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[Peony]

The pumpkin pie in a bowl, amazing. I think I love you Becky for sharing that. I didn't have corn flakes so I used Grape Nuts, still good. 

I *could* DTD. Baby stops screaming about 8:30ish and sleeps on the couch until I go to bed but that is when I get everything done. Clean up from dinner, pack up school lunches, etc... I think he slept form 10-almost 4 last night! I don't remember waking up at all during that time, it is possible I did, but hey, if I don't remember at all then it doesn't count. Course he didn't go back to bed after that so that was all the sleep I got. 

[Lynann]

Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes 

Re: DTD - still haven't.  It's been 7 weeks and I'm too scared.  Plus -- when are you guys finding the time?  Dax is cluster feeding at night and is on my boob from 8 til practically 10 at night, and if I'm lucky he lets me put him down.  By then I'm so touched out the last thing I want is physical attention.  It's difficult to WANT to have sex.  

Re: sleeping babies - LET 'EM SLEEP!  If they're hungry they'll wake up.

I know how you feel Carrie, although I'm only just about to hit 4 weeks, so I've a ways to go before DTD is even possible. Seth cluster feeds in the evenings too, and by the time I crawl in bed I'm so touched out from the day and then the feeding that I just want to be left alone to sleep. DH will very sweetly roll over and cuddle up with me and tell me how much he misses me etc etc etc. I try to be nice about it, but he just doesn't get that I'm touched out and want to be left alone. For now I have an out, as I still have one little skid mark that is raw and tender at times. Until I can pee without thinking about that skid mark there is no way DH is getting near me to DTD. A friend did say it took almost 8 weeks for hers to completely heal, that was in the same spot. So for now DH knows it could be another 4 weeks before I'll even consider it, and then he is still going to have to pick his time very carefully. Right now I feel like I would be happy to never DTD again, but that is only because I was up most of last night with Seth and am trying to get by on about 2 hours of sleep.

I agree on letting sleeping babies sleep. They wake up when they need something, so enjoy the extra sleep while its offered.

[Baby_Cakes]

Originally Posted by Peony 

The pumpkin pie in a bowl, amazing. I think I love you Becky for sharing that. I didn't have corn flakes so I used Grape Nuts, still good. 

Ok that made me go back and click the link and OMG.  That looks delicious!!  It's 6 points but whatever!!  Pumpkin pie in a bowl!?  I might have to try that SOON!! <3  NTM there was a link for vegan whipped cream that will be perfect for real pumpkin pie around thanksgiving time!!  Yay!

I ordered some nursing tops today at motherhood.com, they're a little flowy-er in the midsection.  I'm still just a little too self conscious about my fat rolls, I need something I can wear to look presentable.  They were on sale too.

Lyn, glad to know I'm not alone on the whole touched out thing.  Hopefully soon we feel like having some fun, lol.

[Tear78]

I hear you ladies about waiting to DTD. This first time was at about 11 weeks PP, and then only because we moved DD's crib to her own room. We've been sleeping a lot better since then too, and is probably why the 8-hour sleep stretches are happening. Which leads me to...

It seems right to let her sleep, but today, after 4 days of weight plateau, her weight went DOWN an ounce. I'm starving my baby!!! The thing is she does show hunger cues during the 8 hours, but she doesn't wake up, and doesn't cry. I called our ped and am waiting to hear back, but what do you ladies think? If your baby is showing hunger cues in their sleep do you wake them to feed? I'm so worried and I feel like an awful mommy!

ETA - just got off the phone with the ped. He's not concerned. He said that at her age now he look at weight gain over a range of 4-6 weeks to see if there's a problem. Since she's cheerful during the day, and still peeing and pooping, and feeding happily during the day, he said absolutely let her sleep. He said her rooting in her sleep may be even reflexive. I guess, Carlyle, you're right: we shouldn't be using the scale daily anymore. It's my new charting addiction I guess. This probably belongs in confessions, but I was also nervous he would tell me we should wake her up: I'm loving this SLEEP!
Edited by Tear78 - 10/4/11 at 10:43am

[Beckily]

Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes 

Great, now I want pumpkin pie!  LOL!  Becky, I'm so jealous of your bag of chips and cookies.  I want.  Badly.

