I'm here for advice.
My DS turned 4 in July. He is never been a very easy child to deal with. But now, more and more, we are worried about him. He is always been a stubborn, willful child, in fact at 6 months when we started solids, I didn't have another route than babyled weaning because he just refused to be fed by me.
He's always been very prone to tantrums. He wasn't even 2 and he would throw a tantrum if I got out of bed before him, or if for any reason I broke the order of events the way he had displayed in his head. I rember an half an hour tantrum because he gave a bite to his apple outside the house while he should have done it before leaving the appartment and he wanted me to go back home, so he could give a bite to the apple. And I can go on and on with tons of similar examples. I had to deal with hours crying over these matters.
Now at age 4 he is much better on the tantrum side. But the behaviours are still there and my husband and I can clearly see it:
he is watching a video and I ask him to turn off the Ipad, he needs to bring the video to the almost end and then he would tell me that it's almost done. He get upset so much if he was expeting something in a certain way and doesn't happen (like waking up before the grandparents visiting, to wake them up.)
He is going to school but he has issues to socialize. He has always preferred adult company. A little it's our fault, we moved lot (he was born in the UK, moved to Italy, then to Monaco). He has to deal with 4 languages at the same time (he is fluent in 3).
Talking about feelings is very difficult for him. If I tell him I love him, he says he already knows and I don't need to tell him.
If he needs to pee, he gets hysterical but refuse to go. Now he finally sleeps through the night, otherwise we had to deal with maybe one hour tantrum in the middle of the night because he need to go to the toilet and I couldn't walk him although he was sleepy...Getting him out of nappies was very easy. Food: he doesn't like food to be mixed or hot, everything very cold. He is overall very sensitive.
I haven't looked for help so far and I'm wandering if I not helping him in this way.
Any thought is welcome.