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Andaluza - are you temping?  How is all of that looking for you?

 

lilac - love the bag and the upcycling!  I would be ecstatic if I got something like that for a secret santa present!

 

AFM - upper respiratory tract infection.  I am working from home, with humidifier running, and a Z pack.  The doctor gave me a pregnancy test, BFN.  She also gave me a list of safe medications to take - everything I have taken since projected O date is safe, big relief.  The Z pack, my cold meds, and the fabulous prescription nighttime cough meds are also all safe to take.  Whew!  The doctor told me absolutely not to worry, so I'm not going to.  AF has not started yet, but I'm having those crampy twinges that usually precede it, so it might just be delayed, but it might be more?  I am getting hopeful, took a test this morning and it was negative, but it's only 10 DPO.  I still don't understand why there was a little line the other day followed by nothing.  Maybe the Wondflo tests aren't all they're cracked up to be.  But yesterday they tested with FRER.

 

Sooooo here's the next question - how often should I be testing, assuming AF doesn't come?  The instinct of course is to test every time I need to potty but that is wasteful and unproductive and a bit crazy.  Daily?

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Way to go on the bag, Lilac!

 

Erica: here is the huge list of acronyms and abbreviations: http://www.mothering.com/community/t/522590/abbreviations-acronyms-emoticons    (AFM is not on there!)

Great news about your levels! 

 

That's a relief about your meds, Calpurnia! I did the same thing with my uti last month, made sure that the antibiotics were safe. I think that as far as testing goes, it is best to use first morning urine or hold for 4 hours. I think that if you get a negative one day, you may want to wait to test the day after the next, since hcg is supposed to double every 48 hours, approximately. (Not that I follow that advice once I start testing, ha!).  

 

My temps are holding steady, but lower than when I was on clomid. You can see them here (keep in mind ff thinks I may have o on cd 18, too, so I could only be 7 dpo): http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/35e363

 

Since I still have 7 days to go before af if my luteal phase remains as exceedingly long as it has been the past few months, I'm trying to be low key. I have a bunch of frer, but I also bought some dollar tree cheapies yesterday, but haven't tested yet. But again, I will say that symptoms are different off clomid. I have slight cramping in my ovaries, maybe a bit of light dizziness and nausea, but I think it may be due to stress about work. I am tired at different points during the day, but am probably not sleeping that well, either. Everything has an explanation.  I really wish this could be the month (as I'm sure we all do). If next month doesn't work out, we will probably see the RE, although I need to find out what our insurance covers.

 

Best wishes to all!!

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andaluza: I'm freaking out cause she said my FSH levels were a little high meaning my eggs are getting old... greatttt. 31 doesn't seem old to me!! I guess I wouldn't eat a 31 year old chicken egg though. Lol. And thanks for the list of acronyms. orngtongue.gif

 

AFM (hehe): The minute the Dr said that about my eggs I instantly got a dull pain in my right ovary... hello BRAIN. Chill outtttt. Sigh.

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andaluza: I'm freaking out cause she said my FSH levels were a little high meaning my eggs are getting old... greatttt. 31 doesn't seem old to me!! I guess I wouldn't eat a 31 year old chicken egg though. Lol. And thanks for the list of acronyms. orngtongue.gif

 

AFM (hehe): The minute the Dr said that about my eggs I instantly got a dull pain in my right ovary... hello BRAIN. Chill outtttt. Sigh.


As if there isn't enough going on in the life of a 31 year-old, to hear that your eggs are getting old?!  Sheesh.  What a bummer, I'm sorry to hear that.  But, maybe it's not a bad thing?  Maybe eggs get wiser and know more what to do?  Certainly they get more sensible and make better life decisions.  twins.gif

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Right??? My eggs are just FINE, dang it!! Pshhhhhhhhhhhh. moon.gif

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Erica, I'm only a few steps ahead of you, hearing the words "fertility doctor" freaked me out sooo much but now I wish I would have done it way earlier (like after 12 months instead of 17). I think you will find it refreshing to talk to someone who actually knows what they're talking about. My OBGYN told me all sorts of crap she really didn't know, I mean, she was making hypotheses based on the status quo but it turns out it was wrong. Is there anything else elevated FSH could mean? I found this "Getting Pregnant" book at Goodwill and it seems to have lots of good information, especially about hormones and fertility treatments, tests etc.

