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post #41 of 85
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Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes View Post

How did it go?  Last night was rough around here.  Finn just wouldn't settle anywhere, he was very grunty and whiny and just ugh.  After 2 am it was all downhill and we probably got 2-3 hours of broken sleep.  I'm a zombie today and very grouchy.  I need a reset but I can't seem to get out of my bad mood.


It was an interesting night. I stayed up til 2am texting with an old friend I hadn't talked to in awhile. At 1:30 am I accidentally called my mom back when I was trying to check voicemails. woops. thats what i get for trying to figure out DH's iphone that time of the morning. Mags woke up at 3:30- while I was feeding her mom called but I didn't answer. She called me back again at 5:30 am and I answered to let her know we were ok. I fed Mags and we laid back down til 8:00- at that point there was no getting her back to sleep. So it wasn't a great not, but not horrible either.

Hope Mr. Finn sleeps better for you tonight!
post #42 of 85

Gosh I feel like I haven't been on here in forever!! I have been a busy momma. I do find time to get on facebook though and I love that we have a group I can post in to stay in touch that way.

 

I see everyones life still consist of not a lot of sleep and breast feeding. Nothing much has changed here either! lol Jude has started sleeping about 6 to 7 hours straight most nights, which is nice. At first it freaked me out and I was also worried he wasn't getting enough to eat but he is still gaining. When he does eat at night I stick him on before he wakes up. He makes obnoxiously loud smacking noises in his sleep when hes hungry. I've never heard it called dream feeding before but I guess that is what we are doing. It works and he hardly ever has to cry at night and he stays asleep which is nice.

 

Yeah my breasts are never empty either. Sometimes it feels that way but there is always something that will trickle out.

 

I see some of you are back to DTD again. DH is about to have a breakdown but I am sooo nervous.. I will be 8 weeks PP on Friday and I am nervous its going to hurt but I also just honestly don't feel in the mood. After having a baby attatched to the front of me all day, trying to keep up with laundry and other house work, and trying to feed and clean myself all I want to do is veg out in my free time. I feel really bad for DH as this is the longest he has ever went without. I may just have to take one for the team.. lol

 

I have been having issues with leaks at night. It is so annoying to have to change his clothes EVERY night. I don't want to jinx it but I do believe I my have figured out my problem. I think I was putting the diapers on too tight and it was causing compression leaks. So we haven't had any leaks the last 2 nights. I really hope this continues.

 

I hope things are going well with everyone. I am going to try to get on here more and stay caught up but we will see.

post #43 of 85

i found this and it was awesome in reducing crankiness... we do not have a whit noise machine etc so in case you don't either, give this a try.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fN64r2dFR9M

 

post #44 of 85

I rarely have jets and if I don't, they're not very dramatic. Just from one hole. He gets tons of milk, though. Eh. Boobs be mysterious :)

post #45 of 85
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YES! Thank goodness my sister warned me about that one, lol...
I've never tried dream feeding. I might end up doing that if this continues. She needs to stay vertical for at least 20 min after feeding, though, so we'll see. I've decided to treat today like a growth spurt and let her nurse constantly even when the milk is gone. Maybe then my daytime supply will ramp up and she'll get more at each feeding. fingersx.gif


The hair loss: I know, right???  It scared me the first time around--I thought something was wrong with me!

 

About dream feeding--you might find that she doesn't need to be vertical if she doesn't totally wake up.  I don't know 'cause my kids weren't as refluxy as Anika, but they did seem to settle and not have nearly as much burping/spitting problems as during the day.  I do think your daytime supply will ramp up if you let her nurse a LOT and offer constantly during the day.  Offer the dream feed idea during naps (you mentioned that she was napping on you for 2 hours the other day--try dream feeding in there too--they can nurse even when they're totally asleep.   Also, make sure YOU are drinking TONS of water, and eating lots of good for you food.  Also Oatmeal helps boost supply.  I can send you more tea if you want too.  I love you!  Hooray for sleep!

 

Once you start back to work, though it might be harder to nurse enough (pump enough) during the day to keep that up?  Just food for future thought.  For now...SLEEP!

 

post #46 of 85
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So I've decided to try to give up soy.  Wish me luck.  I'm not sure how this is going to go, but damnit, I'm tired of puke!  And if this can help, it's worth a shot!  So, vegan with no soy on weight watchers.  I just hope I'm not starving all the damn time.  LOL.

