October 2011 Whatever Ladies Havin' Babies! - Page 3

[MarineWife]

i agree. that's why i've stopped drinking milk and don't make my kids drink it. they use milk for their cereal and have chocolate milk sometimes but that's it. i love cheese, though. don't think i could ever give that up.

yeah, i know soybeans don't make milk. that's one reason i don't use that either.

[Baby_Cakes]

Did you ever see Meet the Parents?    I'm cracking up b/c this convo is reminding me of when he says he milks a cat and then goes, "you can milk anything with nipples." and the dad goes, "I have nipples, Greg, could you milk me?"

LOL!

[MarineWife]

LMAO...i have seen that movie. i vaguely remember that.

ethan wanted to taste my milk so i let him have some that i had collected. he said it was yucky. haha!

[onetwoten]

Carrie-- even if you can't cut it out completely, I'm sure just decreasing it would make a big difference. I feel very lucky that neither DH nor I (or anyone in my family really) have any sensitivities to foods. We do have three nieces and a nephew (all same family) that have a gluten intolerance though. I've seen just a touch of how hard that can be, and I don't envy those of you who need to be very careful with your diets. I think it's one of the reasons my SIL doesn't nurse for longer, is that she just can't continue restricting herself enough to keep the baby from getting sick. 

MW-- fights suck, but sometimes I think you're right-- it's not about the fight, it's just a matter of pent up energy that he needs to release. 

Haven't heard from Katrina, but I don't have any of you on FB-- does that mean something is happening?

Had a productive day off. I spent time in the hot tub this morning relaxing, and then had another OB appt. Totally useless, but at least I got back the results from my GD test (fine), and confirmation that she will indeed let me do my GBS swab myself (oh thank you thank you!). I haven't had to have any internals this pregnancy other than one at about 8 weeks (I was spotting and nervous, I asked for it), and I'm ok with it continuing on that way! Of course she was like "It's not a big deal, but if you test positive, then we'll have to do antibiotics". And DH and I just nodded, while in our heads, we're really like "mmm yeah, maybe. We'll see. That's not a definite to us..." But anyways, it was nice to know that she's willing to let me do it. Next appointment in three weeks, so I'll be 35. I'm guessing after that she'll move to every two weeks. 

I wrote up my c section birth plan today, just to have on hand in case. I also printed out my hospital bag packing list, and list of things to have on hand for the labor time at home. I'm not ready to start packing or anything, but it's nice to have the lists all together. I've also been working on a master to do/ to buy list. 

[MarineWife]

last post on FB from kat that i can find was 5 hours ago. nothing about having a baby yet.

[akind1]

Better to have the distraction, then sit at home and stew!

Finn us so squishy; I think Gabe didn't weigh that much until he was 6 months old or so.

Finally broke down and bought an exercise ball to bounce on. I think it's helping, and Gabe loves it too.

Hope everyone has a good Friday and weekend.

[MarineWife]

not very chatty, huh, kat? hang in there. it will happen.

nothing much here. my mom is coming to visit this weekend on short notice. she's going to boston next week to help my grandad and uncle. they live together and usually take care of each other but my uncle just went in and out of a hospital for depression. My grandad is 90-something so now neither one of them can take care of the other. Anyway, so my mother wanted to come see us before she went up there because it's been a while.

My MW is having a homebirth reunion/party this weekend so we're going to go to that. It's kind of weird to call her my MW. She did most of my prenatal care but wasn't here for my birth so I kind of feel like the other person was/is my MW. They aren't working together anymore so I'm assuming "my" MW won't be at the party. Makes not quite as much fun and a little sad because I don't know if/when I'll ever see her again.

jj ~ you are so organized. are you always like that or is it pg nesting? i used to be organized like that until i had K. he threw a serious wrench in everything. not him, personally, but the addition of child #3. now my home, my car and my life are chaos.

[Baby_Cakes]

Kat - wish you a BABY this weekend! C'mon Norah!!  The ball should help.  I LOVED my ball toward the end of pg.  Bounce, woman, bounce!!

MW - that's IS a bummer about your mw not being at the party.  Are you going to send her a gift?  Part of me wants to do the whole mw/gift thing but I feel strange about it.  Like we were more professional aquaintances than personal ones.  I'd feel weird gifting her something like a pendant necklace or a candle.  She doesn't have an office so it'd have to be something for HER and I feel odd about it.  So I prob won't do anything.  Maybe a nice thank you note or something when/if I find the time.

[MarineWife]

I did send her a gift. I made a pair of socks for both the MWs and both of their assistants. That was another sad thing. I gave the socks to the head MW and her assistant when I went for my 6 week PP check. I had to mail them to the MW who was at my birth and her assistant. I've been meaning to call her because I have some questions about my birth that only she can answer. I only think about it or find the time on the weekend and I don't want to bother her then because that's sort of supposed to be a time off from work.

I was kind of thrown because I was only expecting 3 of them at my birth so I only made 3 pairs of socks. But, as it turned out, the main MW wasn't there so it was the other MW and the 2 assistants. I had to rush to make another pair of socks after D was born because I couldn't give something to the women at my birth and not to the woman who had taken care of me the entire time before that. KWIM?

I felt/feel more of a professional relationship with the head MW. We just didn't click emotionally. I felt more of a friendship/closeness to the MW who was at my birth. I felt the same way about the MW I had for my pg with Kellen. We were friends. I really miss her. We keep in touch somewhat on FB.

Another thing I haven't done yet is send a photo of D to the OB who helped me in the very beginning. I know he and his staff would love to hear from me that all is well and he was born. Since I didn't have professional photos done, though, I can't choose a photo to print out and send to them. I was thinking of waiting until I get some 3 month photos. I'm planning to get professionals ones for that just so I have some professionally done. I don't take very good photos so mine just can't substitute. Do you think 3 months is too late? Should I try to find something from his first few weeks instead?

