. However, I've gotten positives at different times of day. The Target ones I have now say to test with 1st morning urine, which I've been doing, plus in the afternoon. Today I discovered some ewcm, so I hope that's a good sign. Maybe it is the result of all the red grapefruit I've been eating lately? 

Shell77, you can go to fertility friend and they will provide you with a free tutorial. You take your temp with a basal body thermometer when you first wake up, every morning at the same time. Here is what my chart looks like: http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/35e363/

so you can see that temps change from day to day, but there is a clear shift from before ovulation to after (different hormones in your body affect your temperature). Doing this over time gives you knowledge of the days around which you ovulate, how long your luteal phase is, when your period is expected. I hope that helps!

I just had a vision test and my eyes have improved from April this year when I had a glasses rx and for the contacts the last test was 2 years ago. I wonder if it has to do with not drinking coffee and/or alcohol. As always, the body is mysterious!

[andaluza]

PS. to Krunchyk, who was posting at the same time as me: my mom is a huge knitter but I am bad at keeping up with projects. She spends a lot of time on ravelry.com so I think it would be a great place for you to check out. I have signed up, even found some groups in my area, but work has gotten the better of me. I still have a lovely sweater just waiting for me to finish and I have very little left. Thanks for your positive vibes for ovulation!

[ericaf]

Krunchyyk: Yeahhhhh, I couldn't help myself. I was home alone like "Enh, why not." Hahaha! I didn't even think of it till that very second. Maybe you make a scarf for you and socks for me so we dont go on a bender. Lol. 

Andaluza: No, I did look in the proper amount of time and didnt think I saw anything. I went to work, went to throw it out and out of the corner of my eye... Definitely saw a very faint pink line. Same think happened to me when I got prego in June but I kept taking them and they kept getting darker. I guess we shall see!! Fingers crossed to the max!

[PoorUglyHappy]

Erica- no matter how much time has passed, I've never seen any pink lines, so I think this is a good sign!   Maybe it's time to go get a FRER?  

Shell - I'm with KK, Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler - it is a great guide to charting.  I also have a fertilityfriend.com membership which after doing it the paper and pencil way for a long time, I like that FF takes the guess work out of it. 

Andaluza- we are not fostering yet, we just signed up for the orientation which of course had a three month waiting list.  There is so much waiting to the fostering thing too.  After orientation, we can start the classes and the home study.  Then after all that is finished we can start the real waiting game.  After so many months of nothing, this at least seems like it will have a positive end result. 

[indie1976]

so i'm out of town with really shotty cell service and no internet but just read ericaf's post and i'm sending you pregnant vibes!!! will check back in when i can!

[lilacvioletiris]

Sounds like lots of goings on right now.  Knitting sounds like fun.  I have gotten really good at crocheting circles.  I am making a circle sweater for my sister and I am excited about it.  I think it will look awesome. 

Now to take a nap and rest this afternoon.  Been a long week.

[Calycanth]

Erica, I got my first BFP with this pregnancy at 8 DPO, but the line was so faint that I dismissed it as an evap. I didn't get a "solid" BFP until 10 DPO.  

to all!

[lilacvioletiris]

I was very constructive yesterday.  I made 3 vendor aprons.  Two are the same color material, but different pattern placement and the other is totally new fabric.  I love sewing!  So relaxing.  The fact that I traded the aprons for Christmas gifts - priceless!

[Thebyr]

So... I'm 6dpo and something told me not to test.. but I didn't listen. 5 minutes later...

And there is the line - pretty faint - but I guess that makes total sense seeing as how it's ULTRA early. We ACTUALLY got our South African conception. I can't believe it.

Clearly all your fertile thoughts worked.

Now - I'm praying that the little one sticks. I had a blighted ovum last time and the sac never grew past 5 weeks.. So - I'm gonna take this ONE WEEK at a time and pray, pray, pray! Guess I'll be about 3 weeks tomorrow. WOW!

KK - thank you for the lovely thoughts. Just got back home yesterday and got such great news this morning.

Lilac and KK - you've inspired me to crochet again.. gonna start working on hats for friends this evening.. keep my mind busy the next few weeks.

Congrats ERICA!!!

How is everyone? I'm gonna go and read back further - our internet in SA was so slow I could only check the threads sometimes. Sorry if I missed any HUGE news.

[Calycanth]

Oh, wow, Thebyr, that is definitely a line! Congratulations! 

[Thebyr]

Thanks Caly! I almost didn't believe it. In fact, if I hadn't read on the boards that a line is a line.. then I would have dismissed it. Showed it to DH and he said he could see it - I'm in shock. How are you feelin these days? Any symptoms?

[andaluza]

Great news, Thebyr!!  

It is amazing how that worked out for you! Happy and healthy nine months! Send some of your fertile vibes our way, ha ha!!