 

Chris was saying last night that if Finn *IS* sensitive to soy, it's a damn good thing he doesn't have galactosemia, otherwise he'd be on that awful beef based formula.  As vegans, that would be a tough pill to swallow.  grossedout.gif

 

I took both kids to whole foods today and it went great.  The worst is just Finn screaming in the car.  I feel AWFUL for him and wish I could do something, but I can't.  I sing and talk to him, and Nora sings, "Baby calm down, baby calm down" the whole time, but it's just very ...awful.  There's no other word.  But I can't be homebound!  When do they outgrow this?  mecry.gif

 

But in the store he slept the whole time and Nora behaved, having to go potty only once.  I felt fine there, got what we needed, and got home.  No dilly dallying!  LOL!  Oh - in the bathroom a woman commented on Finn in my wrap, and thought he was 6 MONTHS old based on his size rather than the 6 weeks old that I told her.  I said he was 9 lbs when he was born and she said, "Oh, a c-section?' and I said, "No, a natural home birth!" and she goes, "Wow, you are my hero!"  and then said that she would have loved to do that but her husband wouldn't get on board.  That's a pity, huh?  I just said it was an amazing experience, and totally different for both of my babies, who were both born at home, and she just gave me the best look.  And congratulated me and said good luck and all that.  Nice convo.  

post #47 of 85

Good luck on the soy Carrie. We have the carseat screaming as well. I had to drop one of DD1's classmates off at gymnastics the other day. The drive over from school the baby was screaming as usual, the poor boy in the back was like, um, what is wrong with him? I got the vibe that he was going to tell his mom not to make him ride with us again! A family in our neighborhood kept asking me to drive their DD around lately, I think the mom felt bad because every single time I dropped her off, baby was screaming in the car. Now she has been offering to drive DD1 home from school on Fridays for us!! Baby is happily passed out on top of me right now instead of wailing in the car. 

 

 

post #48 of 85

Carrie- good luck- my husband always asks about soy when we wonder what's causing gas etc and I SOOO dont want to take on that challenge right now (really ever)- I cant tolerate cow's milk.  Ill be curious to see what you are eating and how Finn is doing - I hope it really helps you both :)

post #49 of 85

For those of you who have LOs sleeping well at night, how long is your LO napping during the day?  Tired today- and EVERY day- and just looking for a glimmer of hope here and there :)

post #50 of 85

My little guy usually has a 6-7 hour sleep at night, and has a couple of awake spells in the daytime. He's just turned 1 month old (yesterday) so I know he'll get more and more awake time as he grows. DS1 is still a good sleeper too. He is 16 months and still has 2 naps of about 2 hours each AND sleeps 12 hours at night. DS2 can be up for up to 2 hours between sleeps, but that is usually just when he is having gas/reflux issues. I am looking forward to DS2 being awake more during the day and becoming more active, but for now I'll enjoy the sleep I can get.

 

DH thinks we have such good sleepers because we have a quiet and peaceful home. We don't have TV, rarely listen to the radio and I stay home all week, keeping the boys in a predictable routine. However I think we just got "lucky" having babies who like to sleep, plus I don't know if I could survive the 15 month gap between them if I didn't get at least a little nap overlap once a day. DS1 isn't quite walking yet, and can only say a handful of words, so I really have 2 babies to look after, just that they're at different stages. Also with a house move at the end of this month I'd go truly insane if my boys didn't sleep well.

post #51 of 85

we are sleeping well at night time. Once she is down, she sleeps till 8am, and the latest she has stayed up is 12ish, usually by 10 she fades out. There are couple of feedings through the night, but she is barely awake for them, if she wakes up she goes out as she finishes eating (drunk!). But day time is a hit or miss. sometimes she takes 5 - 10 min power naps and wakes up all fresh to eat again... we do watch some tv at nights, and i m home two days during the week i think that is preventing her from reverse cycling so far.

post #52 of 85

I am with you all 100% that car rides with a screaming baby are just about the saddest thing. With both Clementine (when she was a baby) and Malcolm I just make sure my hands are washed before the trip and reach back and let them suck on my pinky. Works perfect, although my arms are freakishly flexible, so it might be harder for some. I made sire to buy a car with an automatic transmission for just this reason ROTFLMAO.gif

post #53 of 85

Every kid of mine seems to arrive hard wired to only cat nap, day or night. You would think that eventually I'd get a good sleeper, apparently not so. 