 

I love "Aunt Flo Missed." but don't feel like doing one right now, depressed. blah.

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Eggs old? Um.. how about 50 year old eggs, 60 year old eggs, 80 year old eggs - THOSE are OLD! I wouldn't stress too much Erica - that was just a pretty insensitive thing for your doc (who knows you're TTC) to say. Kinda like with the nurse told me I was just "barely" pregnant today. Ma'am - I'm as pregnant as can be, THANKS!

 

Anyway Auntie Flo Missed (I really thought that's what it meant).. I got this lightheadedness and heart flutter that the CNM on call said probably "wasn't pregnancy related." But seeing as how it's the first time I've EVER had these symptoms and I am, in fact, preggers - I think it's pretty related. I'll deal with the CNMs and my OB tomorrow. Right now - I'm just trying not to faint after every meal.

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Right??? My eggs are just FINE, dang it!! Pshhhhhhhhhhhh. moon.gif

privateeyes.gif OK I know nobody probably knows me on here anymore, but I thought I'd share. My FSH was a little high as well, and my RE (genius doc that got us our daughter) said he didn't think my eggs were bad quality. He said that considering how YOUNG I was (31) it probably just meant my ovaries need a little extra stimulation to get the job done. If you feel comfortable, you could try fertility meds to help boost your ovaries to let those YOUNG and HEALTHY eggs mature to their full potential. hug2.gif Hope that helps!
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Thanks, Boots! I have a good friend who runs the big fertility clinic around us... I gave her my #'s and she talked to the Dr's. They said they wouldn't be overly concerned at this point, but ask if my midwife would run my AMH (anti mullerian hormone for anyone who doesn't know)  which is a bit more reliable of a ovarian reserve predictor. If that comes back fine, then they said I should try a little longer on my own. If it's not so good, then I'll go into the fertility clinic. That makes me feel a little less crazy, so now I have to hound my midwife to do that for me along with my CD22 testing. She's very sweet, but Dr's always have a tendency to make me feel a little loony toons or that I go overboard. But THEY don't live in this body, DO they??

 

TheByr: Like REALLY? You're "barely" pregnant? dizzy.gifWhat the heck!!!! That nurse is barelyyyy a frackinnn nurse! I don't get the insensitivity thing. They might see pregos all the time, but YOU aren't prego all the time. Get a life nurse!

 

Tear78: Thank you for the words and advice!! Very helpful and makes me feel better knowing you heard the same thing (well, not that it's fun hearing that). Were you ovulating regularly when they gave you the fertility meds? (I'm assuming they gave you them... and would you mind telling me what? I'm a crazy researcher of everything. Hehehehe.) So is that was fertility meds do? I know I'm regularly ovulating, but they help young and healthyyy eggs mature? Not my old, loser eggs? Hahaha. I kid, I kid. I've been busy sending messages to my body. I was coming home from Zumba last night (having myself a pity party) and I just put my hand on my belly and said "IIIIIIII love you more than anything. All the parts in there. IIIIII think you're just fine!!!" orngbiggrin.gif

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TheByr: Like REALLY? You're "barely" pregnant? dizzy.gifWhat the heck!!!! That nurse is barelyyyy a frackinnn nurse! I don't get the insensitivity thing. They might see pregos all the time, but YOU aren't prego all the time. Get a life nurse!
 


Seriously - what is with people?