[Baby_Cakes]

I think a recent pic is appropriate. I felt silly using a NB pic on finns birth announcements even bc they went out a month later.

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[akind1]

I think a gift is a nice idea - even if she doesn't have an "office" per se, something professional is not a bad idea, or whatever - even a framed pic of baby would be nice. I think I'd like to get my doula something, but don't know what just yet.

Debating still on the fest this weekend . . .I mean, it runs all the way through November, openning weekend though tickets are 1/2 price. we might wait. (I mean, really hopefully I'll be having a baby and the question is moot).

Yes, bouncing and rocking and what not on the ball is awesome! Had a great time this morning at the zoo with the local babywearing playgroup. They are an awesome bunch of people. Plus my doula was there, so thought it would be great if I did go into labor just then - so convienent! but alas, not so much!

MW: I love the pics you've posted on FB. I don't think it needs to be a professional one, but I'm sure whatever you choose to do will be appreciated. The CNMs at the hospital have never met DS, as I didn't bring him with me to the PP visits, and neither has the OB that delivered him (beyond of course, the initial meeting). I feel kind of bad about that. but it is so much easier not to bring him with me.

[onetwoten]

MW-- LOL! Definately like this all the time. It drives DH nuts, but I've got a touch of OCD, and I'm all about things in their places, and organized and laid out. It makes me 'feel' better. 

[MarineWife]

Do I wake the baby? He's been sleeping for about 4 hours. He doesn't usually even sleep this long at night. I did cut his morning nap short because we had to leave to go to the park. Maybe that's all it is. I just don't want him sleeping so long during the day that he keeps me up at night again. What to do?

[Baby_Cakes]

At around 4 hours I might make noise to see if he wakes on his own. It's such a tough call! He might nurse and then fall right back to sleep. Normally, I say dont wake a sleeping baby, but I know I have encouraged a baby to wake for the reason you mentioned.

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[MarineWife]

he just woke up. whew!

i got the necklaces today. all the boys are wearing theirs. ethan is not happy about it. he thinks it looks silly. i asked him to wear it for a week. if it still bothers him, he can take it off then. i'll let you know if dylan seems to have less trouble with gas and is less fussy.

[MarineWife]

Originally Posted by jeninejessica 

MW-- LOL! Definately like this all the time. It drives DH nuts, but I've got a touch of OCD, and I'm all about things in their places, and organized and laid out. It makes me 'feel' better. 

You can come to my house and organize me anytime.

[Baby_Cakes]

Originally Posted by MarineWife 

he just woke up. whew!
i got the necklaces today. all the boys are wearing theirs. ethan is not happy about it. he thinks it looks silly. i asked him to wear it for a week. if it still bothers him, he can take it off then. i'll let you know if dylan seems to have less trouble with gas and is less fussy.

Ok cool!  Yes definitely lmk.  I just got back from whole foods -- I'm going to try to go without soy for the next few weeks.  I'm hoping it's not as hard as I think it's going to be.  Anyway, I stocked up with some other substitutes and even got coconut milk creamer for my coffee.  FXed it helps!  We go back to the ped on Monday for his re-eval.  

Finn HATES the car.  Screams the whole time.  It really, really breaks my heart but what can I do?  I have to go places.  I can't be homebound.  When do they outgrow this?  

[akind1]

I don't wake a sleeping baby either - generally speaking - but if mama needs to go somewhere, then well, I just hope babe falls back asleep in the car. DS hated the car his whole first year.

I hope this baby gives me as good a stretch sleeping early as DS did - he was doing 3-4 hour stretches from the get go I think.

JJ: go you on being organized! I'm good at getting there, but not staying organized. I live very much by the "good enough" rule.

MW: I"m curious about the necklaces too. They sound interesting!

[Baby_Cakes]

Oh - in the bathroom at whole foods, a woman commented on Finn in my wrap, and thought he was 6 MONTHS old based on his size rather than the 6 weeks old that I told her.  I said he was 9 lbs when he was born and she said, "Oh, a c-section?' and I said, "No, a natural home birth!" and she goes, "Wow, you are my hero!"  and then said that she would have loved to do that but her husband wouldn't get on board.  That's a pity, huh?  I just said it was an amazing experience, and totally different for both of my babies, who were both born at home, and she just gave me the best look.  And congratulated me and said good luck and all that.  Nice convo.  

[MarineWife]

I was lucky that Dylan went right back to sleep when I woke him this morning and put him in the car. I've been really lucky with him in the car since he was about 7 weeks or so, I think. The drive to Raleigh during the hurricane was bad at one point but after that he has barely cried at all in the car. The only time he really cries is if he's awake and we stop too long at a light but he stops crying as soon as we start moving again. He fell asleep while I was holding him at the park. I put him in the bucket carrier, took him out of that and put him in my sling, took him out of the sling and put him in the car seat, drove home, took him back out of the car seat and laying him down in the bed and he never woke up. I couldn't believe it. I wish he would do that when we stay at home.

That sounds like a pleasant encounter, Carrie. I always feel sad for women who don't get the birth they want because of their dhes. I tell my dh that, since I'm the one doing it, taking all the risk, I get to make the final decision. If he doesn't like it, too bad. Sorry but when it comes to my body I will do what's best for me regardless of what anyone else thinks. It's not an issue for us because I also wouldn't marry someone who didn't understand and accept that about me.

I know a lot of people say, "But it's his baby, too." However, at that point, it's about me birthing the baby in the safest way that I feel comfortable with. I wouldn't do something that would put my baby in danger. If my dh doesn't understand, too bad, again.