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post #21 of 47
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I hate condoms. Hate, hate hate. They smell bad! I do NOT like putting that yucky stinky slimy who-knows-what's-in-it lubricant in my fine china, if you know what I mean. Ugh the smell. (Does it bother anyone else?) Plus, DH dislikes them of course.


Yes, they smell! Ick!!!! You reminded me of another reason I hate them. And they are drying, no matter if they are lubricated or not. Blah.
post #22 of 47
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Yes, they smell! Ick!!!! You reminded me of another reason I hate them. And they are drying, no matter if they are lubricated or not. Blah.


Yup.  Stinky slime.  SUCH a turn-off!

 

post #23 of 47

okay, yeah, we probably won't use condoms in actuality, but I'm not great at charting, and I'm not doing anything hormonal, DH told me after we started TTC our first that he was NEVER EVER using condoms again, but we'll see how soon he wants a fourth (he said two kids, I said "lots," you can see how this is turning out)

post #24 of 47

I wish my DH was willing to try NFP. There has never been a single intimate moment in our relationship when he gave in and had "complete" intercourse with me without a condom except when we decided to start a family and I got pregnant on the first try. We have very fertile families and I think it makes him paranoid. The women on my side get pregnant on the first try each time. My mom got pregnant with her first just a week after stopping her BC. My sister had an "oops" baby after having unprotected sex with her boyfriend like one time. My DH's sister is the REAL fertile one, omg... She has gotten pregnant even while on different kinds of birth controls! The Pill and the IUD. I have the ultimate regular menstrual cycle and I know exactly when I'm ovulating, have the same length of cycles each month, etc. I would think I'd be the ultimate candidate for NFP because I'm so in tune with everything going on, but I think my DH just sees it as I'm super fertile instead. lol. Oh well...

post #25 of 47

I just didn't like it mostly. The insertion sucked cause the Dr had to dilate my cervix and made a small tear in the process. I never had predictable periods and had random spotting. Also, I had bad acne, zero sex drive, and my dh says I was kinda bitchy while I had it. I didn't have serious problems but all the little things made me have it taken out. I had the mirena.
 

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Would you mind sharing your IUD experience? 

 


 

 

post #26 of 47


Ugh.  See, any hormonal BC completely takes away my sex drive.  I am not really a sex kitten to begin with, to put it nicely, but to have ZERO drive is not okay with me (or my DH!)  

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I just didn't like it mostly. The insertion sucked cause the Dr had to dilate my cervix and made a small tear in the process. I never had predictable periods and had random spotting. Also, I had bad acne, zero sex drive, and my dh says I was kinda bitchy while I had it. I didn't have serious problems but all the little things made me have it taken out. I had the mirena. 

 

 



 

post #27 of 47

Women in my family are super fertile as well.   My mom has wacky cycles, sometimes only 2 per year, and she always got pregnant really quick.  My sister and I have always been successful with NFP, then get pregnant on the first try.  It is possible, but as with everything, there's a risk.  I too might consider an IUD after this baby.  While we might want another baby, we want to wait a few years. 
 

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I wish my DH was willing to try NFP. There has never been a single intimate moment in our relationship when he gave in and had "complete" intercourse with me without a condom except when we decided to start a family and I got pregnant on the first try. We have very fertile families and I think it makes him paranoid. The women on my side get pregnant on the first try each time. My mom got pregnant with her first just a week after stopping her BC. My sister had an "oops" baby after having unprotected sex with her boyfriend like one time. My DH's sister is the REAL fertile one, omg... She has gotten pregnant even while on different kinds of birth controls! The Pill and the IUD. I have the ultimate regular menstrual cycle and I know exactly when I'm ovulating, have the same length of cycles each month, etc. I would think I'd be the ultimate candidate for NFP because I'm so in tune with everything going on, but I think my DH just sees it as I'm super fertile instead. lol. Oh well...



 

post #28 of 47

I had a really bad experience with an IUD after my daughter was born and had issues with the pill before she was conceived, so both of those are out for me. I never got my period back after my daughter and got pregnant the first time I ovulated at 22 months PP. We want another kid (at least one more), so we'll likely just be using FAM and avoiding when we don't want to get pregnant.

post #29 of 47

After my cycles resumed with my son I got the copper IUD. Within 3 months I was pregnant - with the IUD, still in place, allegedly doing its job. I miscarried at 5 weeks and had the IUD removed once the bleeding stopped. We switched to fertility awareness which worked for 7 months. On the 8th month we knowingly decided to roll the dice, and I got pregnant immediately. We'll go back to fertility awareness, with maybe some condoms thrown in after my cycles resume. Luckily with my son, that didn't happen until 19 months!

post #30 of 47


Gah, I have unfortunately heard too many stories about IUD pregnancies.  I'm sorry that happened to you!  