Any news, ericaf? I hope you are feeling great!

Pooruglyhappy, best wishes with the fostering. I couldn't help myself and found the information about this area, although I wanted dh to take charge. It seems like there is a higher need, sadly, around here and the informational and qualification meetings are free for anyone to attend. I could be wrong, but there doesn't seem to be any waiting.

Great news about your successfully creative weekend, lilac!

AFM, had a great weekend. We made a huge paella for an event we attended for a nonprofit dh is on the board of, and it was a big success. Thanksgiving will be just us, so it was sort of like an early Thanksgiving. Had lots of ewcm, so now I know for sure clomid dried me up. But still no o, but I'm hoping that the ewcm is a good sign that o is on the way and will be here in a few days.  I'm working most of the week, although some days from home, but dh has the week off, so it would be a great week to ovulate!  Safe travels and good eating everyone!

[calpurnia7]

Hello Ladies!  I hope everyone is having a great week so far.  I see some talks of BFP's, congratulations!  I promise to follow up more, but with the madness of in-laws in town I don't have a lot of time on the computer.

AFM - baby crazies ensue, with the same levels of anxiety and insecurity my DH is experiencing with his fantasy football team.

Quote:

Originally Posted by andaluza 

I would rely most on the temps, which has been most reliable for me. Even in my first month of crazy and bad temping and no positive opks, I could still see a temp shift. My opks and temps never line up exactly, though.

Opks are the bane of my existence. I detest holding my urine and not drinking a lot of water. I have heard that it's better to test later in the day, which may be what you refer to. However, I've gotten positives at different times of day. The Target ones I have now say to test with 1st morning urine, which I've been doing, plus in the afternoon. Today I discovered some ewcm, so I hope that's a good sign. Maybe it is the result of all the red grapefruit I've been eating lately? 

So... I sort of gave up after Friday when temps hadn't shifted.  FF.com predicted I would O this past Tuesday or Wednesday.  Then, last night, I had a very sharp pain on the right side of my region down there, thought it was perhaps gas, but then this morning my temps were down a little bit!  They were down after a night of restless sleep, which never happens.  So I took an OPK test just for laughs and the line wasn't as dark as the test line, but it was much darker than all the previous tests.  We DTD'd this morning and I told DH that we have to again tonight.  It is complicated and super sneaky with family in town.  He is willing to take one for the team LOL.  I was worried that he feels like he's being treated as a baby making machine.  He does not seem to mind. 

Also, my skin is broken out like nobody's business.  I have this zit under my nose that refuses to quit.  Time to pick up a facial scrub and brillo pad to scour out my pores.  Might need a sand blaster too.

I can't believe that I didn't make sure we DTD'd more over the weekend!  I thought I wasn't going to O, and with family in town we were exhausted and just wanted rest.  And after a week of record-breaking BD madness we wanted a break.  Argh!  CM has not been that great, but maybe we'll get it.  We DTD'd Friday night and I did have a bit of EWCM Saturday morning, but nothing spectacular.  Maybe I'll catch it?  Don't really know how things progress with the first O twinges, decreased temp, OPK+, etc.  Any thoughts?  I think it's definitely worth it to try tonight at least, maybe tomorrow too?

Edited by calpurnia7 - 11/21/11 at 10:21am

[ericaf]

Thebyr: Eeeee! Congrats!!!

andaluza: I tested yesterday and today (I'm 10 DPO today) and they were both glaring negatives. Sigh. I totally broke down sobbing this morning in the shower  I guess it issss a bit early, but whatever... Apparently I'm slightly emotional right now. At least I can say I think this means my progesterone is up from last month!! Haha.

Question for any of you lovelies on progesterone or creams. I know nadaaa about this. My midwife said she would do a bloodtest to check my progesterone level on the 3rd day of my next period (not sure what that test is called... I had called her cause I was worried it may be low and that was causing me to spot the past two cycles a few days before my period. She seems to think it's still my body trying to regulate itself after the MC in August. I had never spotted before my period prior to the miscarriage, so she could very well be right and I could just be a neurotic freak, but I just want to be safe. ). So if it ISSSS low... what the heck do I do? What's the difference between a pill and a cream? When do you take it? Do you continue when you are pregnant? I'm lost on this one.

[Thebyr]

Thanks Andaluza! I'm sending them right now.

Go for it Cal - can't hurt. And maybe there was some sperm hanging around from the weekend. There is still hope.

Thanks Erica! I have no idea about progesterone - hopefully someone will answer soon. I'm curious too - as I suspect low progesterone was the reason I missed 6 months of periods earlier this year.

AFM - I'm starting to feel a little less confident about my BFP after spending some hours reading up on blue dye tests and false positives. I went ahead and bought a few Dollar tree tests on my way home from work. I'll test in the morning and again later this week - closer to 12dpo. These aren't early predicting tests are they?