Help my DD deal with jealousy - Page 3

[philomom]

Originally Posted by Adaline'sMama 

Life is a bitch when your littler girl has been praying for a dog every night for five years and you finally have to let her have one and get over your own issues.

No, you don't.

I think many of us have covered that dogs are expensive to feed, doctor and care for. They must be housed or treated differently when vacationing and they must be walked and exercised regular. That's far too much inconvenience for a 7 year old to place on her family. The 7 year old is unlikely to scoop the poop, walk and feed the do regular.. these jobs will end up falling to the parents.. one of whom does not want a dog.

[rainbow_mandala]

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Edited by rainbow_mandala - 11/16/12 at 4:03pm

[beanma]

Originally Posted by JayGee 

Any suggestions on helping her deal with this (other than getting her a pup!)?  It breaks my heart to see her so consumed and I don't want jealousy to destroy a very good friendship.

 That's all.

This thread is like a homeschooler saying, "just homeschool" to someone who is saying, "what can I do to help my child feel better about school?" Not helpful! 

[rainbow_mandala]

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Edited by rainbow_mandala - 11/16/12 at 4:03pm

[familycastle]

I didn't read through all the replies, but I do think volunteering with the local humane society as a dog walker, and going with dd may work (if it's allowed in your area). This way she can get her fill of dogs, without having to bring one home to dh.

[Imakcerka]

Generally under 12's are not allowed to volunteer.  I think it's fine to address the root of the problem.  It's not her friend getting the dog.  That's just the icing on the cake, that's just one more unfair glare in a little girls eyes.  I asked DD1 and DD2 about this question 8 and 6.  Both agreed that it is hard to care for their pets but they love doing it.  They both know what needs to be done and do it.  Old dog needs his eyes cleaned.  He's my dog but dd2 is not squeamish and he likes her so she wipes his eyes daily.   Thinking the girl won't do most of the leg work?  Maybe, if she's told it's a job and she better do it.  Teaching her the importance of proper care generally leads to a kid feeling the need and enjoyment of caring for their pet. 

While I would respect DH's wishes if he was adamant about not having a certain kind of pet.  I would put my foot down if we decided he could have a pet he liked only.  DH wanted a cat, I had specific demands about having a cat.  As in he would relieve himself outside and he does.  We researched introducing a kitten with dogs and took the time and it worked out.  I still don't like cats but this guy knows that and leaves me alone.  We trained him to stay off counters and beds.  He's doing good and he seems very happy around the dogs.
 

Originally Posted by familycastle 

I didn't read through all the replies, but I do think volunteering with the local humane society as a dog walker, and going with dd may work (if it's allowed in your area). This way she can get her fill of dogs, without having to bring one home to dh.

[meemee]

Originally Posted by familycastle 

I didn't read through all the replies, but I do think volunteering with the local humane society as a dog walker, and going with dd may work (if it's allowed in your area). This way she can get her fill of dogs, without having to bring one home to dh.

yup i agree its an excellent idea, if the family has the time since it will be the mom volunteering and the child following. and OP i think said she works full time. 

dd's bf does exactly that. she would looooooooooooooooooooove to get a cat, reaaaaaaaaaaaaaally wants a cat but can never have one. her dad is way too super allergic to cats. they have a dog and he is fine with it. at 9 she finally does understand but it doesnt make her stop yearning for a cat. 

so since mama cant volunteer due to lack of time, often they go to the SPCA shelter and help out once in a while basis.

but it also means we have regular sleepovers at our place so she can play with our kitty.