When I was pregnant with my dd who is now 6 I knew I wanted to breastfeed, and so I read everything I could about it, and I was determined to be successful. My mom bottle fed me and my siblings and never even tried nursing. Perhaps that's why I ended up with tubes in my ears, asthma, and allergies... I braced myself for the worst when it came to breastfeeding, but I found it soooo easy. I didn't have to make bottles, buy formula, get out of bed in the middle of the night, or worry about bottles spoiling when we went out. Milk was always fresh and available, and there was never a single bottle to wash. When she nursed she was in and out in 5-10 minutes, and I loved that time we spent together. She was a wild and crazy little baby, and when she was nursing was the only time I ever got to just hold her! I'm not much of a drinker, but I did have a drink when I wanted one. I never felt like I wasn't me. I'm really hoping nursing goes as well this time, but if it doesn't, that's okay too. I'll still do my absolute best to make it work for both of us, and savor the time while it lasts. They wean way too fast :(
As for diapering, I did disposables with her because I just didn't know any better. This time we're planning cloth. Every single newborn poopy diaper I had meant an entire wardrobe change and often a bath anyway. How she managed to get poop in her hair is still a mystery to me. I figure I'll already be doing laundry every day, why add taking out stinky trash to my list of to-dos! At this point I'm only committed to the 3 months it'll take the cloth diapers to pay for themselves. After that, the diaper budget will go to getting me a new washer and dryer instead of crap I'm throwing away. Besides, cloth diapers are adorable, better for the environment, and better for my baby. I'm really excited to cloth diaper, and I hope it's something I have no problems sticking too (I'm really lazy and hate laundry)
Be realistic about your expectations for yourself. Determine ahead of time how much nursing difficulties you're willing to endure, and what you'll do if you do have problems. Decide how long you're willing to try cloth for. If you absolutely hate it after a couple of months, then don't make yourself miserable by continuing. Above all, babies need happy parents. Do embrace your crunchy self, and tell people who ask confidently about your choices. They might think differently than you, but that might just be because they haven't considered other options yet either. I was introduced to cloth diapering by a complete and total stranger (I asked about her kid's diapers, and she confidently told me why she was had made the choice) Research your options so you're mentally prepared for the challenges you might have. Hopefully you'll end up pleasantly surprised with how easy you've made your life because of the choices you've made. Also, get used to smiling and nodding. A coworker of mine just recommended her diaper bag because it had built-in insulated diaper pockets. My family will always think my choices are crazy, and that's okay.