post #54 of 85
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For those of you who have LOs sleeping well at night, how long is your LO napping during the day?  Tired today- and EVERY day- and just looking for a glimmer of hope here and there :)


A looong time. Yesterday she had several 2-3 hr naps. Usually when she was awake it was less than an hour at a time. She woke up yesterday evening was awake long enough for me to change her diaper and feed her and go to the store. Once we were at the store she feel asleep. Woke up when we got home, was up for maybe an hour- hour an half. Around 10:30 I changed her, put her in a sleeper, swaddled and feed her and she was out. She woke up around 3 or 4ish and took a couple ounces, woke up again at 7:00 and took a couple ounces and we both went back to sleep until almost 10. Its now 12 and she's out again.
post #55 of 85
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Originally Posted by Peony View Post

Every kid of mine seems to arrive hard wired to only cat nap, day or night. You would think that eventually I'd get a good sleeper, apparently not so. 



My first only cat napped during the day since birth- she NEVER took good naps- BUT she eventually slept so well at night that I gave up on the naps.  I am thrown by this this little guy since he'll take a two hr and 3 hr nap and then sleep about 5 hrs (sometimes 4) straight at night - for me that's not bad for 6 weeks old - but i know it'll change!

post #56 of 85
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A looong time. Yesterday she had several 2-3 hr naps. Usually when she was awake it was less than an hour at a time. She woke up yesterday evening was awake long enough for me to change her diaper and feed her and go to the store. Once we were at the store she feel asleep. Woke up when we got home, was up for maybe an hour- hour an half. Around 10:30 I changed her, put her in a sleeper, swaddled and feed her and she was out. She woke up around 3 or 4ish and took a couple ounces, woke up again at 7:00 and took a couple ounces and we both went back to sleep until almost 10. Its now 12 and she's out again.


I want me some of THAT!!!!!

post #57 of 85

I am so jealous reading these posts about babies sleeping such long stretches! I finally set up our crib side-carred and it makes our queen bed feel so much bigger. River and I have been getting better at nursing lying down and I've actually fallen asleep a couple of times before he was done nursing. So even though he still wakes up a bunch at night, we both go back to sleep much more quickly.  

 

For those of you who nurse lying down in bed, how do you nurse your 'other' boob? I can't seem to figure out how to nurse with the top boob (maybe b/c they are so small.. A/B cup), so I end up moving River over to my other side each time he wakes up, and then just nursing on the bottom boob.

 

We're still dealing with car seat screaming too, but it's not always happening so I like to think that he's learning more positive associations with the car. I think the problem is that he doesn't like to be strapped down for more than a minute or two. He would cry like that if I left him in his bouncy chair for too long too, and is used to being held or in a carrier almost all day. 

 

Well, AFM, my MIL is leaving tomorrow morning after staying for a week and I'm proud of myself for not making a fuss out of her stay even though she drives me bonkers. She hasn't really held DS very much, but every time she does she talks about how she hopes she doesn't drop him because her wrists are in such bad shape. I told her 'if you think you're going to drop him, you should sit on the couch and hold him,' and she just laughs like it's the funniest joke ever. Oh yeah, and she also says that her 2 sons never cried like DS does.  Sure they didn't! 

 

And it's hard to even think about, but I have to go back to work tomorrow. For the next 5 weeks I'm working M, Th & Fri from 8-1 and then doing a few hours from home too. And DS still won't take the bottle... and he is used to eating every 1.5 hours. Actually, even counting nights, he has literally never gone more than 4.5 hours without eating in his life.  I hope it's not too hard on DS and DH tomorrow, but I fully expect a frantic call telling me I need to come home and feed him. Ugh! 

post #58 of 85
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I am so jealous reading these posts about babies sleeping such long stretches! I finally set up our crib side-carred and it makes our queen bed feel so much bigger. River and I have been getting better at nursing lying down and I've actually fallen asleep a couple of times before he was done nursing. So even though he still wakes up a bunch at night, we both go back to sleep much more quickly.  

 

For those of you who nurse lying down in bed, how do you nurse your 'other' boob? I can't seem to figure out how to nurse with the top boob (maybe b/c they are so small.. A/B cup), so I end up moving River over to my other side each time he wakes up, and then just nursing on the bottom boob.