Re: DTD - still haven't.  It's been 7 weeks and I'm too scared.  Plus -- when are you guys finding the time?  Dax is cluster feeding at night and is on my boob from 8 til practically 10 at night, and if I'm lucky he lets me put him down.  By then I'm so touched out the last thing I want is physical attention.  It's difficult to WANT to have sex.  

Re: sleeping babies - LET 'EM SLEEP!  If they're hungry they'll wake up.

I'm having birthday pumpkin pie. Oh yes. Oh yes. Mm. And yes! I think I'm gaining weight ;) I weighed less than pre-preg right after birth, so serves me right, I supposed.

We had sex after 3 weeks. It was just when I got this infection that it hurt enough not to, but we're good again. I still have some pain but PFT.

We do a hilarious dance of putting the baby down and rushing. Is it romantic? No! Is there foreplay? .. No! But it works and is fun :) And then we scurry to go pick up the baby who always wakes up at the worst possible time ;)
 

[bethany42309]

I may have to try the pumpkin pie in a bowl too! 

I had my 6 week pp appt today, everything went well.  I'm down 14 lbs from my pre-pregnancy weight!  That's the lowest I've weighed in 5 years almost!  I'd like to lose about 27 more...goal weight of 140 lbs.  I think I can, I think I can, I think I can....

[jillybeans]

You guys crack me up, always. I've been SOOOO busy and miss reading your stories daily! Life with four kids is well, insane. lol! And so is getting put in charge (involuntarily) of your preschooler's homecoming parade float. Sheesh.

Whaaaaattttt?? Pumpkin pie in a bowl? DUDE. Off to find this link.

Tear, YAY for sleep mama, you deserve it!!!!

I know there were some of you with prolapse concerns and i wanted to pop in and give you courage! This is my fourth birth in six years, my prolapse wasn't very nice looking, and I was very nervous about how things would go. Starting on day one postpartum I started doing kegels three times a day, with each time having ten, 10-sec reps. I didn't think it would have done a damned thing with how bad it looked. BUT...my ob AND my pelvic floor chiro both yesterday told me that it looks better down there (muscularly at least) than 95% of women WITHOUT a prolapse at 6 weeks postpartum! So...do those kegels! They work! I set the timer on my phone to remind me during the day even.

[Beckily]

Originally Posted by Peony 

The pumpkin pie in a bowl, amazing. I think I love you Becky for sharing that. I didn't have corn flakes so I used Grape Nuts, still good. 

I *could* DTD. Baby stops screaming about 8:30ish and sleeps on the couch until I go to bed but that is when I get everything done. Clean up from dinner, pack up school lunches, etc... I think he slept form 10-almost 4 last night! I don't remember waking up at all during that time, it is possible I did, but hey, if I don't remember at all then it doesn't count. Course he didn't go back to bed after that so that was all the sleep I got. 

I somehow missed this.

It's really good? I'm extremely concerned about blending cereal. It seems wrong somehow. But. I guess it does need something to make it not just pumpkin....
 

[SouthernStormy]

Magnolia has been asleep since a little after 6pm (its now midnight). Of course I did not sleep during this time and used it to get things done (and play on the computer). I foresee a very exhausting night ahead. Luckily I don't have anything to do tomorrow so I can nap when she does if she keeps me up all night.

[Baby_Cakes]

Originally Posted by SouthernStormy 

Magnolia has been asleep since a little after 6pm (its now midnight). Of course I did not sleep during this time and used it to get things done (and play on the computer). I foresee a very exhausting night ahead. Luckily I don't have anything to do tomorrow so I can nap when she does if she keeps me up all night.

How did it go?  Last night was rough around here.  Finn just wouldn't settle anywhere, he was very grunty and whiny and just ugh.  After 2 am it was all downhill and we probably got 2-3 hours of broken sleep.  I'm a zombie today and very grouchy.  I need a reset but I can't seem to get out of my bad mood.

Edited by Baby_Cakes - 10/5/11 at 9:28am

[Tear78]

ugh, sorry Carrie! I hope you both get a nice long nap!