 

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After my cycles resumed with my son I got the copper IUD. Within 3 months I was pregnant - with the IUD, still in place, allegedly doing its job. I miscarried at 5 weeks and had the IUD removed once the bleeding stopped. We switched to fertility awareness which worked for 7 months. On the 8th month we knowingly decided to roll the dice, and I got pregnant immediately. We'll go back to fertility awareness, with maybe some condoms thrown in after my cycles resume. Luckily with my son, that didn't happen until 19 months!



 

post #31 of 47
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Originally Posted by jbk21 View Post

I don't know... I feel like vasectomies are pretty safe as far as medical procedures go.  The way I think of it, the chance of complication (and that includes minor, temporary complications) is 4-5%. Risks in low-risk births aren't much lower than that (3% by most estimates, and those are more serious complications, life/death whereas that is not usually a complication of vasectomies). But I choose to birth out of the hospital even given that risk margin.  I think it's safe to assume that if you get an amazing urologist that is highly recommended and very experienced that everything will be fine.  I wonder if some of the complications of the big V aren't due to family docs and other health professionals performing them.  So all in all I feel comfortable with the procedure, and my husband feels like it is very safe as well.


I guess I'm less sure...  I had read this thread a while back and would like dh to use the information contained there as a starting point for some research before just blindly doing it.  When I think of the complications of birth I usually hear 5%, but most of these are minor complications easily dealt with by a trained professional.  The major life/death complications are exceedingly rare in births that are allowed to progress naturally b/c birth is something that our bodies are designed to do.  With vasectomies the risks may be rare as well, but it's not a natural thing so the complications then become something that the man is living with daily.  Maybe you're right about the urologist thing, but I guess I sort of assumed that most people go to a recommended urologist these days.   I dunno... the whole thing just bothers me, but then again I don't really have a valid alternative.

 

post #32 of 47


Totally- it's all about our own comfort with the risks involved, as with anything.  The way I think of it (I'm not challenging you, rather, I'm kind of asking to be challenged so I know I've thought of everything) the major long-term complication of vasectomy is sexual dysfunction.  Other issues, such as allergic reaction, epididymitis, chronic orchialagia, hematoma, sperm granulomas, etc. all are treatable and clear up over time.  However, sexual dysfunction post-vasectomy has also been linked to psychological causes so while the V might be the instigating incident, it is not the cause of impotence.  Re: who is performing the procedure.  If you take a look at something like hematomas, there is a definite correlation between how many Vs are performed each year by the practitioner and the risk of hematoma.  It varies from 1% for experienced urologists to upwards of 6% for less experienced doctors. So it might be worth finding a very experienced, highly recommended and respected urologist in the area and asking for specific numbers regarding complications, treatment options, etc.  There is also a link between the type of vasectomy performed and certain complications.  

 

ETA: I had read through that thread before (I think you had shared it previously in another thread) and while there are a few complications mentioned, those are all issues that have treatment options and go away with time, they're not at all permanent.  And generally speaking, I try not to read a lot of anecdotal stuff... I trust the studies and just like with birth stories, it doesn't help me to read a lot of horror stories.  You know?  orngbiggrin.gif  I might be insensitive to think that my DH can handle a few months of abdominal pain if need be.... But if he is comfortable with that risk, then so be it.  I think it will be worth it for us in the long run because in our 4 years of marriage we've conceived two oops babies and it really affects our sex life when we're not pregnant.  We're always worried about getting pregnant or having to use condoms (YUCK).  So I feel like being free to enjoy intimacy again will be a boon for our marriage.  

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I guess I'm less sure...  I had read this thread a while back and would like dh to use the information contained there as a starting point for some research before just blindly doing it.  When I think of the complications of birth I usually hear 5%, but most of these are minor complications easily dealt with by a trained professional.  The major life/death complications are exceedingly rare in births that are allowed to progress naturally b/c birth is something that our bodies are designed to do.  With vasectomies the risks may be rare as well, but it's not a natural thing so the complications then become something that the man is living with daily.  Maybe you're right about the urologist thing, but I guess I sort of assumed that most people go to a recommended urologist these days.   I dunno... the whole thing just bothers me, but then again I don't really have a valid alternative.