 

So I'm on 11 DPO, AF was due yesterday but has not come yet.  Still super sick, in fact I think I'm a little sicker than I was yesterday.  It seems like these infections get worse before they get better.  I have a POAS percolating, and there's the control line, the whole background of the strip is pink, and there is a white line where the test line should go.  No clue what that means.  I took the test about 30 minutes ago.  I guess I'll try another one?


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hmm Cal7 - I don't know what to make of that. Could it be an EVAP line or maybe just a bad test? I think you need to take another. Was that FMU? *Fingers Crossed*

 

erica - that was cute and positive thing to say to your lady parts. People are just so insensitive.

 

Tear - thanks for sharing.. I didn't think her eggs were old at 31 either.

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hmm Cal7 - I don't know what to make of that. Could it be an EVAP line or maybe just a bad test? I think you need to take another. Was that FMU? *Fingers Crossed*



I took another, BFN.  So it's either AF or BFP to come first.  I need to relax and try to get to feeling better.

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yes.. relax.. might make you feel better instantly.

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Hi ladies, Happy Friday!

 

Erica, sorry about your doc's comment. My mantra has been that I am trying to be as healthy as possible now and that is all I can really control. 

 

Thebyr, it is amazing to hear the strange and insensitive things that people say! I hope you're doing well!

 

Calpurnia, sorry about the weird test and bfn :(  I hope it's just a little too early for you!! And i hope you start feeling great soon.

 

 

AFM, I have 2 work related holiday parties today and feel like I am going to bust into tears at any moment. 

 

I keep waking up between half an hour to an hour after going to sleep, sick to my stomach and stressed out about work, mind racing. I bought a book of affirmations from Amazon yesterday and am going to see if I can transfer a great guided relaxation and stress relief tape (!!) to my iphone that I used years ago at the beginning of grad school, because I can't go on like this anymore. I am having stronger cramping and took a dollar tree test this morning, BFN. I am certain that my stress level is probably the major factor affecting my ability to conceive now, and I just don't see how it will end until next summer, if ever. 

 

Plus, I am getting really stressed out about visiting my parents this X-mas. My dad has started drinking again (after more than 20 years sober) and it is putting everyone on edge and I am sure there is going to be an explosion. My mom tends to do things like that (confrontation) when we are around. I really don't know what to think about his drinking, when he visited us last X-mas it made me and dh uncomfortable, we felt as though he was secretive and defensive about it, it wasn't social drinking while dining, which is how we usually drink. I can't help scrutinizing him because of his history and past attitudes about drinking. I honestly think some of his behavior indicates a problem: his personality is changing (from calm, low key, to loud/talkative and confrontational or impatient when drinking), and I also feel as though he is constantly on the defensive about it. Dh and I used to enjoy a glass of wine a day before we started ttc, sometimes more, but I just feel as though with my dad and his history, even if it is just a few drinks, that is not even the whole issue. He used to say that he wished he could have a glass of wine with us at meals, but I never thought he would really begin drinking again. Also, his health isn't great to begin with, and it just makes me worry more about him.

 

Sorry to be such a downer. UGH.

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Cal- I had the very same looking test a couple of months ago, ended up not preggers:(. I think that can happen if too much urine goes into the test, the contol line can "bleed". However it's not over until it's over. Perhaps it is time to invest in some FRERs! Sending super positive vibes your way!

 

Andaluza- Sorry to hear about your dad, that really sucks. Holidays can be anxiety provocking, not to mention the extra stress of ttc. The affirmations sound awesome. I am trying to change my thinking and think of myself as a fertile person, let's see if it helps us!

 

AFM- 8dpo with no spotting! I feel really optimistic this cycle (#8). My temps have been nice and high, and I just have a "feeling". My dh is worried that I am getting my hopes up, because everytime af comes I turn into a hot mess. I also wonder if my stressing has hindered my ability to concieve. Trying to be calm and present. This weekend will go fast as I will be at the hospital the whole time, helping deliver babies, because that's not making me want a baby! Good times. You ladies are rad, let's see some BFP early christmas presents!

