My 5yr daughter recently started kindergarten and she has been adjusting fairly well. This is her first time ever being in a school setting. At my daughter's school, the teacher's are not allowed to help the students in the bathroom, and I completely understand that. Last week my daughter came home in tears because her teacher wouldn't help her un-do her button on her uniform pants and my daughter had an accident. She had to sit in her soiled clothing in the nurse's office until her Dad picked her up. I explained to the teacher on the first day of school that my child would need some assistance to negotiate buttons on her uniform bottoms and she assured me that she would help her, but she could not go inside the bathroom with her and that was very understandable. My daughter doesn't need help with wiping herself, she just has a issue with buttons because she can't dependably do it every time by herself (she has low hand strength in her right hand). Today I received a call at work from the nurse stating that my daughter had soiled herself again (this is the second time), so my sister went to pick her up. Prior to my sister picking her up from school, the principle was waiting in the health suite too. She told my sister that the next time my daughter has an accident in school, someone from home will have to come to the school and clean it up?!?!?! (are you kidding me). My sister also told me that my daughters shoe was off, and as she was helping my daughter with her shoe, the principle snapped and said "Let her do it herself !" as my sister continued to help. I'm so upset. When I got off of work, my little sweet baby ran up to me and wrapped her arms around my neck and asked me was I going to be mad at her....I said "No way cookie lips, mad at you for what?" and she told me that her teacher said I would be mad at her because she wet herself again. I bursted out in tears because I have NEVER reprimanded my daughter for having an accident, nor do I make her feel ashamed of herself because she had one.....I don't know what type of things these people are putting in my childs head. I feel like they are causing confusion by making her think that she's going to be in trouble because she soiled herself. I feel so helpless when it comes to dealing with this school. They even asked for all the students in my childs class to bring an extra change of clothes just in case of an accident, but was the point in sending them if they aren't going to use them??? I'm so fricking pissed off and I feel like it's all my fault. Does anyone know any good websites that I could order pull-on uniform pants/bottoms???
Thanks in advance,
Mother of One77