I have 2 DD's, 3.5 and 16 mo. and lately we're having so many issues that I'm worried that they don't/won't like each other. DD1 does the usual big sister stuff, like the occational push, hit, etc. It's dealt with by removing her from the situation and reinforcing that "we treat each other with love and kindness." She's really not too bad and is mostly doting all over her and cheering her on for taking steps, talking, etc.
However, it's DD2 that worries me-she shrieks whenever DD1 comes near her. I guess she's scared by some of her previous hits/pushes (none of which have ever been bad), but it's awful. Yesterday we were in the grocery store and DD2 was in the cart and DD1 was helping me push the cart and DD2 screamed at the top of her lungs the whole time because DD1's hands were touching the bar of the cart. The whole time DD1 is saying "It's OK Claire, I'm just helping push the cart" and she's so sweet to her.
I'm an only child and always wished for a sister and I just want them to like each other, and I'm afraid that DD2 hates DD1. I guess I'm wondering what is a normal level of sibling rivalry (if that's what this is) and if it means anything about their future relationship.
Any suggestions on how to handle DD2 when she constantly pulls hair, pushes, and shreiks would be greatly appreciated. I can't even read a book to both of them or do any activities where they're both close each other because DD2 freaks out. Please help!! Thanks so much!