 

We're still dealing with car seat screaming too, but it's not always happening so I like to think that he's learning more positive associations with the car. I think the problem is that he doesn't like to be strapped down for more than a minute or two. He would cry like that if I left him in his bouncy chair for too long too, and is used to being held or in a carrier almost all day. 

 

Well, AFM, my MIL is leaving tomorrow morning after staying for a week and I'm proud of myself for not making a fuss out of her stay even though she drives me bonkers. She hasn't really held DS very much, but every time she does she talks about how she hopes she doesn't drop him because her wrists are in such bad shape. I told her 'if you think you're going to drop him, you should sit on the couch and hold him,' and she just laughs like it's the funniest joke ever. Oh yeah, and she also says that her 2 sons never cried like DS does.  Sure they didn't! 

 

And it's hard to even think about, but I have to go back to work tomorrow. For the next 5 weeks I'm working M, Th & Fri from 8-1 and then doing a few hours from home too. And DS still won't take the bottle... and he is used to eating every 1.5 hours. Actually, even counting nights, he has literally never gone more than 4.5 hours without eating in his life.  I hope it's not too hard on DS and DH tomorrow, but I fully expect a frantic call telling me I need to come home and feed him. Ugh! 


My boobs are a lot bigger than yours - DDD - but, while I can feed with the top boob, it's uncomfy. I just hug him to my chest, roll over and deposit him on the other side and do the bottom one ;)He usually sleeps through the roll if my ninja skills are sharp. This will probably change when he starts rolling over and such, since I won't want him by the side of the bed.

 

I think that if he has no choice, he'll take the bottle. Probably the first few days will suck for all involved. I'm so sorry :(

 

post #59 of 85
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Originally Posted by cat13 View Post

I am so jealous reading these posts about babies sleeping such long stretches! I finally set up our crib side-carred and it makes our queen bed feel so much bigger. River and I have been getting better at nursing lying down and I've actually fallen asleep a couple of times before he was done nursing. So even though he still wakes up a bunch at night, we both go back to sleep much more quickly.  

 

For those of you who nurse lying down in bed, how do you nurse your 'other' boob? I can't seem to figure out how to nurse with the top boob (maybe b/c they are so small.. A/B cup), so I end up moving River over to my other side each time he wakes up, and then just nursing on the bottom boob.

 

We're still dealing with car seat screaming too, but it's not always happening so I like to think that he's learning more positive associations with the car. I think the problem is that he doesn't like to be strapped down for more than a minute or two. He would cry like that if I left him in his bouncy chair for too long too, and is used to being held or in a carrier almost all day. 

 

Well, AFM, my MIL is leaving tomorrow morning after staying for a week and I'm proud of myself for not making a fuss out of her stay even though she drives me bonkers. She hasn't really held DS very much, but every time she does she talks about how she hopes she doesn't drop him because her wrists are in such bad shape. I told her 'if you think you're going to drop him, you should sit on the couch and hold him,' and she just laughs like it's the funniest joke ever. Oh yeah, and she also says that her 2 sons never cried like DS does.  Sure they didn't! 

 

And it's hard to even think about, but I have to go back to work tomorrow. For the next 5 weeks I'm working M, Th & Fri from 8-1 and then doing a few hours from home too. And DS still won't take the bottle... and he is used to eating every 1.5 hours. Actually, even counting nights, he has literally never gone more than 4.5 hours without eating in his life.  I hope it's not too hard on DS and DH tomorrow, but I fully expect a frantic call telling me I need to come home and feed him. Ugh! 


I can speak as a small breasted woman :)- I find the top boob easier for some reason.  I prop him under bottom arm and lie on my side- it does hurt my back, but it "works"....

 

post #60 of 85

cat13 - i too used to move from one side to another at the beginning but that changed as we got more comfortable.. here is  what we've done so far: once she finishes the bottom breast, i move my lower shoulder a liitle further back - as if im getting ready to lay face forward. than i move my leg that was on top- further out and bent at the knee, resting/getting support from the bed. i am small cup size too, and this works for us so far. one thing is i need to help her getting a latch and once that is set, she takes it from there. sometimes the angle is not great so we get the latch on first as i m supporting y upper body on my elbow, than i slowly slide lower.  any one of these descriptions making sense?? 

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