 



 


Edited by jbk21 - 10/4/11 at 12:34pm
post #33 of 47
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 I think it will be worth it for us in the long run because in our 4 years of marriage we've conceived two oops babies and it really affects our sex life when we're not pregnant.  We're always worried about getting pregnant or having to use condoms (YUCK).  So I feel like being free to enjoy intimacy again will be a boon for our marriage.  

 

This is what dh thinks as well since we also had two oops babies.  I just really want him to do the research first and he's really not into it.  He'll do his own research for his job as a college professor, but when it comes to things in his personal life he doesn't like to research.
 

 

post #34 of 47
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Originally Posted by Jaimee View Post

This is what dh thinks as well since we also had two oops babies.  I just really want him to do the research first and he's really not into it.  He'll do his own research for his job as a college professor, but when it comes to things in his personal life he doesn't like to research. 

 



hahaha! MEN!  winky.gif

post #35 of 47

our birth control = staying away from sperm!  (the joy of a same-sex relationship!)

post #36 of 47

I wish BF worked for me! I'm jealous of a lot of you ladies! I get my period right back after PP bleeding stops and I have two kids 13 months apart to prove it. We are VERY careful around here anymore. I don't trust pills or IUDs (too many stories). We use condoms and timing.

post #37 of 47
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our birth control = staying away from sperm!  (the joy of a same-sex relationship!)


L-U-C-K-Y.  Is it too late to become a lesbian?  lol.gif  Completely safe, 100% guaranteed BC.   orngtongue.gif

 

post #38 of 47

I have an idea: how about they come up with some form of birth control that doesn't totally suck?! lol.gif I am so not looking forward to dealing with it again. I seriously haven't had to think about it for years until I met dp. I opted for the staying away from sperm method for five years after my divorce. I feel like I've tried everything other than the Mirena. And an "oops" #5 is just silliness... we know how it happens by now! winky.gif So I've got to do something. I'm so paranoid about getting pregnant again, I want to be on something like now! 

 

Oh, J, I can totally relate to the sex drive thing. Anything that lowers it is out of the picture. That will not work. I'm looking forward to things getting back on track in that department rather than worse. I mean, I'm still making it happen now, but it's just pretty hysterical. I'm so huge and my hips hurt... the options are limited. So I'm awaiting the return of my normal, more comfortable body. 

post #39 of 47

I just had to laugh!  I know some mamas still manage to have fairly normal sex during pregnancy but I'm not one of them!  It is pretty hysterical- you're right.  Huge belly, aching hips, and without fail I have to pee like halfway through the whole thing.  It doesn't help that I don't *feel* sexy, either.  It all seems rather comical....

 

Seriously though, we need an awesome BC plan because we both get used to not having to use condoms during pregnancy.  It might be one of the only good things about sex during pregnancy, lol!

 

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I have an idea: how about they come up with some form of birth control that doesn't totally suck?! lol.gif I am so not looking forward to dealing with it again. I seriously haven't had to think about it for years until I met dp. I opted for the staying away from sperm method for five years after my divorce. I feel like I've tried everything other than the Mirena. And an "oops" #5 is just silliness... we know how it happens by now! winky.gif So I've got to do something. I'm so paranoid about getting pregnant again, I want to be on something like now! 

 

Oh, J, I can totally relate to the sex drive thing. Anything that lowers it is out of the picture. That will not work. I'm looking forward to things getting back on track in that department rather than worse. I mean, I'm still making it happen now, but it's just pretty hysterical. I'm so huge and my hips hurt... the options are limited. So I'm awaiting the return of my normal, more comfortable body. 



 

post #40 of 47
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I just had to laugh!  I know some mamas still manage to have fairly normal sex during pregnancy but I'm not one of them!  It is pretty hysterical- you're right.  Huge belly, aching hips, and without fail I have to pee like halfway through the whole thing.  It doesn't help that I don't *feel* sexy, either.  It all seems rather comical....

 

Seriously though, we need an awesome BC plan because we both get used to not having to use condoms during pregnancy.  It might be one of the only good things about sex during pregnancy, lol!

 

 


Oh, the having to pee. "But, honey, you just peed two minutes ago?!?!" And yeah, I don't feel sexy at all. Most positions are out just because of, well, my size. But some are ruled out just because I know I will look like a cow. :)

 

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