The kids' dad lives two hours away. He sees them every other weekend. Four kids came home with zero raincoats and three pairs of boots (not four).
It seems unfair for me to have to come up with a second set of raincoats.
It seems unfair to the kids to condemn them to ten days without raincoats because their dad couldn't be bothered to make sure they returned with the kids.
It seems unfair to the kids for me to tell them they can't bring their raincoats to their dad's house in the future.
It seems reasonable for me to expect this might happen again.
What is the right thing to do here?
What about their woolen long johns, wool socks, snowpants, winter boots, hats, mittens, winter coats???
I am on a very tight budget, in part because he hasn't gotten child support to me yet, and it shouldn't be my job to provide two of these things, right?
But my poor kids - I want them warm and dry.
I don't feel I can trust him to keep track of their valuable stuff - he lives in a cohousing community with a ton of other kids. It's hard enough keeping track of their stuff when they stay at one friend's house, let alone when they're at a perpetual block party.
I'm tempted to say they can't take their expensive woolens to their dad's house. (Where he lives, the heat is up to 70 all the time anyway - where we live, we keep it at 55-60 in winter, so they NEED their woolens here.)
Argh. What is the MOST reasonable, fair, right, responsible thing to do in this situation?