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Thread Starter 

I had no idea what AFM meant either and I have been in this thread since April.

 

Thanks Tear78 for the information.  Nice to know the Bajingo juice mommies can come back and help us out.  Sometimes "Dr. Google" is not a good thing for us.

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Hi mexilady, thanks for your thoughts. I really hope your feeling is correct and you get your bfp this month!

 

The second holiday party was better for me than the first. I don't know what came over me this afternoon, but it felt good to voice some of the anxiety. One of our neighbors just died this week, a very elderly but dear person whom we spent lots of time with since moving here. I think that is also getting to me a lot, thinking especially about his lovely wife now all alone, which makes me worry about my family so far away.

 

I seem to be spotting something very light brownish, hoping for hope that it's implantation, but with these cramps, it seems like the more likely candidate is af. My temps were higher this morning though, but they haven't been high like when I used clomid, so it could be that my progesterone is weak this month. Time will tell, I guess. 

 

 Fingers crossed for everyone's health.

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Andaluza -  Ppl let amazingly stupid things come out of their mouths. But - I SOOOOOO hope your AF doesn't show up.

 

 

You too Mexilady.. sounds promising for you this cycle.

 

 

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Tear78: Thank you for the words and advice!! Very helpful and makes me feel better knowing you heard the same thing (well, not that it's fun hearing that). Were you ovulating regularly when they gave you the fertility meds? (I'm assuming they gave you them... and would you mind telling me what? I'm a crazy researcher of everything. Hehehehe.) So is that was fertility meds do? I know I'm regularly ovulating, but they help young and healthyyy eggs mature? Not my old, loser eggs? Hahaha. I kid, I kid. I've been busy sending messages to my body. I was coming home from Zumba last night (having myself a pity party) and I just put my hand on my belly and said "IIIIIIII love you more than anything. All the parts in there. IIIIII think you're just fine!!!" orngbiggrin.gif

We did end up going through fertility treatments and injectible medicines. To be honest, it was a whole cocktail of stuff, and it's different for every person. If you're considering this there's no hurt in visiting a fertility specialist, other than the hurt to pride. I was already ovulating regularly, yes. The goal for the fertility meds were two-fold: to help the eggs reach full maturity and development before being released, and to raise our odds by going for more than one egg in a month if possible. I also went through regular acupuncture treatments and herbal supplements recommended by the acupuncturist, and I solemnly believe these helped: my FSH was way lower on the cycle we conceived through IVF. I felt like the stars aligned that month. It was VERY hard to hear that my ovaries needed help, and I of course felt like my time was running out, but my RE really didn't see it that way, and he felt very confident he could help us get pregnant. Your age (ie, YOUNG) gives you a lot going for you. Good luck! goodvibes.gif

eta - lilac, step away from Dr. Google! Step away.....sulkoff.giflove.gif
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Hi ladies! I'm new here but would love to join you :) 

 

I'm 30 (31 in May), my partner is almost 41 (in Jan) and we've been ttc since September this year. We got pregnant on our first try, which was a total shock to the both of us. I think we'd both secretly never totally believed we'd get pregnant because of a few crazy things doctors have said - but we did! Sadly it was a chemical pregnancy, which took forever to find out and now that we've been pregnant once we're all the more serious about getting pregnant again! 

 

Here's a link to my chart http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2244a1

I wasn't temping before getting pregnant, just noting the length of my cycle and kind of checking CM. I also haven't had my period of any bleeding since getting pregnany, aside from some spotting that I had assumed was implantation bleeding (since I tested positive a few times afterwards) but now I'm not at all sure what's going on!

 

So that's me, I'm looking forward to getting to know you all! I was also wondering if anyone has thought about the possibility of starting a TTC in our 30's group so we can have more than just the one thread?

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