Well, we had another wonderful long night of sleep...and another OUNCE of weight loss. This is not worth it! I can't believe the doc would want to wait weeks if she keeps losing weight! She has started getting fussy when we pull her off the boob/bottle to burp her, like she's starving! Right now she drank 4.5 oz that I pumped yesterday, and now she's hungrily sucking my empty, pumped-out breasts for more. Will my body start making more milk during the day?

[Baby_Cakes]

Tear, are you dreamfeeding? You could try that if you aren't.  Basically even if she's asleep, pick her up and feed her and she'll sleep thru the feeding and go right back to sleep.  It might help.  I'm so sorry she's losing weight.  

Naps don't exist in my world.  I hate it, but they just don't.  Unless I can get someone to take Nora for the day, I can't ever get a nap.  So, coffee and diet coke it is.

[nald1]

Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes 

Tear, are you dreamfeeding? You could try that if you aren't.  Basically even if she's asleep, pick her up and feed her and she'll sleep thru the feeding and go right back to sleep.  It might help.  I'm so sorry she's losing weight.  

Naps don't exist in my world.  I hate it, but they just don't.  Unless I can get someone to take Nora for the day, I can't ever get a nap.  So, coffee and diet coke it is.

thank God for coffee

[Baby_Cakes]

Originally Posted by nald1 

thank God for coffee

Amen!!

O/T -- Anyone else's hair start falling out?  I forgot how annoying it is.  I'm finding my long hairs everywhere!!! 

[Tear78]

Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes 

O/T -- Anyone else's hair start falling out?  I forgot how annoying it is.  I'm finding my long hairs everywhere!!! 

YES! Thank goodness my sister warned me about that one, lol...

I've never tried dream feeding. I might end up doing that if this continues. She needs to stay vertical for at least 20 min after feeding, though, so we'll see. I've decided to treat today like a growth spurt and let her nurse constantly even when the milk is gone. Maybe then my daytime supply will ramp up and she'll get more at each feeding.

[Baby_Cakes]

I sit up to feed finn sometimes if he's cranky in his sleep but not waking up.  Most of our nighttime feedings are in the recliner, and end with him sleeping (vertically) on me, his head in my neck.  Slowwwwly I recline back so i'm comfy enough to fall asleep too.  Not the most comfortable way to sleep, but no puke so far.  Good luck, though, mama, if he wasn't gaining I'd be heartbroken as well.  And confused.  

[Peony]

I'm watching Dance Moms while reading through the responses, OMG, those poor kids. I have a kid that does competitive dance on a team (of her own begging, not something I would choose) but not like that! Those people are crazy. Ok, back to talking about babies.

Tear- Try nursing her while she is asleep. When they are in a light sleep cycle, wiggling, you see the REM going on, it is a good time to try to sticking them on. 

Still fussy here. I drove 30 miles each way to take DS1 to a playgroup run by a speech therapist. It is amazing. The baby didn't think so. I'm going to have to figure out how to make that work 1-2 times a week. 

[Beckily]

How do you know you've emptied a side?

He can nurse one side forever, more than an hour, and it still has milk. I've never not had milk when I tested. Do they all empty?

[Baby_Cakes]

AFAIK, your breast is never truly "empty".  It might not feel or be full, but the ducts are always refilling.  As long as LO suckles at the breast eventually another let down should occur.  

http://www.kellymom.com/bf/supply/milkproduction-faq.html

"

Do breasts need time to refill?

Many people mistakenly think of a mother's milk supply as being like "flesh-covered bottles" that are completely emptied and then need time to refill before baby nurses again.This is simply not how we understand milk production to function.

First of all, milk is being produced at all times, so the breast is never empty. Research has shown that babies do not take all the milk available from the breast - the amount that baby drinks depends upon his appetite. The amount of milk removed from the breast varies from feed to feed, but averages around 75-80% of the available milk."

Edited by Baby_Cakes - 10/5/11 at 3:22pm

[Tear78]

Beckily, I agree with Carrie. I've noticed that if she pulls off before the majority of milk is gone, and I try to express milk, it will come spraying out in a stream. If she pulls off again in a little bit, more milk comes out but it just dribbles out at best.